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naughtynick -> RE: When it comes to sex (5/5/2006 7:25:36 PM)
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ORIGINAL: MistressSassy66
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ORIGINAL: naughtynick
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ORIGINAL: Proprietrix
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ORIGINAL: naughtynick
I thought BDSM was all about sex.
Are you are assuming that all Dominas share this perspective with you? Most do not. In fact, a good portion of the BDSM population does not share this perspective with you. Some do though, and perhaps you will meet one who does. I am doubtful that it will be here though.
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It is something unusual that makes you horny.
No. It is something that makes YOU horny. Again, you are assuming that all Dominas share this opinion with you.
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A fetish is something that is about having an orgasm over a bizarre situation or object.
That is one definition of the word. To deny the other definitions of the word, shows only ignorance.
FYI:
fet·ish
n. - An object that is believed to have magical or spiritual powers, especially such an object associated with animistic or shamanistic religious practices.
- An object of unreasonably excessive attention or reverence: made a fetish of punctuality.
- Something, such as a material object or a nonsexual part of the body, that arouses sexual desire and may become necessary for sexual gratification.
- An abnormally obsessive preoccupation or attachment; a fixation.
I've seen all of those definitions used within the BDSM population. Again, don't assume that everyone uses the same definition you use.
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It is not all about being a slave without anything sexual involved.
To some people, it is precisely this. And that is their choice.
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Thats just some stupid lame ass excuse because the domme is too lazy to do it themselves. They should hire a maid instead.
Beyond the fact that you have nothing to back up this claim, why are you even concerning yourself with other people's domestics? Are other people's cleaning habits a soapbox you hop up on often?
Besides, if they are "too lazy" to clean their home, they are probably "too lazy" to exert themselves with having sex with you, therefore these aren't the women you would be seeking anyway. What does it matter one iota in your life whether or not some lazy person somewhere is in a relationship with some guy with blue balls who cleans her house?
I simply don't understand why you even care what other couples are doing in their own home? Why does it bother you so very much that people aren't conforming to your perceptions, your definitions, and your expectations, for THEIR relationship?
I would like to say more but I cant be bothered. But what I would like to point out is, what bothers me is the woman expecting some reward or the man owes something to the woman just for having sex with her. The woman enjoys the sex as much as the man so why should the man owe the woman something? Women in here seem to think their pussy is made of gold. Men are more genuine when it comes to sex, women like to play cat and mouse and stuff the men around for it. Sometimes I wish I was gay.
Should I tell you how many women that I know personally who have gone on a date and had the guy expect sex just for a dinner.
I think its about time Women have that power.
It almost seems like you joined the site because you thought BDSM meant a sure thing for sex.
Well I dont see why a man has to do something to impress a woman or give a reward to the woman just to have sex. Last time I checked, women enjoy sex also. I just find it chauvinistic in a way. In other words its saying, we are more superior, my pussy is more superior than you so you have to please me and do things for me to have sex with me.
Don't get me wrong, I think it's arrogant for a man to expect sex from a woman on a first date. In my perspective, BDSM is an interest because it makes me horny. Why bother playing these fantasies when you are not sexually aroused by it? Why bother letting someone tie you up or inflict pain on you if you dont feel aroused by it? Why bother working at a job if you are not going to get paid? unless you are doing it for your community.
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