MaamJay
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I'm with Southern on this one. There is a difference between being unduly needy and just wanting that connection. I thrive on connection Myself. BUT ... I can cope with life on My own if I have to. I have an inner sense of security. I also agree with Wheldrake who said about only reaching full potential when connected, even though it's ok on My own.
I want a sub to open up ... most of My previous problems with subs have been barriers to truth and honesty. So I certainly don't hold with lying or holding back once an initial relationship is established. But there's the key, that initial relationship has to start through mutual attraction ... and someone who comes across as 'dateless and desperate' isn't going to be very attractive to Me. Someone who is at ease with themself but who wants to develop a stable, loving relationship where I have the final say in what happens in their life ... now they are likely to be very attractive!
I didn't get the impression from the OP that she is one of life's excessively needy people ... I was impressed with the writing and the intelligence behind it. So good luck there Isanova, I can't see why you wouldn't be able to enhance someone's life as well as your own!
Maam Jay aka violet[A]
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