angelikaJ -> RE: I got played so badly.. (3/12/2011 4:49:30 AM)
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ORIGINAL: slaveloser69 Not really BSM related but wanted to share my feelings. i was SOO played by this girl. I work with this girl twice a week, and we were really hitting it off. We were flirting a lot, and she gave me a lot of signs she was into me. i.e. "your so nice, your gf must love you" (not knowing If I had a gf or not just trying to find out if i did)... or "wow your great, do you have any brothers" (as in do i have any single brothers).. anyway, i thought i was into this girl, so we made plans to chill for 2 weekends ago. i left my gf (not just for her but she was a reason) i thought i had a REAL connection w/ her.We finallyagree to meet at the bar tonight, and i don't really hear from her all day, so i call her. she doesnt answer and calls me back like an hour later and says shell txt me when shes at the bars. she never txts me so i txt her by like 12:30, she writes me back like 15 mins later telling me where she is.. finally we meet up, dance a bit and thinks seem OKAY, but she and her friend go out for a ciggaret outside (im with my friend waiting).. they come back, and me and my friend go w/ them outside and these guys try to talk to her and her friend.. and then the guys see they are with us and appolgoize, but the girl continues to talk to them, and brings them over.. so the 2 girls we are with are talking to these 2 guys while we just stand back.. after a few minutes we leave.. it was so insulting, so humilaiting (and not in a good sexual waY).. ive never been so embarrased and humiliated.. and to think i have to see this girl at work on monday and tuesday.. There are a few possibilities that actually don't involve her being as cold hearted as you think. I think you read her wrong. She may just be a flirtatious person and you saw more than was there. Getting together to chill, to hang out, is not the same as going on a date... and perhaps when you were with her you were too intense in your affections and first she found a buffer in those 2 guys and then any excuse to bail on you, or quite possibly she just did not see it the same way, that this was a "date". I misread, I thought she left. No, you did. That was your choice to do so. You could have still opted to hang out...as you were just getting together to chill. So, unless you made a scene when you left, I think you just go back to being a co-worker. If you made a scene when you left, then you suck it up and go back to being a co-worker. Either way, you had too much invested for just chillin' with a co-worker, flirtatious or not. I still stand by this. I can see how being ditched could feel like that, but her lack of availability and non-return of texts was a pretty good hint that she did not feel the same way you did. As for the rest, yup, follow Selectivelight's advice and make wiser choices next time. edit: upon my clarity
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