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Lockit -> RE: How Do We Find Sadistic Girls For Play? (3/15/2011 2:06:59 PM)

Well, darn, you are just going to have to be patient in seeking a non relationship of any kind and some quick... lets get it on kink your style. It isn't rocket science. If it isn't happening, you might consider why. Hungry dogs can be a pest even to those that like hungry dogs... it all depends on how you rub up against them.





AAkasha -> RE: How Do We Find Sadistic Girls For Play? (3/15/2011 4:33:33 PM)



Do you wonder if women who are truly sadistic might get off more on picking out guys they want to hurt and doing it to them instead? Just wondering. I mean if a woman really likes to make a man suffer and employ all the elements of surprise, fear, etc....wouldn't doing it to a guy that is seeking it outright be a bit counter intuitive?

The other thing to consider is what others have pointed out. I'm sadistic (but not into the kind of scenario you describe) and quite hungry for good S&M on a regular basis. However, my desire to do these things is tied to attraction and/or lust, so I seek chemistry first, not just availability. I would much more likely be found seducing a semi-unwilling guy who I had the hots for, than looking for an overly willing guy who I shared no chemistry with. My desire to see a man suffer is tied directly to one of two things:

1. Affection (this takes time to develop. A long time, for some).
2. Lust (for the man, not the act).

I can find a guy I like and seduce him into doing what I want in order to fill the #2 criteria, and it's much more of a sure thing than looking for guys who just want a woman to do x,y and z.

You have to think about how the femdom mind is wired.

Akasha



DarkSteven -> RE: How Do We Find Sadistic Girls For Play? (3/15/2011 4:36:23 PM)

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ORIGINAL: grandgnu

I think the doms here are approaching this with an incorrect viewpoint. You seem, imo, to be applying a dom/sub or mistress/slave relationship qualifier to this. "be interesting", "develop a relationship".

That's not what I'm looking for or who I'm looking for. I'm looking for sadomasochistic play, plain and simple. And I'm looking for females interested in the same. This is not a whips, chains, leather, latex, stereotypical arrangement.

There are people out there who just want to meet people and get fucked, both male and female. In this instance, I want to meet females who want to hurt and humiliate someone for their pleasure, and it just so happens that's my pleasure too. Unfortunately it seems there's an overabundance of (to me) useless dancing around to play the Dom/Sub roles, which are not the types of relationships I'm looking to find.


We're trying to save you from yourself.  Your idea seems to be to ignore damn near every safety precaution available.

Why not just get a literal whipping?  Any pro Domme should be able too provide that, and it'd be a LOT safer than asking a random bunch of sadistic drunk women to pound the shit out of you.



grandgnu -> RE: How Do We Find Sadistic Girls For Play? (3/15/2011 5:53:38 PM)

Lol, perhaps my example links were taken too literally. I get off hearing and fantasizing about assaults like that, but in practice utilize a safe word and limits in play. It's just the concept of being ganged up on by a group of females that I find particularly arousing.

Thanks AAkasha, that was a great post



Dastan -> RE: How Do We Find Sadistic Girls For Play? (3/15/2011 7:10:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: grandgnu

My wife and I have enjoyed a sadomasochistic relationship for over a decade, but never delved into "the scene". My wife enjoys kicking my ass, but I've always fantasized about having a group of girls gang up on me (girls tend to be meaner in a group), and she'd be fine with having some help.

I know there has to be a shit-ton of ladies out there who would love to kick a guys ass and humiliate him. We're new to the state of CT and attended a couple of munches, but most of the dom women were in their 50's and the younger girls seemed to lean more towards sub. The local play space leans towards the older crowd as well unfortunately.

What I'm looking for is ladies 18-37, no BBW, no paid services. How hard can it be to find girls who want to kick your ass? Here's an example of some real-life attacks by females on men that get me excited:

Five Drunk Women Attack Guy

Six Girls With Stilletos Attack Male


We've tried FetLife and CollarMe but no dice so far. Maybe I'm impatient, maybe I'm too pushy or excited about what I want.


Should I just hang outside of bars and hope a random group of drunk chicks attacks? [8D] Help a horny masochist discover the best way to find what he's looking for!


My recommendation:

Step 1: Find local martial art dojos that tend to female-only classes

Step 2. Sign up your wife and ask her to offer the ladies a chance to practice on someone, telling them you took up boxing and need to toughten up.

Step 3: Buy vicodin, naproxene, bandages and an ice pack.


If that does not work, you can always go to a female bar, such as a Lesbian bar and provoke them. In such scenario, as you need limits, safewords and such, just have a friend who is a cop around the corner watching over you with his binoculars so he can stop the fun when it gets to be no fun for you.



Jennislut -> RE: How Do We Find Sadistic Girls For Play? (3/15/2011 7:42:17 PM)

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Step 3: Buy vicodin, naproxene, bandages and an ice pack.
seriously good advice!



ElanSubdued -> RE: How Do We Find Sadistic Girls For Play? (3/16/2011 11:25:36 AM)

grandgnu,

quote:

VaguelyCurious:
So either you put effort into being her friend, or you resign yourself to being at the back of the queue.


You simply want someone to lay the pain on you.  We understand that now.  Just tell VC she's "cute".  That usually works.  Or, for extra effect, call her a "bitch" and we'll all take you down. :-)

(...with apologies to VC for milking the "old joke" such that it really is "painful".)

E.



ElanSubdued -> RE: How Do We Find Sadistic Girls For Play? (3/16/2011 11:31:56 AM)

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Akasha:
You have to think about how the femdom mind is wired.


Oh!  This is one of the most *truly sadistic* things I've ever seen written on here. [:D]

E.



Delilya -> RE: How Do We Find Sadistic Girls For Play? (3/16/2011 12:28:55 PM)

He just doesn't get it, and so won't.



FukinTroll -> RE: How Do We Find Sadistic Girls For Play? (3/16/2011 12:34:08 PM)

Go to any bar you see with a bunch of Harleys parked in front of, walk in and scream "What a bunch of cocksucking fukin-ugly cows you have in here!"

Problem solved.



ElanSubdued -> RE: How Do We Find Sadistic Girls For Play? (3/16/2011 1:53:09 PM)

quote:

FukinTroll:
Go to any bar you see with a bunch of Harleys parked in front of, walk in and scream "What a bunch of cocksucking fukin-ugly cows you have in here!"  Problem solved.


This is the authentic, "no safeword" version of the scene.  I like it!  Only twue masochists need apply.  Oh, and wussey, beginner stuff, like death, can't be a limit. :-)

E.



Arpig -> RE: How Do We Find Sadistic Girls For Play? (3/16/2011 1:56:52 PM)

Yeah but he was ripping off my idea from way back in post # 18...but that's OK, we geniuses are used to that sort of thing.



Arswine -> RE: How Do We Find Sadistic Girls For Play? (3/16/2011 1:58:48 PM)

don't lie Arpig...you were peeking over the troll's shoulder when you wrote yours...you're such a phoney!



FukinTroll -> RE: How Do We Find Sadistic Girls For Play? (3/16/2011 2:01:18 PM)

Oh FFS Arswine... yer fukin everything up, people are going to catch on to the fact that there are only two male D's on this whole site and 543K sock puppets between us.



ElanSubdued -> RE: How Do We Find Sadistic Girls For Play? (3/16/2011 2:43:28 PM)

Arpig,

quote:

Arpig:
Yeah but he was ripping off my idea from way back in post # 18... but that's OK, we geniuses are used to that sort of thing.


Oops.  Sorry.  *gives credit where credit is due* :-)

Elan.



Lucylastic -> RE: How Do We Find Sadistic Girls For Play? (3/16/2011 4:57:02 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Arpig

Shit dude...that's so easy it isn't funny. Go down to your local gay bar on ladies night and loudly proclaim that all dykes are ugly slags who should be kicked in the cunt. Trust me, your dreams will be fulfilled in no time.

Oh dear god Arpig, you just made me snort java alllll over my damn desk




Lucylastic -> RE: How Do We Find Sadistic Girls For Play? (3/16/2011 5:04:30 PM)

Im guessing going to a prodomme is out of the question for the OP?
while I would love to have the chance to kick the crap out of some people... I have some kind of morals thing going on.... it miffs me no end.
Ive beaten several strange men and we had fun, but it was within the confines of a club and talking to them more than twice.O r co topping with a friend.






grandgnu -> RE: How Do We Find Sadistic Girls For Play? (3/16/2011 6:33:52 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

Im guessing going to a prodomme is out of the question for the OP?
while I would love to have the chance to kick the crap out of some people... I have some kind of morals thing going on.... it miffs me no end.
Ive beaten several strange men and we had fun, but it was within the confines of a club and talking to them more than twice.O r co topping with a friend.



Thanks for the response Lucy. No, I'm not willing to pay someone to get their own kink on with me. Not even interested in a "dom" since that doesn't have to be an aspect of the play (if the person happens to be dom AND sadistic that's all well and good, still not paying however)

I guess my wife and I will attend some more munches and see where it leads.



Jennislut -> RE: How Do We Find Sadistic Girls For Play? (3/16/2011 6:34:04 PM)

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Oh dear god Arpig, you just made me snort java alllll over my damn desk
indeed



SexyBossyBBW -> RE: How Do We Find Sadistic Girls For Play? (3/17/2011 3:58:44 AM)

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ORIGINAL: grandgnu

There appears to be some confusion. I'm not interested in a Dom. This isn't lifestyle BDSM, there is no dom/sub or mistress/slave relationship going on. I'm looking for females who are sadistic and enjoy the opportunity to inflict violence and humiliation upon others.

It sounds to me, like you are seeking a lady to join in something, without a relationship, but one which might land he in jail, if she doesn't use he mind and avoind this casual sounding situation. M



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