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Doing something special for your Dom/Domme? - 10/6/2004 7:38:56 AM

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i was just wondering if there is anything special that you do when preparing to meet with a Dom/Domme for "play". Rather it be a new Dom/Domme, someone You have seen before or Master/Mistress - but going to be a special night.

Maybe a surprize you have planned?

Maybe it's His/Her Birthday and want to do something special?

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RE: Doing something special for your Dom/Domme? - 10/6/2004 8:58:50 AM

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Well there is always the dressing for them in something special, either a short skirt with no panties and thigh highs or something equally as enticing.

you can pack a little picnic basket of assorted food and pervertables, and susprise them.

there is soft music and candle light for the place you are meeting and if they drink, there favorite beverage or snack or food.

For my former dom i would light the candles and i made myself a red velvet choker, and added bells to the nipple clamps and pussy clamps i was wearing.

Had a gotten matching bra with nipples cut out and crotchless panties that sort of stuff

bought roses with thorns lol never got to use them but got them lol

held a rose in my teeth kneeling at the door with bells on

For one occasion i hid all his presents under the coffee table and while all dressed sat at his feet and handed him the gifts which got me a kiss for each one lol.

Bought his favorite things and surprised him with one for no reason like he was into M&M;s so i went crazy buying all sorts of M&M stuff lol and would have one thing there waiting

I learned how to cook columbian food (he was) and surprised him one night.

OH I tried to make a spanking bench and got myself sort of tied into it and had the lights out and no candles lit so the first thing he saw was my ass greeting him lolol of course with toys all prepared and laid out for him to use.

Sigh those were fun days! thanks for helping me to remember!

Good luck i am sure you will post some more ideas for us!

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RE: Doing something special for your Dom/Domme? - 10/8/2004 12:13:17 AM

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Heh. You should be careful about surprises...

I remember once I had arranged a surprise for my wife. I had spent the afternoon getting everything ready. The house was artfully arranged, supper was superb (and filled with all of her favorites). I had a drink ready to go the moment she walked in the door. I was naked except for cuffs, collar, and an apron (to avoid splatters... also because she thought I looked cute wearing nothing but an apron). I had bought a couple of teddy bears and dressed them up in bondage gear. Scented candles were lit, I had the good china out and ready to go.

She had invited her boss over for dinner and failed to warn me.

I just thank god he was a friend of ours and as big a perv as we are! That scene could have ended so badly...

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RE: Doing something special for your Dom/Domme? - 10/8/2004 12:47:18 AM

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When meeting a Domme for the first 'play' time, which is usually the second or third meeting, there's alwayz a week of no orgasm ... it definately heightens the anxiety and intensity whether a Domme-induced orgasm is in the works or not. Most Dommes I've played with have required me to be shaved, so there's also that aspect. Probably the most important thing is to take a thorough shower ahead of time. There's also the issue of a cleansing enema if anal play is anticipated.

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RE: Doing something special for your Dom/Domme? - 10/9/2004 8:36:26 AM

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Suleiman that is funny, i don't think i would have taken it well as you did :) unless He wanted to join in! *grins*

i love doing special things for a Dom-- The Dom i have been chatting with (right now not sure if i will see Him again or not -- for another thread LOL) wants me to take His Birthday spankings for Him.. He is 37 so that is 37 strokes and 1 to grow on (whoa) not sure if i will ever get them at this point but if W/we do make it together again i would like to do something special for Him other then taking His birthday spankings! Of course i do have a present waiting for Him (something He mentioned He wanted) He has mentioned before how the sub being already tied up naked is a turn on for Him so that is a good possibility - i may have to talk with my Mentor about helping me with that *grins*

Thanks for the wonderful ideas so far - hope to hear more!

o ya i also do a cleansing enema if anal play is anticipated, i giggled when i read that because i thought i was just strange.

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RE: Doing something special for your Dom/Domme? - 10/9/2004 10:47:51 AM

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I've been watching this post since you posted it Jenn. +Wondering what people would come up with. Knowing myself, all I could come up with is basic instinct. I know my Dom and I know what he likes. So, I know if planning a surprise how not to go overboard. I know what excites him.
He is differnet than others though. So, whatever I would suggest probably would not be something you or anyone else would try.

For instance,
Generally I go to work in jeans...shorts. Casual. So, it is wonderful to him to see me in a dress. It gets him excited to know other men are looking at me. It bother's me. So, it is something a bit rough for me to do.
I know his favorite dinners to start with. Favorite sports teams or places to hang out. I sometimes know what is going on in his mind as he is thinking it. I can tell by his mere expression what is going on within his head. Whether he is sad...happy..or what.
This has taken us much time to get to this place. I remember back when we first met he used to tell people how much work it was, but he always prefaced it by saying it was worth it.

So, what would I do? I guess I would get dressed up and invite some of our good friends over. When they left. The toy bag would be in the bedroom open. Maybe specific toys would be removed. If we ended up playing perhaps I'd give him a nice massage. Rub his feet.

Tame considered to most standards but..we are differnt than most.

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RE: Doing something special for your Dom/Domme? - 10/9/2004 6:05:24 PM

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Suleiman that is funny, i don't think i would have taken it well as you did :) unless He wanted to join in! *grins*

Well... he was very understanding, and I make no apologies for being who I am.

::grins:: besides... you should have seen the look on her face...

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RE: Doing something special for your Dom/Domme? - 10/9/2004 9:58:39 PM

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*smiles*

i thought about E/everyone’s ideas being more of something "just for them" but figured i would get couple good ideas and i have :)

Not that it matter now *sad look* i knew it was coming to a end and it has so i wont be seeing this Dom anymore.

But i still would love to hear more ideas because someday i will find the right one *grins*

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RE: Doing something special for your Dom/Domme? - 10/9/2004 10:30:08 PM

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Well, okay... I've always been a bit of a romantic. So far as "Special Things" I do to get someone's attention, whether I'm courting them or currently involved, I'm rather fond of the old classics. Leaving them a gift or note in an unexpected place - preferably some place that leaves them wondering how you got it there. Keep in mind, this leaves you dancing on the ragged edge of "scary stalker", since it does involve things like sneaking into their office or apartment while they're away. Make sure such intrusions are welcome or they'll call the cops on you.

Serenading is nice, tho it does tend to get the neighbors to throw stuff

Flowers are always good, and can be used in a variety of ways. A bouquet at the office, flower petals strewn on the bed, a flower of the same sort clutched impishly between your teeth as you deliver your best come-hither look... I once constructed a steel rose from a plastic flower (spraypainted gunmetal) and some barbed wire and used it (along with a keychain whip and some miniature thumb cuffs) to decorate a package that I left on somebody's doorstep

Never underestimate the value of home made chocolates. If you have a microwave oven, you can melt chocolate without burning it and pour it into molds. Customs molds are easy to make - you can use gelatine (use very little water so that it's got the consistancy of a "knox block") to make a negative mold of something, and then pour chocolate into the cavity to make a fairly detailed replica. The effort almost never fails to impress.

If you have a photogenic body (which, alas, I do not) boudoire photos are always nice, and with modern digital technology you can put them in some truly unexpected places.

Teddy bears or other similar items make lovely "avatars". They're cute enough to leave on a desk without making folks too suspicious, and they're nicely symbolic of how you'd like to be viewed (or how you view the person you're courting). You can get "harley davidson" bears (or some other similar commercial property) wearing the classic leather uniform, and then easily dress them up with a few "toys".

Spontenaity is never a bad thing. Come up with something spur of the moment. It can be sweet, it can be kinky, but some times an outrageous display of affection is the most effective means of getting someone's attention. Play to your strengths and to whatever you may know about their particular tastes. For example - I'm not much of a crossdresser, but the missus has a real thing for sissyboys. I got her attention by showing up at a new years eve party that I knew she'd be attending, in as close to full drag as I could manage on the spur of the moment. She never left my side until the next afternoon

. Obviously, that particular trick probably won't work so well for you, but it's an example of how someone's kink can be used against them. The missus still melts when I show up in a skirt and high heels (now if only I didn't look like I was nine months pregnant... oh well... diet and exercise, diet and exercise)

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RE: Doing something special for your Dom/Domme? - 10/9/2004 10:48:35 PM

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Maybe it's His/Her Birthday and want to do something special?

For my first dom's birthday i gave him gift bag with whip cream, chocolate sauce and a jar of cherries (plus a gift certicate to Lovers Package). We had a lot of fun with those items. However when i had to break it off with him he gave the gift certificate back to me so i saved it for Hubby's birthday LOL, fortunately it didn't have a name on it.

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RE: Doing something special for your Dom/Domme? - 10/10/2004 8:29:51 AM

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ORIGINAL: subbiejenn

*smiles*

i thought about E/everyone’s ideas being more of something "just for them" but figured i would get couple good ideas and i have :)

Not that it matter now *sad look* i knew it was coming to a end and it has so i wont be seeing this Dom anymore.

But i still would love to hear more ideas because someday i will find the right one *grins*

JENNNNNNNN!!!

Big Giant Roe hugs to you!

I am sorry things didnt work out, but as we all say with hope, you will find the one and have a grand old time seaching. Come on if you cant get a laugh out of some of the profiles, what else are they good for???

If ya need anything you know where we all are.

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