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COMMON COURTESY - 2/24/2011 7:50:41 AM   
HypnoDron


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Status: offline 		Why is it so had for people to give even just a short reply back to someone who has taken his/her time to contact them.
Do people not know that we can find out whether or not you have read a message the we had sent them?

This is what deters me from these online sites. People are just so damn RUDE.
Show a little bit of courtesy people and reply back to someone who has taken the time to write to you. I've had lots of people read my messages and just ignor me in the hopes that I'll go away. Or that I'm not there quote RIGHT MATERIAL of a sub/slave. Well you know it goes both ways. If at a future time you deside to read your messages from others in the hopes that you'll grab a hit. Well for me if I recognize your name...I won't respond back to your reply just as you haven't with mine. It goes both ways people communication is a key factor. Even if it is a 1 word response that is a response.
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RE: COMMON COURTESY - 2/24/2011 7:52:24 AM   
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RE: COMMON COURTESY - 2/24/2011 7:59:10 AM   
windchymes


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Status: offline 		Ranting threads are rude, too. Just sayin'.

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RE: COMMON COURTESY - 2/24/2011 8:00:22 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Try working on your anger issues first.  And accept the fact that the women on this site are bombarded and may not have the time to reply to you. 

Your desire for hypnosis is very much an unusual kink.  I'm surprised that you have many Dommes to contact.


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RE: COMMON COURTESY - 2/24/2011 8:03:41 AM   
RCdc


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Status: offline 		Greetings HypnoDron

No reply is a response to your letter. If something is read and not responded to within say, 48 hours, then just chalk it up to no interest.
If you are writing to women, then please understand that most women get so many mails a day, it's hard to keep up.


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RE: COMMON COURTESY - 2/24/2011 8:07:27 AM   
angelikaJ


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quote:

ORIGINAL: HypnoDron

Why is it so had for people to give even just a short reply back to someone who has taken his/her time to contact them.
Do people not know that we can find out whether or not you have read a message the we had sent them?

It goes both ways people communication is a key factor. Even if it is a 1 word response that is a response.


And no response is a response.

Most of the people here have involved and busy lives.

What you do not understand is that while you may have sent out 15 emails that day, the person who received it may have gotten 50.
What you do not understand is that many women who frequently used to respond to each email with a polite "thanks but no thanks."often got abusive replies in return.

Please do not mistake silence for "rudeness".

They are being polite under the circumstance of not having a crystal ball and knowing what kind of reply they may get in response to your interpretation of proper etiquette.

< Message edited by angelikaJ -- 2/24/2011 8:09:26 AM >

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RE: COMMON COURTESY - 2/24/2011 8:12:59 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Oh yay! Another whiny dude pissing about those rude lowly submissive women not throwing themselves at his lordly feet. 

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RE: COMMON COURTESY - 2/24/2011 8:16:57 AM   
rulemylife


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Status: offline 		Did you ever think it might be your painfully obvious lack of writing skills that are causing the problem?

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RE: COMMON COURTESY - 2/24/2011 8:44:13 AM   
poise


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quote:

ORIGINAL: HypnoDron
BlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlah
BlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlah I've had lots of
people read my messages and just ignor me in the hopes that I'll go away. BlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlah BlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlah
It goes both ways people communication is a key factor. BlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlahBlah


It seems to me that you are playing a numbers game, and by writing to
lots of peopleyou feel you are improving your chances of a hit. Unfortunately,
this means you aren't really taking the time to add anything of substance in your messages.
So, we get a message from you that doesn't trigger an ounce of interest,
but our curiousity may inspire us to look at your profile. And when we do....yikes!
No wonder most hope you just go away. You could easily remove all
the text in your profile and just write Do me. It would read the same.

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RE: COMMON COURTESY - 2/24/2011 8:44:30 AM   
myotherself


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quote:

ORIGINAL: HypnoDron

Even if it is a 1 word response that is a response.



Bollocks.


Happy now?

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RE: COMMON COURTESY - 2/24/2011 8:45:34 AM   
poise


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Oh yay! Another whiny dude pissing about those rude lowly submissive women not throwing themselves at his lordly feet. 

Nah uh! This time he is whining about the Dominant Women!
*faints*

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RE: COMMON COURTESY - 2/24/2011 9:03:54 AM   
JstAnotherSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: HypnoDron

Why is it so had for people to realize that no reply back to someone who has taken his/her time to contact them is a reply.Do people not know that we can find out whether or not you have read a message the we had sent them? Do they not know that most don't care if you can see if they read your message, and you aint special, nor deserving of a reply?

This is what deters me from these online sites. People are just so damn RUDE. Like they expect to get a reply from every moron who they send a one-liner to, or to get a reply from someone who clearly states not looking or someone who can tell, from the note they receive, that the sender is a wacko who can not control his emotions and would be likely to stomp his foot and whine if he didn't get his way!

Show a little bit of courtesy people and reply back to someone who has taken the time to write to you, even if that person has no class and proves him self to not even be able to control his self..

I've had lots of people read my messages and just ignor me in the hopes that I'll go away. Yet, because I am somewhat psychotic, I will not be ignored! Or that I'm not there quote RIGHT MATERIAL of a sub/slave. Well you know it goes both ways. If at a future time you deside to read your messages from others in the hopes that you'll grab a hit. Well for me if I recognize your name...I will respond back to your reply and hope like hell you have forgotten my little hissy fit here and hope that you will allow me to be yer one twue subbie, cause I am perfect!. It goes both ways people communication is a key factor. Even if it is a 1 word response that is a response. Even if that reply says I can tell from reading your profile, you have many issues you need to fix from within, before you can even think of submitting to someone else.


fixed it for ya OP

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RE: COMMON COURTESY - 2/24/2011 9:04:38 AM   
LillyBoPeep


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Status: offline 		you haven't written to me (we're both s-types) but i want to offer advice anyway --

you're placing an expectation on people you don't know; you really don't have a right to do that. or well, you can DO that, but you shouldn't be inordinately attached to it.
you expect that people should respond to you, just because you took time and wrote to them, but, you don't really have reason to assume that that outcome will happen. like others have said, you might send out 15 messages to 15 people who's inboxes are loaded to the brim.

well what kind of messages are you writing?
it's hard to reply to 50 "hi how r u" messages in a day. you get tired of it. i dont get 50 messages a day every day, but i have before intermittently and it was just a "WTF?" experience. i don't think i replied to all of them because, what do you say to that?

a lot of people think that just writing "hi" is communication and it isn't. what is there about you that makes you stand out? are you messaging women with whom you have no mutual interests? are you reading profiles and responding to interesting things in them? are you taking the time to get to know a smidge about a person before you message them?
and if you send out so many that you get that "**this user has triggered our bulk blah blah blah**" message, then you can be pretty sure that you won't get many replies.

people dont like to feel like they're "just one of many." sometimes when you're the one doing the message-sending, you have to find ways to set yourself out; what's something interesting about you that could draw someone in? what's something interesting about that person from their profile that you could mention so that they know you actually read the damn thing?
people like to feel like you're contacting them because you're actually interested in THEM, not just the idea of them.

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RE: COMMON COURTESY - 2/24/2011 9:18:14 AM   
LaTigresse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: poise


quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Oh yay! Another whiny dude pissing about those rude lowly submissive women not throwing themselves at his lordly feet. 

Nah uh! This time he is whining about the Dominant Women!
*faints*


That shows how much attention I was paying........I read it as HypnoDom.


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RE: COMMON COURTESY - 2/24/2011 9:18:51 AM   
sirsholly


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quote:

ORIGINAL: HypnoDron

Why is it so had for people to give even just a short reply back to someone who has taken his/her time to contact them.
It's not "had" at all. Deal with the fact that some have no desire to respond to you.

quote:


Do people not know that we can find out whether or not you have read a message the we had sent them?
Yes. And people do not care.

quote:


This is what deters me from these online sites.
BYE!!

quote:

People are just so damn RUDE.
My name is Holly and i am reaffirming your belief.

quote:


Show a little bit of courtesy people and reply back to someone who has taken the time to write to you. I've had lots of people read my messages and just ignor me in the hopes that I'll go away.

Bet a lot of them block you as well as ignore you.

quote:

Or that I'm not there quote RIGHT MATERIAL of a sub/slave.
Right material? I don't think you could make it into the remnant bin.

quote:

Well you know it goes both ways. If at a future time you deside to read your messages from others in the hopes that you'll grab a hit. Well for me if I recognize your name...I won't respond back to your reply just as you haven't with mine.
*GASP* You CAD!!!
quote:


It goes both ways people communication is a key factor. Even if it is a 1 word response that is a response.
And no response is also a response. No one owes you anything, and that includes a response to unsolicited mail.

And an FYI...anyone that does not care enough about his initial presentation and impression is not worthy of my time. If your post is an example of the sloppy cmails you are sending, you would be deleted after the first typo.


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RE: COMMON COURTESY - 2/24/2011 9:26:29 AM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		Attention People of Earth:

From now on, everytime someone comes to the forums to whine about why everyone is so rude, you will be automatically zapped and sent up to Anna, High Commander of the lizard nation of V and also a kick ass Domme.

She will then send your sorry ass to be either food or breeding material.

And then all your problems will be solved, because no one, NO ONE, is as rude as Anna.



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RE: COMMON COURTESY - 2/24/2011 9:31:30 AM   
gungadin09


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Status: offline 		Different rules apply for online behavior. In real life if you walked up to someone, said a polite "hello", and they flat out ignored you- it would be rude. But this is the internet, some people get lots of mail, and besides, there are some real creeps on this site. Don't take it personally, it's just... different rules apply here.

Having said that, if you really sit around watching to see who has read your mail and responded, only to get worked up about it, then you need to get a life.

pam

P.S.- Now that i think about it, those rules sometimes apply in real life too. Let's say you're a woman alone at a club, and this whole line of guys that you don't want to talk to keeps hitting on you. i think at some point you'd say, fuck it, and stop even answering them. Because there are too many of them, and the fact that they won't leave you alone is really cramping your style, and any degree of "common courtesy" is viewed as encouragement. Or, you could tell them you're not interested and get called a bitch.

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RE: COMMON COURTESY - 2/24/2011 9:34:04 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Anybody else that came back to this thread want to make bets on how long it takes for another screen name that starts with "Hypno" to make an appearance?

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RE: COMMON COURTESY - 2/24/2011 9:36:44 AM   
came4U


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From: London, Ontario
Status: offline 		Yanno what is RUDE??

1. Assuming people (subs, women watevaahh) are OBLIGATED to reply to YOU.

2. Profile info that is HIGHLIGHTED, omg my eyes r burning.

3. Someone claiming to be looking for 'friends and partners' (yet, 'looking for someone'.OR a room mate.  Awe, how special.

4. Someone who wants a partner yet is willing to 'kick in funds for the rent, cable, phone etc' .  What is this,...a summer college rental?  Essh, some maturity would be nice.

5.  The recently separated thang.  She found another man and called it quits? TMI

6. You want what? "I want all traces of humanity wiped from my mind and reprogrammed to your liking"
call Guantanamo Bay.  seriously.

7. I gotta headache now., forget 7

*also, this "I won't respond back to your reply just as you haven't with mine." nonsense.

well neener neener boo boo to you too!!  So much for the prospect of the maturity I suggested.


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RE: COMMON COURTESY - 2/24/2011 9:53:00 AM   
SexyBossyBBW


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Status: offline 		This is why I don't love the ability to see if one's read an email, or the deleted unread capability.   It usually makes slightly crazy people very angry.    M

E.T.A: To be fair, courtesy is a good thing to have; but sometimes when we are courteous enough to say, no thanks, you (generic) take it as an invite to continue emailing/complaining. 


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