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RE: Challenges ... - 4/3/2011 2:40:07 AM

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ORIGINAL: frazzle "Is this about his sadistic side or the control. They are diferent."
It's both. If I don't have a clear external focus such as specific behaviors I know are expected then I feel like all of this intense energy dedicated to submitting just sort of sits there unacknowleged. Then I channel that into our play time because it's the one time I really get to revel in Master's control of me. If play time isn't all that intense I feel like that energy still hasn't found a release and I am keyed up and utterly frustrated.

i think the one thing that helps a submissive to feel that they are in a Ds relationship is when the D notices and acknowledges the things we do. without that noticing and acknowledging we might as well be in a vanilla relationship trying our best to satisfy the sub in us, whilst accepting that its vanilla and the guy will never fully comprehend us.

sounds to me like you have a done a bang up job with self governing and in many ways submitting youreself to the principles of Ds whilst youre Dominant has done little to support that principle.

you have every right to feel frustrated and unchallenged by this. apart from a bit of light kink you guys may as well be in a vanilla relationship.

i hope you guys can resolve this, sounds like youre making progress anyway.

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RE: Challenges ... - 4/3/2011 7:26:54 AM

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it jsut seems to come naturally to master to challenge me. very occasionally i feel i am wanting somthing more i will jsut ask and he will turn it up for a while (usually somthing in life is giving me issues then if hes stricter with me i can deal with whatever it is. )

he gave me a good one the other day he took me to subsapce and i wanted to cum so much he said i had to beg him but had to only use words of one syllable that is one of the hardest things i ahve had to do, he said after he found it really ammusing to see me struggle. i got there in the end but took what seemed a long time.

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RE: Challenges ... - 4/3/2011 9:29:20 PM

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ORIGINAL: phoenixmoonn13

it jsut seems to come naturally to master to challenge me. very occasionally i feel i am wanting somthing more i will jsut ask and he will turn it up for a while (usually somthing in life is giving me issues then if hes stricter with me i can deal with whatever it is. )

he gave me a good one the other day he took me to subsapce and i wanted to cum so much he said i had to beg him but had to only use words of one syllable that is one of the hardest things i ahve had to do, he said after he found it really ammusing to see me struggle. i got there in the end but took what seemed a long time.

Wouldn't monosyllabic words include the vast majority of pleading?

"please oh god sir i need to cum so bad please i need it i can't hold on please let me cum" would fit nicely within those restrictions. The only word that springs to mind as being necessary and polysyllabic is "master" and I expect if you use that word as part of your normal lexicon he would make an exception for it. I would think it would be more challenging to make it the opposite and only allow you words with more than one syllable.

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RE: Challenges ... - 4/4/2011 11:45:36 AM

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try thinkin gof them when you are in dubspace though. in cold light of day its easy

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RE: Challenges ... - 4/4/2011 2:00:08 PM

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ORIGINAL: phoenixmoonn13

try thinkin gof them when you are in dubspace though. in cold light of day its easy

Agree, wholeheartedly.

I can't even count and probably couldn't even recite the days of the week in order.

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