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fastlane -> RE: other than looks..what turns you on?or off? (5/5/2006 10:30:28 AM)

Turn ons....a true submissive....not one that only uses it to her advantage.
Turn offs...Bad Breath



MistressSassy66 -> RE: other than looks..what turns you on?or off? (5/5/2006 12:51:47 PM)

Major turn offs in no particular order are:

1. bad breath
2. BO
3. too clingy
4. too pushy
5. drinks alcohol everyday
6. bad attitude
7. cigarette breath



RavenMuse -> RE: other than looks..what turns you on?or off? (5/5/2006 1:03:19 PM)

Not being self aware, not being honest with either themself or me, blowing hot and cold, lack of effort, being too much caught up in fantasy and not dealing with reality, hiding from problems rather than sorting them out..... all things that can loose my patience and interest in a relativly short space of time even where everything else maybe perfect.



LaTigresse -> RE: other than looks..what turns you on?or off? (5/5/2006 1:07:56 PM)

Very good points Raven, and here I was thinking of the obvious as usual, and missing the mega obvious.



justatoy2 -> RE: other than looks..what turns you on?or off? (5/5/2006 1:18:49 PM)

whiney people turn me off, bad breath, and extreme arrogance.



RavenMuse -> RE: other than looks..what turns you on?or off? (5/5/2006 1:50:05 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
Very good points Raven, and here I was thinking of the obvious as usual, and missing the mega obvious.


[:)] Well things like BO are easy to deal with... I'm a Dom, they are a sub.... just tell her to run a bath, dump her in it and tell her that if you have to do it again you will be very displeased (And using a scrubbing brush next time) problem sorted!

Things such as I mentioned are a little harder to deal with, they may even have the inclination to submit but if they simply won't put in the effort to do so then you are pretty much beating your head against a brick wall trying to force them.



slavejali -> RE: other than looks..what turns you on?or off? (5/5/2006 2:11:41 PM)

Turn-offs

1. Using addictions to cope with life (anything from alcholism to drug use)
2. Undisciplined nature.
3. Mean spirited people.
4. Propensity towards blaming others rather than accepting self-responsibility.
5. Depressive type personalities.

Turn-ons

1. Having a good life attitude
2. Having self-discipline.
3. Having a caring attitude towards others.
4. Taking self-responsibility
5. Having applied wisdom.
6. Having the ability to dominate a partner, namely me.
7. Having an adventurous fun attitude towards sex, a passionate personality.
8. Not being afraid of hard work (I really love the smell of a hard working man).
9. A certain kind of arrogance.(not sure if that is exactly the right word, but pretty close)
10. Being able to laugh at yourself and not take life too seriously...yet being a totally responsible individual.
11. I really get turned on by a man who can put his hand to anything (not just my ass)...but one thats really skilled and willing to learn skills in lotsa areas.

ok, posting this, I could go on and on and on.... *grin*



Manawyddan -> RE: other than looks..what turns you on?or off? (5/6/2006 7:26:16 AM)

I once broke up with a woman because her arguments were unsound.

I once broke up with a woman for excessive passivity.

Another thing I would add, is a lack of care about one's own health and well-being.



Phoenixandnika -> RE: other than looks..what turns you on?or off? (5/6/2006 8:33:43 AM)

  1. Attitudes
  2. Drug  use
  3. Alchohol abuse
  4. Lies and Deciet
  5. Poor hygien
  6. Clutter bug
  7. Racism
  8. Stupidity or pure ignorance
  9. Lack of self control
  10. Lack of self respect

 
Phoenix's Nika



Wolf1020 -> RE: other than looks..what turns you on?or off? (5/6/2006 11:13:20 AM)

I'm pretty easy to get along with but there are a few things.

Mainly it is just the slaves attitude in general. 

Another is punishment seeking. 



sabswife -> RE: other than looks..what turns you on?or off? (5/6/2006 3:27:16 PM)

Bad hygiene is definately my number one turn off -- ick!

Turn on... number one with a man its strong arms.  Both sexes, eyes.. you can see everything in a persons eyes :)





TemptingNviceSub -> RE: other than looks..what turns you on?or off? (5/6/2006 5:59:24 PM)

Turn ons:
1.sexy voice
2.confidence
3.observant
4.caring
5.imagination
Turn offs:
1.lack of control
2.lack of self awareness
3.lazy
4.emotionless
5.poor hygiene
I am thinking its safe to say all who have responded to this think that hygiene is a major factor..I wonder why it needs to be said so frequently?..could it be ....GASP...that people are not bathing?...[:'(]..be well..Tempting



unquenchable -> RE: other than looks..what turns you on?or off? (5/6/2006 6:41:19 PM)

Turn ons...

A sense of humor.
Intellegence
A good attitude toward life in general.

Turn offs..

A bad attitude toward life in general.
Huge egos
Whining.

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CrappyDom -> RE: other than looks..what turns you on?or off? (5/6/2006 7:05:19 PM)

Massive turn off, a woman who cannot walk with grace or who wears high heals but cannot walk in them, if you can't walk in them, don't wear them.

Turn on, a woman who loves her body, is proud of it, and who walks with grace and poise regardless of her size.



truesub4u -> RE: other than looks..what turns you on?or off? (5/6/2006 7:21:00 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ladychatterley
Someone who tries to "dominate" by putting me down.  If you really think I'm stupid, or ugly, why would you want to go out with me? 


I seen this... and couldn't keep going. This caught my attention more than everyone elses.... mainly because they all agreed on the same things... LOL But I love it when someone says something that stands out.

I was talking to this one Dom... we were hitting it off real good. Met him at a local dungeon party in Houston when I was living there. One night we were begining a nice scene... and he refered to me as his big fat slutty pig. You could smell the rubber burning as I slammed on my brakes. I stood up and asked him WTF did you just say to me??? When he repeated it... I got up.... got dressed... and walked out. He called me later that night and asked me... WTF is your problem.. I told him... if you think of me as a big fat pig... WTF you doing with me? He called me a stupid bitch and I should of known he was kidding..... big fat pig and stupid... LOL... damn... and he wonders why I refused to talk to him anymore?..... [:D][:D][:D][:D]

So I have to agree with you on this... not about to allow someone to dominate me that feels this way at all.



BreakingGlass -> RE: other than looks..what turns you on?or off? (5/6/2006 7:47:37 PM)

Turns on:
Number one turn on for me is what's between the ears.  Like many a movie zombie, I crave BRRRAAAAIIIIIIINNNNSSSSSSSS.  Not necessarily stuffy book learning (don't get me wrong, that's sexy too), but the willingness to use that big pink spongy thing.

A slightly skewed sense of humor is also a definite plus.  I've never been much attracted to the "huh huh huh, look at me I'm the class clown" type of humor, but a wickedly sharp sense of humor helps much.  (I don't have much of a sense of humor, but when certain things strike me the right way it's such a good feeling.)

A man who likes cats because he likes cats and not because he tolerates them for the sake of attracting women, a plus.

Turn offs:
Purposeful ignorance, or a pig-headed closed mind.

"Casual cruelty" to animals.

Those who think they are God's gift to women/men/the world.  A big ego just isn't sexy.

Hardcore sports fan.  Does nothing for me.




akisha -> RE: other than looks..what turns you on?or off? (5/6/2006 8:06:18 PM)

I'm a sucker for an accent *s*  and strong hands



MissAdele -> RE: other than looks..what turns you on?or off? (5/6/2006 8:09:45 PM)

turn ons mmmm
good behaviour

turn offs
bad attitude,
funky smells,
bad breath,



cuddleheart50 -> RE: other than looks..what turns you on?or off? (5/6/2006 9:50:16 PM)

Turn ons....A good smelling man....I was in Walmart the other day and a man walked past me, and he smelled so good that I wanted to chase him down....mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm



UtopianRanger -> RE: other than looks..what turns you on?or off? (5/6/2006 10:06:54 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: redpetals

Someone mentioned voice as a turn on .and a deep calm voice is attractive to me too...smiles..sighs..
But what about a turn off?
Do you have a deal breaker?
Smells are affecting me more as I age.
Bad breath is something I can not get past .I dont mind ,and actually like it, if it's garlicky or something..but unbrushed ,and neglected is just funky..ewww
I love heavy beers but not on a man's breath.
I love wine breath..Or bourbon breath...yummy
My favorite  is fruit breath , like pear breath...mmmm...
BO kills me,because it causes an immediate,rather intense reaction in me.. unless  it's on someone I am already hot for..then it can be pure bliss.








Other than the obvious things that everyone else has mentioned, I don't like ''cold'' people at all. Having grown up with a bunch gregarious Pisans, a cold arrogance really turns me off.


 - R



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