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DCWoody -> RE: Is the term BBW annoying? (3/15/2011 6:03:42 PM)
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ORIGINAL: sexyred1
BBW is not a term coined by overweight women to make themselves feel good, it was, in fact, coined by the fasion industry back in the 70's.
How do I know this? Because I was recruited right out of college to be a plus size model. I had no clue what that was, never heard the word BBW, had no idea there were such things are larger sized models.
Imagine to my utter surprise, I get signed by a top modeling agency for their Plus division. I said, hey, if you want to pay me that much money and still let me do my real job and will be flexible, why the hell not?
And I did just that for 12 years until I got married. And guess what? There were large and small models both men and women and an equal amount of self loathing for all sizes. But the bigger percentange of body issue belonged to the thinner models, who did drugs, had eating disorders, etc. to meet some type of qualifier to keep working.
The larger models also had some issues, with the exception of me and other healthy, confident, intelligent, sexy women. I doubt that if I was not considered beautiful to the agency, they would not have signed me, so no OP, it is not self aggrandizing, it is a term used for marketing.
I stopped modeling years ago and got a little larger but guess what? Somehow, mysteriously, I have retained my core confidence and happiness with myself without getting validation from being paid for it. How? Because of how people respond to me. For every man like the OP and others who are not attracted to BBW's, there are two who do like them. And like them INDIVIDUALLY, not as a group.
More importantly, I never based my self worth on my looks only. I always say my most beautiful feature is my brain.
I laugh when some say that men are lying when they say they love larger women. Really? Well I guess the men in my life lied for years and years and were pretending to be insanely passionate about me.
What I find particularly sad, as exhibited in this thread, are the larger women who say they would not use the word BBW because they think they are forcing an opinon on someone.
How is it that you can think that showing confidence is forcing anything?
Even if you don't think you are beautiful or hot, etc. fake it till you really feel that way. And if you never feel that way, that is cool, but I choose to feel fabulous on every level.
As for BBW being a term of empowerment, so what? What is wrong with being empowered? Life too short to not feel beautiful.
But continue your hating; it is simply, the last acceptable prejudice and quite the trend to rag on BBW's, given the level or lack of brains, class, taste and finesse exhibited online.
Final comment: we are all entitled to like or hate whatever we want. What we are not allowed to do is be an asshole about it.
And those who start fat threads fit that term to a fat T.
I would suggest you reread the thread more carefully, and avoid making incorrect assumptions about me and putting words into my mouth.
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