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Accomodating a Masters more intense sex drive, advice n... - 3/26/2011 9:43:53 PM   
scottishdove


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Status: offline 		I would like advice from other slave/submissives about living with a Master with a much more intense sex drive.

is it possible to keep up, out of a desire to serve and out of love? how do you do it if you are in this situation. how does it work for you
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RE: Accomodating a Masters more intense sex drive, advi... - 3/26/2011 9:46:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		I never had a problem accomodating anyone with an intense sex drive; I welcomed it.

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RE: Accomodating a Masters more intense sex drive, advi... - 3/26/2011 10:03:56 PM   
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is it possible to keep up, out of a desire to serve and out of love? how do you do it if you are in this situation. how does it work for you


Greetings,

i don't often encounter people that have a problem with too much sex unless that's all there is to the relationship and they're unsatisfied. In my personal experiences it wasn't an issue. i underwent intentional periods of orgasm restriction that prohibited any interaction. But when we did engage it merely intensified the activities. i couldn't imagine it being a problem for me at present. However, i enjoy sex a great deal and i'd appreciate someone that could keep up or outpace me even. That's hot.

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RE: Accomodating a Masters more intense sex drive, advi... - 3/26/2011 10:11:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		When i first discovered i was submissive, my sex drive shot through the roof the point of being almost obsessive, and very distracting. at that point i could have kept up.

now, 3 years later, it has mellowed and is more of an average sex drive. my emotional desire to submit is still as strong.

i am willing to submit and participate in sexual activity to please my Master. i just want advice from other submissives and slaves with average sex drives who have been in the same situation, to find out how they handled the situation to keep their Master happy and keep themselves happy as well. how they dealt with it in attitude and physically.

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RE: Accomodating a Masters more intense sex drive, advi... - 3/26/2011 10:18:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		It's simple for us..when he wants to fuck we fuck....it's that simple...has nothing to do with keeping up or anything else except what he wants. 

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RE: Accomodating a Masters more intense sex drive, advi... - 3/26/2011 11:57:49 PM   
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Give more head, use your boobs, handjobs, properly done can be mind blowing, practice those.

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RE: Accomodating a Masters more intense sex drive, advi... - 3/27/2011 12:55:04 AM   
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Remember slave or not you have the right to say no... and its okay to say no....

If he needs more, possibly a porno subscription.....and lube investment

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RE: Accomodating a Masters more intense sex drive, advi... - 3/27/2011 3:24:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		It really depends on the relationship you have, and the reason you don't want sex as much.

If the reason is that it is physically uncomfortable, then you need to communicate that with him. Lube may be all that is needed, or as Oldhen said, maybe find another way to give him the orgasm he wants.

If it's because you can't be bothered/not in the mood and the relationship structure you have is that you are expected to give him sex when he wants it and you have agreed to that - then your choices are either to live up to your end of the agreement, or tell him you're not going to do it and be prepared for some serious discussions about where you are as a couple.



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RE: Accomodating a Masters more intense sex drive, advi... - 3/27/2011 3:31:01 AM   
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ORIGINAL: scottishdove

i am willing to submit and participate in sexual activity to please my Master. i just want advice from other submissives and slaves with average sex drives who have been in the same situation, to find out how they handled the situation to keep their Master happy and keep themselves happy as well. how they dealt with it in attitude and physically.


i think you just answered your own question. The first sentence sheds light on what you put forth at the tail end. For many submissive individuals, happiness is derived through acts of submission to the party they've elected to yield to. And if that involves lots of sex they willingly comply because being in a position to obey gives them some measure of satisfaction. As for the physical, the usual recommendations on health, rest, and diet would apply. But i'd advise that you introduce some special beautification practices that make you feel and look good. These have an uncanny way of bolstering ones sex appeal and receptivity to that form of attention.

Namaste,

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RE: Accomodating a Masters more intense sex drive, advi... - 3/27/2011 6:08:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		a while ago i was with a guy whose need for sex was around the clock and then some - the whole wanting to please and give was tainted a little by the feeling that i just couldnt satisfy him, that no matter how much i was there for him there was more still needed.  in a way it made me feel inadequate and that started to affect my ability to keep with the programme mentally.  physically i did but there was something in him that made me feel that even after sex the drive was still there.

it wasnt just when we were having sex the pressure was on the whole time, just sitting quietly together, going out together, it just started to become a pressure i gradually began to feel i was less and less able to meet.

looking back i realise that in fact he was perfectly happy with how things were and the pressure i was putting myself under was all of my own making.

that said there was always this odd frisson of tension and sexual energy that i used to love at the start of it but that in the end began to feel really quite oppressive - almost like he was out of control with it.

anyway, i met it head on in the end.  so to speak:) - as someone else has said, get creative in youre own right.  i took to playing with my vibrator on the sofa and he loved to watch that, i had fun and he had fun watching me, got me hot and then the rest was easy.  stop looking at youreself as an object he's fucking and start seeing youreself as the sexy woman you are.  take youre sensuality back in a way and start using it to youre own advantage.  when you start instigating youre own sexual energy you feel less pressured and more able to please him, pleasure him in ways other than just intercourse.

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RE: Accomodating a Masters more intense sex drive, advi... - 3/27/2011 7:02:12 AM   
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ORIGINAL: scottishdove

I would like advice from other slave/submissives about living with a Master with a much more intense sex drive.

is it possible to keep up, out of a desire to serve and out of love? how do you do it if you are in this situation. how does it work for you


I don't have to keep up. If he wants to fuck me, then he fucks me. It's not important whether I particularly feel like sex at the time or not. I'm not expected to feel hot or horny just because he does. I AM expected to accept being fucked when he wants to.

I don't do it out of love or a desire to serve, I do it because he's the boss, he wants to fuck and that's how our relationship is run. If he waited until I *wanted* to *serve* him or for me to do it out of *love* he'd be getting a lot less sex.....lol

What exactly is the problem?.....

Is it that you don't want to be used for sex when you don't feel horny?

Is it that he expects you to be feeling horny because he is?

Is he expecting a level of horniness that you don't have?

It's one thing to have sex whenever you want it and it's quite another to expect someone to be as *up for it* as you are at any given time.

When M reaches over and yanks my arse toward him at god-awful-o'clock in the morning while I'm still asleep, he's not expecting me to spring awake and have gymnastic sex..I can stay half asleep, I'm usually thinking * gawd, I'm so sleeeepyyy* but it's not the most onerous of tasks, after all.

I'm expected to be *willing* to......I'm not expected to *want* to. That makes the whole thing quite problem-free.

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RE: Accomodating a Masters more intense sex drive, advi... - 3/27/2011 7:07:36 AM   
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is it possible to keep up, out of a desire to serve and out of love? how do you do it if you are in this situation. how does it work for you


Laughs

She doesn't have to keep up, but she sure better be good at bending over and spreading....like all good gals should :-)


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RE: Accomodating a Masters more intense sex drive, advi... - 3/27/2011 8:00:58 AM   
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ORIGINAL: scottishdove

I would like advice from other slave/submissives about living with a Master with a much more intense sex drive.

is it possible to keep up, out of a desire to serve and out of love? how do you do it if you are in this situation. how does it work for you


We fuck when he wants to fuck. It only takes a few seconds for me to get into it even if I was in the middle of doing something mindless like laundry and the last thing on my mind was sex. And it really doesn't matter if I'm into it at that moment or not. I do what he wants when he wants it.

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RE: Accomodating a Masters more intense sex drive, advi... - 3/27/2011 8:38:19 AM   
ranja


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Status: offline 		I had a very horny boyfriend who wanted twice a day... i got totally fed up with it and felt it had nothing much to do with me anymore... especially cos i never even had a cum with him... i felt like buying him a rubber cunt for his birthday... or hollow out a mellon or an aubergine

Now i get less than i want... and eventhough it is frustrating at times i much prefer to actually be wanting for some rather than to have to cope with excessive demands... especially since when we do it is rather mind blowing

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RE: Accomodating a Masters more intense sex drive, advi... - 3/27/2011 8:48:47 AM   
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Laughs

She doesn't have to keep up, but she sure better be good at bending over and spreading....like all good gals should :-)


Yeah, i tried no in the past with very bad results.

Namaste,

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RE: Accomodating a Masters more intense sex drive, advi... - 3/27/2011 9:11:30 AM   
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ORIGINAL: scottishdove

When i first discovered i was submissive, my sex drive shot through the roof the point of being almost obsessive, and very distracting. at that point i could have kept up.

now, 3 years later, it has mellowed and is more of an average sex drive. my emotional desire to submit is still as strong.

i am willing to submit and participate in sexual activity to please my Master. i just want advice from other submissives and slaves with average sex drives who have been in the same situation, to find out how they handled the situation to keep their Master happy and keep themselves happy as well. how they dealt with it in attitude and physically.



I suppose that my sex-drive doesn't come into it really.  I don't have sex to please him, I have sex because he wants sex and the majority of the time I am as keen as mustard. When I'm not THAT interested I'm still very much onboard because of our relationship. I get a lot out of sex at those times because it's very intimate.

The attitude part....Between us, it's his *right* to have sex when he wants to.....and I completely embrace and am enthusiastic about that because it's part of what makes our relationship what it is.(along with lots of other things)

The physical part...well, I just do it. It's not as if I have to produce an erection or something tricky.

agirl


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RE: Accomodating a Masters more intense sex drive, advi... - 3/27/2011 9:13:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Kana

Laughs

She doesn't have to keep up, but she sure better be good at bending over and spreading....like all good gals should :-)


Yeah, i tried no in the past with very bad results.

Namaste,

~porcelaine



I've squeaked out * Enough Master* in the past with equally bad results. :)

agirl



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RE: Accomodating a Masters more intense sex drive, advi... - 3/27/2011 9:19:00 AM   
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ORIGINAL: scottishdove
i am willing to submit and participate in sexual activity to please my Master. i just want advice from other submissives and slaves with average sex drives who have been in the same situation, to find out how they handled the situation to keep their Master happy and keep themselves happy as well. how they dealt with it in attitude and physically.

Well, for Carol and I this is a bit tricky because I'm not a sadist. I see "taking Carol" as very different from "making love to her". Sometimes I want one of those, sometimes the other, and sometimes either will satisfy. If I want her to be "in the mood" then I command her to do that -- a command which is usually but not always successful. If I just want to take her then that's easy.

One of the things we've found is that whether or not Carol is "in the mood" before we get going, it's pretty likely she'll be participating just fine after the fact.

"No" would not be a workable answer in our marriage.

I agree with agirl... what exactly is the problem? In your own description he wants sex, you're willing, seems workable.


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RE: Accomodating a Masters more intense sex drive, advi... - 3/27/2011 9:39:53 AM   
avena


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Status: offline 		I don't know that I have an 'average' sex drive, but I do know that D is the first man ever to be able to routinely and consistently wear me out, and still want more himself. Three, four, or more sessions in a given day when we're together, isn't unusual. I tend to nap a lot on those weekends

But we are in a long distance relationship, and those weekends only happen once a month, so I'm not sure how it'll be when we're closer together.

To answer your question though, like others have said, we have sex when he wants to have sex. It doesn't matter if I'm physically and mentally exhausted, he still expects me to put an effort into participating. But it's the effort that he wants to see, not the end result. As long as I try, he has no problem at all finishing, usually all over my chest, face, or ass. And since he's obviously intimately familiar with how much 'work' I've already put into things over the course of the day, he tends to be considerate of my energy levels.

My favourite time of the day is just before bed, when he knows I'm already worn out from activities earlier in the day. Those 'bedtime' sessions tend to consist of me being tied up, beaten, and then fucked senseless...and the only effort required from me is to give him my reactions that he loves so much.

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RE: Accomodating a Masters more intense sex drive, advi... - 3/27/2011 10:46:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		To my mind it depends on how your relationship is structured. In my case, I'd expect you to raise the issue with me so we could discuss it, and I could decide what to do about it. For others you'd be expected to just put up with it whether you like it or not...lay back and think of England (or in your case Scotland) and all that.

Oldhen has a very good suggestion, there are many, many fun and exciting ways to please him that don't involve regular sex. There are also many, many ways to get you interested as well. When he wants it, do a sexy striptease for him instead of just yanking your pants down...that has a good chance of getting you in the mood, and will, in all likelihood, be pleasing to him as well.

Be inventive, use your imagination...hell if you have to close your eyes and pretend he's Clint Eastwood (or the movie hunk/babe of your choice). Run your favourite fantasies through your mind as he fucks you, most of the time we men really don't give a fuck what you're thinking about during a simple wick dipping.


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