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RE: Sensual Dom - 3/17/2011 2:18:06 PM   
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What do you think of or imagine when you hear the term "sensual Dom"?


I think more goosebumps and less bruises, more shivers and less screams.

This is based on the words; I don't have any experience with Doms who identify that way.

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RE: Sensual Dom - 3/17/2011 2:43:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		Not what I meant Jeff. What I meant was somebody who tried to tailor their style or flavour of dominance in order to appeal to the widest possible market. While you say you tailor your dominance/leadership for each individual person, what you do not do is try to be the type of dominant that a particular sub would want. Or at least that's the impression I get of you. It was the HNGs that kalikshama refers to that I was really speaking of. The ones who suddenly become sadists because a sub they are talking to says they are into pain...and then are suddenly not when talking to another sub who isn't.

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RE: Sensual Dom - 3/17/2011 3:24:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Arpig
Not what I meant Jeff. What I meant was somebody who tried to tailor their style or flavour of dominance in order to appeal to the widest possible market.

*nods* now I get it. I actually approve of tailoring style & flavor to appeal to the widest possible audience... so long as it can be done authentically. I value adaptability in myself and others a great deal. But what I don't do myself and won't put up with in my circle of friends is misrepresentation of one's self. In the example you gave, I would continue to list my profile as "non-sadist" and to the individual I'd say, "Well, I'm a pretty flexible person and I do like you quite a bit so care to explore that whole S/m thing together and see where it goes?" That line, of course, would be an automatic disqualifier to pretty much any BDSM'er given the focus on nature over nurture that's prevalent here... the whole "You were born a dom" gig... or in this case, a sadist. But it would, at least, be true.


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RE: Sensual Dom - 3/27/2011 8:15:36 PM   
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I'm just going to gently take complete control of your mind and body."


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Niceley said... I like the gentle control aspect... takes a certain intellect & emotional connectedness

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RE: Sensual Dom - 3/28/2011 2:14:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		When I hear sensual dom, I think of my former dom.  He did have a bit of sadist in him, both physical and mental, but he was just right, at the time, for a cumslut like me.

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RE: Sensual Dom - 3/28/2011 3:14:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		Being sensual was always good word in my book.  I wonder how it got such a bad rap with the negative replies?

Pity the poor Sensual Dom whom according to negative replies is a weak, wimpy hedonistic pansy, non sadistic newbie who can’t give orders.  They spend their time spoiling a sub, giving in to everything she wants or desires.  In return for which the Sensual Dom gets to relax and doesn't have to hurt anyone to get their rocks off.

I am not what people think of when they think of a RomantiDom or Sensual Dom.  In fact, I don’t much like being called a Dom because the negotiation aspect of D/s doesn’t bode well with me.  Being a “Dom” implies I would fit with a sub . . . and I don’t.  However, I am erotic, sensual, romantic and passionate.

Would a Sensual Sadists evoke a different set of images than a Sensual Dom?

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RE: Sensual Dom - 3/28/2011 6:12:23 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Would a Sensual Sadists evoke a different set of images than a Sensual Dom?


Great question, and I think it would.


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RE: Sensual Dom - 3/28/2011 7:27:39 AM   
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Status: offline 		I can see how a person's interpretation of  the "sensual dom" can be viewed as weak and/or wannabe by some, especially the online crowd. Many dominants start out with a sensual vision of themselves, i.e., they like sex, sex is sensual, therefore they are sensual. Plus, it's going to a be A LOT easier to figure out the feather boa toy than the stingy whip. 

I think we forgot that most people get into this lifestyle via kinky sex, and often kinky sex equals sensual sex. Sex of any type begins with some kind of sensation. Sensation TO ME offers up the full buffet of menu items at the dom's disposal: soft, hard, scratchy, smooth, hot, cold, wet, dry, pain, pleasure, sensory overload, anticipation. A whisper of a touch at the right moment can be every much as sadistic as a harsh caning.

For RS:
I would view someone who termed themselves a sensual sadist as one who knew how to pick and choose from the menu of possibilities to create a full course (and very satisfying) meal.

Personally I am not interested in anyone who self identifies as a sadist only. To me this conjures up the hard ass dom type who is into pain for pain's sake. NOT a good match for me. I don't get on well with that type of dominant; plus pain for it's own sake would bore me to tears.

As a dominant, I certainly do not consider myself a sadist, I consider myself a sensualist with a sadistic streak. I have often been accused of being too soft and fluffy and nice to be a "real" dominant. In truth, it is the power and control over my s type that I get off on. I have learned there are many, many ways to torture someone, and some of the most effective do not include any physical pain at all.

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RE: Sensual Dom - 12/2/2011 3:57:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		Interesting thread indeed. i can totally understand the sensual aspect in many posts in here and suppose even in the sensual level there can be a great variance in how sensuality can be applied.

i have never jumped to conclusions with the title sensual myself and have always dug deeper into a Doms profile to figure out what he may mean by sensual. If there is no description however there may be little clues. Sensual could be very much my sort of thing to have a bit of change IE. rubbing a flogger up and down my spine before striking as in sensual play and playing with ones senses. When a Dom lays a cane across your ass to line it up you know it is coming and in a sense that too could be playing with ones mental stimulation. Maybe it could also be a Dom that wants to give a sub what she wishes in play and is sensitive to a subs wishes.

When one is full time with a Dom there is nothing wrong with a Dom being sensual at all when he offers up a good massage to get a sub all loosened up prior to play i see nothing wrong with that too. Sensual could also be taken as caring.

i think saying you are a sensual Dom really does not tell much about the Dom as he could be a sensual Sadist also. As the saying goes, never judge a book by its cover. But walk into a book store and you can tell many do.

It is a shame however if one feels inclined to give themselves a title under false pretenses just to get more subs.

Thank you Lily for pointing out this thread to me. It was a very very interesting read. :)

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RE: Sensual Dom - 12/4/2011 10:32:59 AM   
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I think more goosebumps and less bruises, more shivers and less screams.

This is based on the words; I don't have any experience with Doms who identify that way.


I since have gained such experience - and this particular D wasn't hard enough, didn't leave souvenir bruises, and struck me as preytolife's expereinces:

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Normally I consider those types to be the ones who just wanna get off. Most of them haven't been overly kinky but they say they're experienced (they mean at sex).

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RE: Sensual Dom - 12/4/2011 10:34:07 AM   
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He goes all out for astroglide instead of spit.


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