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RE: Menopause, Mood Swings and Masters - 3/18/2011 6:18:47 AM

Aileen1968

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Been there. Done that. My depression showed itself as extreme anger. And for some unknown reason it was all directed right at Shorey over and over again.
Long story short...he left me. And for the next three months I proactively took control back of my life. I wanted the happy person I had been all of my life back and I hated the woman I saw when I looked in the mirror.
I got my shit together, got happy again and became a better stronger woman. And I got my man back...

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RE: Menopause, Mood Swings and Masters - 3/18/2011 8:09:49 AM

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Yay! Aileen I could tell something was 'off' for you but didn't know what, and wasn't going to pry. I am glad to read that you are doing well now.

I know I am not the targeted reply audience, not an s-type so certainly not owned. But I have been through the hormone hell and am slowly coming out the other side. I can certainly share my coping with that.

I had to really really focus on taking care of ME. I took a good honest look at my life, determined what was priority and cut back on so many other obligations that were not enriching my life. I began to demand I treat myself better. Good healthy foods and lots and lots of exercise. If having flowers in the house made me feel better, I made damned well sure I had some flowers.

If being around some people was exhausting and stressful..........I cut my time around those people down to a bare minimum.

I did a lot of research. I determined that I was not going to use any HRT and that my body, properly cared for, could and would, deal with the changes naturally, as it was meant to do.

I changed my bed, made sure I had the best bedding and environment to get a good night of sleep.

I kept a journal of the food and beverages I was putting in my body and my moods, sleep habits, physical activity. I found that some foods and beverages made some symptoms worse so I cut them out. Or limit them to times when I could get less sleep and take a nap the next day.

Dr Weil's website has some fantastic information on this subject. Most of the most helpful natural health information I've found has been via his site.

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RE: Menopause, Mood Swings and Masters - 3/18/2011 9:25:37 AM

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i am very glad to hear that you are coming to the end of what has to be the shittiest part of a woman's life (so far). What you say does make a lot of sense, and part of our contract obliges me to take the best care i can of His property - which includes me - and it can only help if we all eat more healthily, for example. But. My main obligation is serving Him, and so i do need that control, ie permission to treat myself, or else i feel selfish and bratty. i tend to think of myself these days like a vintage car, one that needs a bit of babying when cornering, or changing gear. Still useful, even valuable, just needing a bit more careful handling than before.

Part of the problem in my case has been that in only a year we have gone from LDR, with frequent visits during which i was naturally focused on Him, to living together as a family, complete with teenager, and puppy. It has been a steep learning curve for us all. i had my mirena coil taken out last year - it was originally put in to treat heavy periods - and to my surprise they just stopped, and so began all the mood swings etc. The D/s, and BDSM stuff had taken a back seat to family life, due to health issues on both sides and having a teen and dog around, and while all that was going on, i had some family issues to come to terms with as well.

What He wants is for me to focus on Him. If He is happy, then i am happy. So for us, getting back to basics as far as possible will give me the framework and structure i need in order to function as a woman, as well as a slave, and give me something other than my feelings to concentrate on. Or that is the theory!

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RE: Menopause, Mood Swings and Masters - 3/18/2011 11:35:22 AM

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Regular constant exercise over the past 5 years has enabled to me to take myself off anti-depressants and regulate mood swings. I hesitate to put my experience out there because what worked for me is probably highly personal and also I don't want anyone to feel that it's an easy fix. All I can say is that I took anti-depressants for 15 years, several types, heavy doses, and when I started to take better care of myself with diet and most importantly exercise, I found stability.

I exercise 5-6 days a week for an hour at a time. I've made it a number one priority and make myself find the time. I have no idea how much it could help you OP but you did say it helps when you exercise. I think making a routine that you can hold onto is part of why it's a good thing, and then the exercise itself. I recently logged in at 1,000 workouts at one of my gyms. It's a tool that has given me back a certain quality of life.

I think it's admirable that you're trying to find answers and that you do occasionally find the time to exercise. You might consider making it an inviable part of your daily routine and see if it helps. I wish you the best.

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RE: Menopause, Mood Swings and Masters - 4/4/2011 4:51:38 PM

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baths. lots of exercise.remember- going thru the motions when your heart isn't in it is an act of faith in the long term. teens? remember they feel worse than you do!
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RE: Menopause, Mood Swings and Masters - 4/5/2011 3:09:19 AM

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i dance, i love dancing
also i changed my diet, now i eat a lot healthier than i did before the change started

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