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YoungBlondeSlave -> RE: escape and continuation (3/25/2011 9:45:09 PM)
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ORIGINAL: softweregurl
What are your opinions on this matter and what actions are you willing and able to take to help me resolve this matter? Empathy helps some in the short term but a bunch of whiny sympathy and false hopes with no action hurts a lot more in the long term.
Understand that, because of the significant harm that has come my way, I am reluctant to provide any details in case they would be used to cause further harm or death to me. Someone will have to prove themselves worthy of my trust!!!!
Also, My time on CM has, amongst other things, been a "second chance" for the BDSM community. I have found it to be more reality based then most. I cannot and will not judge a community based on a very small minority of it's members.
Ohhhhhkay, so, you got yourself into what seems to be a very messy situation all by yourself but, you aren't willing to take responsibility and get yourself out of it? Instead, you come to a bunch of strangers on forums and pretty much say "I got myself into this, now you get me out!!!"
Everything you've stated is (in my opinion) dripping with "IT'S NOT MY FAULT!!" You're in your 40's you should have learned some personal responsibility at some point in your life.
Your OP states that this woman "attempted to drug [you] and use mind control and fear to make [you] into her slave against [your] will."
So, a few issues:
1. You said that she attempted to drug you, not that she was successful in drugging you.
2. Mind control, I've never heard of that working unless it was something done long term, this doesn't sound like it was a long term situation.
3. Your profile states that you are dominant, what was your reasoning for being with a professional dominatrix? It's my understanding from friends of mine who are professional domina (I have no idea if that's actually what the plural of dominatrix is, but I hope you get my meaning) that they don't want their own, they want subs to just come and pay them for their services.
Just as everyone else said, what is it that you want from us "as a community" exactly? You want us to help save the face of the BDSM community because some cowardly assholes hid behind it in hopes to get away with their crimes? There's no way to do that. You are providing us with only a small glimpse of what really happened to you.
Use your community resources in the community in which you reside. Do not depend on a global community of individuals who come together on a website and forums. We can't, and won't, help you. Go to the police, hospital, social worker, DA, lawyer, GLBT center...DO SOMETHING!!! Look online for fetish friendly resources too. I'm not going to do any legwork for you, neither will anyone else, you have to do it for yourself.
I'm not sure what else you want us to do, we can't do anything anyway. It's all up to you. If you're going to continue to rant and scream at the posters who are trying to offer you advice (much of it has been very good advice) then you will most likely end up being ignored. You are not the first, nor will you be the last, to be taken advantage of in the D/s community. The question is now, not what are WE going to do about it for YOU. But, "What are YOU going to do about it for YOURSELF?"
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