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Why do malesubs try to make femsubs into femdoms? - 5/6/2006 4:56:42 PM   
mariba


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Status: offline 		Is my profile confusing?  I respect malesubs, but why do they write and try to convince to try to be a Domme?  I could try but what's the point?  It does not bother me but it confuses me.

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RE: Why do malesubs try to make femsubs into femdoms? - 5/6/2006 4:59:05 PM   
MistressImp


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Status: offline 		Why do Dom's mail me trying to convince me to be a submissive???...I personally think it's a pants thing for the most part.



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RE: Why do malesubs try to make femsubs into femdoms? - 5/6/2006 5:23:16 PM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		Probably because there are more male submissives than Fem Doms they are trying to change the percentage rate.

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RE: Why do malesubs try to make femsubs into femdoms? - 5/6/2006 5:25:38 PM   
MistressImp


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ORIGINAL: slavejali

Probably because there are more male submissives than Fem Doms they are trying to change the percentage rate.


For the malesubs.... yes that's probably a huge precentage of it..... the pants thing was my personal experience with the title of the thread in reverse.


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RE: Why do malesubs try to make femsubs into femdoms? - 5/6/2006 5:53:31 PM   
mariba


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Status: offline 		slavejali, that is logical.  But honestly, if you are not wired to be a Domme it seems like it is an action doomed to fail.  Also, I think it is a very assertive thing to ask a woman to change their orientation, why would a malesub do this?   MistressImp is probably right, it is just a guy thing.

Mari.

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RE: Why do malesubs try to make femsubs into femdoms? - 5/6/2006 6:03:17 PM   
WeeIttyBitty


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Status: offline 		There seem to be a lot of guys who reply to a profile, based only on the picture, then script you into thier fantasy life... So you like all the things they like, and would be very interested to know them... They never actually open your profile, nor notice if your name is bold or pale ...

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RE: Why do malesubs try to make femsubs into femdoms? - 5/6/2006 6:54:47 PM   
LadyMorgynn


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Status: offline 		Because they are desperate.

quote:

ORIGINAL: mariba
Is my profile confusing?  I respect malesubs, but why do they write and try to convince to try to be a Domme?  I could try but what's the point?  It does not bother me but it confuses me.
Mari.


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RE: Why do malesubs try to make femsubs into femdoms? - 5/6/2006 6:59:10 PM   
ChainedExistence


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Status: offline 		It's a numbers game...there are less female Dommes than male subs...They figure you're already kinky..maybe if they can at least recruit you as a possible switch that will give them what they can't find otherwise....must work at least sometimes because they certainly try it a lot!

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RE: Why do malesubs try to make femsubs into femdoms? - 5/6/2006 7:11:19 PM   
littlesarbonn


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Status: offline 		It kind of works both ways. I've had female submissive friends try to convince me I'd make a great dom, specifically dominating them. One was so persuasive, she got me to actually try it once. To me, it was the funniest experience I'd gone through in the scene because I so made the worst dominant of all time, unless dominant equals serving the woman who wants to serve you. But my friend seemed to enjoy it immensely at the time, although I think in the end both of us felt really awkward about the whole experience.

And I do believe there is one reason male subs may actually believe it is possible to make a femsub into a femdom: Many femdoms started out as submissives. I know one of my first long term owners started out as a submissive to a male dom until her rebellious nature allowed her to dump that paradigm and embrace her dominant nature. But that happened on her own, in reaction to a dominant she was serving. I came along long after those events, so it wasn't me who turned her into a dominant. I was just lucky enough to show up when I did.

But I know of a large number of women who are dominants who started out as submissives. But what most of these guys who are trying to change potential dominant women from submissives is that a male sub rarely acts as the catalyst. They usually appear AFTER the fact.

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RE: Why do malesubs try to make femsubs into femdoms? - 5/6/2006 8:56:41 PM   
LadyHugs


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Status: offline 		Dear Mariba, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
Not all "male submissives" are submissive but, seek a Top that they can control as they play the bottom role.  We hear the terms "Topping from the bottom" and or "Submitting from the Top." 
 
Perhaps, the fact that strong dominants have not knuckled under the pressure, perhaps they will project their wishes and most times kink onto another woman using their submissive side as the desire to please.  Then, it is role reassignment.  You'll be submissive in a dominant role, as the dominant assumes the submissive role just for that period of time.
 
SWITCH sorts may also be able to express their experiences as well.
 
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RE: Why do malesubs try to make femsubs into femdoms? - 5/6/2006 11:38:18 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: mariba

Is my profile confusing?  I respect malesubs, but why do they write and try to convince to try to be a Domme?  I could try but what's the point?  It does not bother me but it confuses me.

Mari.


Hi Mari....

Maybe it's your body language speaking through your posture -- You’re standing up straight, your hands are on your hips -- like a drill instructor looking at recruits while they're standing in formation. You have a very rigid look to you, and I guess this is something they like? Perhaps a less rigid, less authoritative pose, and maybe a little more femininity?



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RE: Why do malesubs try to make femsubs into femdoms? - 5/7/2006 12:03:09 AM   
StandandDeliver


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ORIGINAL: LadyMorgynn

Because they are desperate.


Bingo.

That, and most men don't take the time to read profiles at all. 

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RE: Why do malesubs try to make femsubs into femdoms? - 5/7/2006 12:41:20 AM   
MsMacComb


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Status: offline 		In truth its that as many women switch they may have hopes that you will as well. (Also there could be something to what UtopianRanger says about posture and stance in your photo). It also could be that they have hopes that someone will be nice to them and actually answer their messages. Clinging to false hopes? Probably, but then many people do so they shouldnt bbe faulted to much I don't think.

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RE: Why do malesubs try to make femsubs into femdoms? - 5/7/2006 12:42:15 AM   
GreySaber


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Status: offline 		It's also a very human thing to try to make what you can't find. Been with us since we learned to chip flint to make do until the invention of the knife store. 

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RE: Why do malesubs try to make femsubs into femdoms? - 5/7/2006 12:58:50 AM   
RavenMuse


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Status: offline 		Not a guy thing. Given I've met a few rather silly little girls who thought they could turn me into their submissive. Its people who lack the ability to seperate their fantasy life from what is really out there.

There are a few lovely Dommes where I will jokingly say "Oh what a damn waste, you'd make a lovely sub dear" before chuckling and settling down with a drink and chatting about life, the universe and everything with them, but there is absolutely no point in trying to turn someone into something they are not.


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RE: Why do malesubs try to make femsubs into femdoms? - 5/7/2006 2:07:56 AM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		Heh.  There are dommes who like to be flipped, you know.  Maybe you're not one of them, but they're out there.

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ORIGINAL: MistressImp

Why do Dom's mail me trying to convince me to be a submissive???

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RE: Why do malesubs try to make femsubs into femdoms? - 5/7/2006 5:35:46 AM   
Arpig


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Status: offline 		Probably the same reason that some doms write my pet saying they are actually subs.......HNG anybody?

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RE: Why do malesubs try to make femsubs into femdoms? - 5/7/2006 5:42:32 AM   
naughtypair


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Status: offline 		we get it all the time, lot of users on here just see what they want to see sadly :(

"sub male at your whims etc" "your bf isnt important you will be my girl etc" lol oh well

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RE: Why do malesubs try to make femsubs into femdoms? - 5/7/2006 6:39:34 AM   
Littlepita


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Status: offline 		I have had some nice conversations with male subs and I think they often try to change us because we aren't submissive with them. I am only submissive to my Dom and with everyone else I come across as a very strong woman who could be capable of being a Domme.

When I met my Joe and told this one submissive male that I was getting a Dom he couldn't believe it. Told me there was no way I could be a submissive because I was too good at Domming. I had to inform him that I was good at cyber. Big difference!

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RE: Why do malesubs try to make femsubs into femdoms? - 5/7/2006 8:33:35 AM   
Proprietrix


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Status: offline 		I swear, the more I'm around the male subs on CM, the more I contemplate just becoming a lesbian.

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