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RE: Marrying a Mistress, taking her last name ? - 3/10/2011 9:03:52 AM

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When people are married, the change of a woman's name is just by the doing of it. An actual legal change is unnecessary in the USA. Or that's how it was a few years ago.

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RE: Marrying a Mistress, taking her last name ? - 3/10/2011 6:43:06 PM

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You can change your name by common usage here--I added a middle name when I was a teen. The only hitch is making sure your tax return name matches the name on your social security card.

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RE: Marrying a Mistress, taking her last name ? - 3/10/2011 8:32:04 PM

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why doesn't he just change his name to something they both like and then when they marry she can take his name and they will both be happy

I have friends who did this. When they got married, they both changed their last names to his step-father's name. Not because of any actual hatred towards his dad, but because his step-dad was always there for him, and was very important to him. It meant a lot to him to have the same last name as his step-dad (his dad would not allow an adoption before he was 18, and at that point, he and his girlfriend decided to wait until they got married, which they did after they both graduated from college).

@ Sunshine - I don't know about where you are, but at least in IN, IL, and MI, there is legal paperwork that must be done to legally change the wife's name after a marriage. It is an actual legal change if you want to have valid driver's license, valid insurance, valid professional license, your car/house/whatever in the correct name. If it's not done, then that allows loopholes for unscrupulous people to screw you over.

@ Dastan - you're assuming that Lady Hib wouldn't propose herself ... lol

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RE: Marrying a Mistress, taking her last name ? - 3/10/2011 10:27:18 PM

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one can take the others name or hyphenate it or change it altogether. the origin of the female taking the males name was to show that she was his property and that dates back thousands of years ago. it is only done today for tradition only so no matter the reason if that is what will bring the 2 of you the most happiness then do so

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RE: Marrying a Mistress, taking her last name ? - 3/11/2011 8:23:11 AM

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ORIGINAL: SweetDommes

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ORIGINAL: Jennislut

why doesn't he just change his name to something they both like and then when they marry she can take his name and they will both be happy

I have friends who did this. When they got married, they both changed their last names to his step-father's name. Not because of any actual hatred towards his dad, but because his step-dad was always there for him, and was very important to him. It meant a lot to him to have the same last name as his step-dad (his dad would not allow an adoption before he was 18, and at that point, he and his girlfriend decided to wait until they got married, which they did after they both graduated from college).

@ Sunshine - I don't know about where you are, but at least in IN, IL, and MI, there is legal paperwork that must be done to legally change the wife's name after a marriage. It is an actual legal change if you want to have valid driver's license, valid insurance, valid professional license, your car/house/whatever in the correct name. If it's not done, then that allows loopholes for unscrupulous people to screw you over.

@ Dastan - you're assuming that Lady Hib wouldn't propose herself ... lol

Miss SweetDommes, thanks for the insight....and well, lady Hibiscus is quite a remarkable Domme, so proposing to such a person isn´t exactly difficult....even her mirror image might do so one day, being that she is so cool as you say.

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RE: Marrying a Mistress, taking her last name ? - 3/12/2011 2:10:40 AM

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OK ... funnily enough My maiden name was WINES ... and for a teetotal family, that was awkward! It was also at the far end of the alphabet, and I always had to spell it out so people didn't substitute a Y for the I or add an extra N. So I was delighted that hubby 1's name began with an A and was quite happy to take it. Being Norse no one could spell it but ... well, I was used to spelling names out!

Fast forward to hubby 2 and a common Irish name at the good end of the alphabet ... vanilla, and he was fairly keen I take his name and I was ok with that, especially thinking people would be able to spell this one ... hahaha how wrong could I be!! I've seen more variations on this one than the first 2 put together! However, I have done most of My professional publishing with this name so am reluctant to change it even though the marriage is now over.

Am living with Master, He isn't particularly into marriage ... His name is further down the alphabet and despite having only 4 letters ... He still has to spell it out to people! He's joked about combining the gist of our names and changing our name to SAKI ... but that could just be confusing when people actually see us! Tis a quandary!

I was going to offer the same advice as Jenni and say have your friend change it by deed poll to something they will both be happy with when they marry. Their problem solved. As to yours OP ... need to talk more with your Mistress regarding the symbolism involved on both sides here ... why you would love to take Her name and why She would want to take yours instead ... more communication needed I think. Symbols are very powerful and need to be addressed.

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RE: Marrying a Mistress, taking her last name ? - 3/12/2011 8:17:35 AM

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I'm not sure about men taking women's names....but in Ontario a woman can change her name legally at marriage simply by doing so. There is nothing to file, no fees, no need to do anything beyond inform banks, CC companies and such that you are now going by Mrs. X. When the marriage breaks down...she just does the process in reverse to revert to her maiden name.

I know what you mean MaamJay about spelling names. Mine is Gorham (pronounced Gorum), but when giving my name to somebody to put on a form...I pronounce it gore-ham. They still need it spelled out so now when asked for my name I just automatically say "Gorum G O R H A M". In an odd aside...in New Brunswick they always want to call me Gorman instead.

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RE: Marrying a Mistress, taking her last name ? - 3/12/2011 8:22:01 AM

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here in PA you have to legally change your last name once you are married. I know a few men who have changed their name to their wife's usually for professional reasons.

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