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AAkasha -> Asskissing (3/1/2011 12:35:21 PM)
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No, not the physical kind.
But 'asskissing' - as in a person giving a ton of compliments or fawning - what do femdoms think of this, and what have sub men observed as far as whether a dominant women wants this / responds positively to it, or generally if femdoms seem to be put off / annoyed by it.
And in this case, I am not talking about obvious, packaged asskissing, like physical compliments for no reason or just repetitive fawning. I am talking about more subtle asskissing, like a sub always agreeing with you, or quietly pushing your agenda, or sliding in very under-the-radar affirmations in an attempt to win favor. Everyone can recognize obvious asskissing; but there's much more subtle asskissing that goes around. How do femdoms feel about it?
I'm subject to a lot of asskissing in professional situations because I do some work that involves people trying to get me to give them things, and these people are often professional asskissers. This means they are very good at it, but I have done this for a long time and I can see it coming a mile away. To that end, I tend to get very cautious of someone asskissing me professionally, and it makes me perhaps a little more guarded. When I have someone in a professional environment being this way to me, I don't treat them differently, but in the back of my head, I am cautious of an agenda, and expect one to be revealed. This is in an area totally unrelated to kink.
It makes me wonder, though, if some dominant women have become a bit jaded also, thinking that if a man is agreeing with them, they are working an agenda.
What about public asskissing; when a man is doing this in front of people, do you ever tell him to knock it off, or do you just accept it graciously?
Is "asskissing" - when you identify it as such - something you instead think of as complimentary as a whole, and charming, while a little misguided?
Are you able to take a compliment as sincere, or do you worry?
Akasha
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