quote:

ORIGINAL: DCWoody

FR - I try to use the forums inbuilt quote system but a lot of the time it breaks/repeats itself/generally fucks up(if anyone knows what causes the thing where it pastes random sections of what you're trying to quote over again mixed in with repeats of the post you're trying to quote, I'm all ears). So often I end up using old fashioned "" instead. Apologies for any confusion, but I always figured it was fairly clear. They are called quotation marks and all that....

quote:

ORIGINAL: WyldHrt
No worries, the Troll is holding my leash at the moment, so I'm being good in hopes of slurps. [:D]

quote:

ORIGINAL: 0ldhen
From HCM's journals;
" Ladies,in particular straight ladies,what's with the poetry and pictures of flowers?Most men don't like poetry or flowers so who are you trying to attract?" 
Seems like HCM has issues with women period

quote:

ORIGINAL: IceDemeter

FR ~

It's interesting how differently people perceive the OP. I and some others took it as an intellectual discussion on our perception of a very commonly used acronym, while others took it as an expression of a personal preference for a slim partner, and others took it as an attack on all larger women. Frankly, if I had taken it as either of the latter two, I wouldn't have bothered to continue to read - nevermind post.

Whatever it was intended as by the OP, it has succeeded in giving me something to ponder. I'm glad to know the origins of the acronym (it makes sense as a marketing ploy). This term has become so incredibly PC that those of us who choose not to use it get told that we are wrong or that we lack confidence or that we lack self-esteem. Yet, we live in a society where being fat is frowned upon for aesthetic, health, financial, or whatever the reason of the day is. The word "fat" has been given so many negative connotations that it seems to be starting on the road to being considered the equivalent of a racial epithet.

I'm thinking that my personal distaste with the BBW acronym maybe isn't so much the forced opinion. I'm starting to see that the distaste comes in part from my not choosing to allow a word - the word "fat" - to have any power over me. It is a simple word, and doesn't have to carry the negative with it - for me, it can just be a simple adjective that accurately describes part of my physical appearance.

Another part of it that I found bothersome - I don't like being described by the word "beautiful". That word, to me, is about visual appearance only. I don't like to sum up people based only on appearance, so I have a disconnect with that word. I may be alone in this, but if I were to describe the men and women who I like/love/respect/admire who are the most visually attractive, I would not use the word beautiful. I have used "wondrous", "incredible", and "amazing" --- as, to me, these words describe the person, and not just their looks.

Yet another part that irks me is the apparent egotism of the expression. For me, I personally find something a bit off-putting about someone tooting their own horn. Whether it's about looks, intelligence, compassion, integrity --- is the person shouting from the rooftops that they have this personality trait really so unsure of how clearly it will come through in their words and actions that they have to point it out?

Finally (sorry - I know I'm long-winded!), I think that the fact that so many have bought in to the use of this acronym appears in some way to be an acceptance of being part of a marginalized group. That is not something that is acceptable for me. I am myself. I deal with the world as an individual. I will not accept being treated or dismissed as part of a group. Darn it, if you're going to dismiss me, it'll be because I caused it, not because I resemble some others in one way or other!

Thanks to the OP and all of the rest of you who let me really think about this!

quote:

As if you would have to hope. [sm=rofl.gif]You're one of my favorite SLURP toys.
SLURP~

quote:

P.S. How is the bridge coming along?

quote:

ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

quote:

Well I don't know what to tell ya, I don't see any difference but character length between baldy and bald guy. 'Those skinnies' would certainly be new to me too though. Put it down to cultural differences.

Cultural differences is possible, but try using the diminutive for someone with dark skin and you get a word that is well known as a racist insult, the use of which may well get one's ass kicked. Similarly, 'fatty' is usually seen as an insult because it is commonly used as one. I would think that most people have heard it used that way against either themselves or others from grammar school on.

quote:

Thanks for the calm discussion.

No worries, the Troll is holding my leash at the moment, so I'm being good in hopes of slurps. [:D]

quote:

ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

quote:

ORIGINAL: DCWoody

FR - I try to use the forums inbuilt quote system but a lot of the time it breaks/repeats itself/generally fucks up(if anyone knows what causes the thing where it pastes random sections of what you're trying to quote over again mixed in with repeats of the post you're trying to quote, I'm all ears). So often I end up using old fashioned "" instead. Apologies for any confusion, but I always figured it was fairly clear. They are called quotation marks and all that....

You know you could just take a look at it and then figure out how to do it manually

To begin a quote you type the bracket next to the L key, and then "quote", followed by the bracket to the right of that bracket.
To end a quote it is exactly the same except between the brackets you type"/quote".

Go practice in the test forum.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Tantriqu

Is the op kidding?!?

quote:

And yes, OMG, the men who consider themselves 'handsome': either ugly or pricks which means ugly on the inside.

quote:

Out of curiousity, what is 'the diminuitive for someone with dark skin'?
'Cos if ya mean 'black', no-one where I am has a problem with that...we don't have 'African-British' over here....well, we do....but we also have non-African-but-still-black british, and sorta african-british but were born here and would object to being called african...and all sortsa shit. Ya get the idea.

quote:

I can see that 'fatty' is often used as an insult, certainly during school years....but only in exactly the same way as 'fat' is.

quote:

ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

quote:

As if you would have to hope. [sm=rofl.gif]You're one of my favorite SLURP toys.
SLURP~

[:D][:D][:D][:D]

quote:

P.S. How is the bridge coming along?

Some temporary rain delays. I didn't want to risk getting the books wet so the library isn't quite finished yet.

quote:

ORIGINAL: soul2share

*waves my libary card at the Troll....woo-hoo!  Over here, dear....I got books and suff!*

quote:

ORIGINAL: tiggerspoohbear

Will Calvin and Hobbes or old Snoopy cartoons in book form do? I haz those.  

quote:

ORIGINAL: DCWoody
That's my problem: people do not automatically qualify for beauty once they reach a certain weight.

quote:

ORIGINAL: poise

theverybeautifulandbitesizedpoise

quote:

ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

quote:

ORIGINAL: soul2share
*waves my libary card at the Troll....woo-hoo!  Over here, dear....I got books and suff!*

Let's see if yer so sassy when you go look at my winky pic on the pussy thread. Damn troll baiters. Mmmm.... headjobs and Herbert.
SLURP~