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dick withdrawls - 4/4/2011 11:29:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		hi , im new to this lifestyle only 4 scenes i found myself laying in bed sad and crying because i'm needing dick . my 5 yr old son saw me upset and does wat he does best put a smile on my face and asked to watch a movie with me so i wouldnt b alone awwwwww he is so sweet . i have been studying and reading discussions which is making me hot and masturbating doesnt help . actually quiet the oppisite any suggestions I don't really have no way to find a boy toy frm my bdrm very well always home with kids what can I do to help me deal with this

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RE: dick withdrawls - 4/4/2011 11:34:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would say take yourself away from the stimuli (discussions and studying and reading) and try to find something else to occupy your time. Your son sounds like a sweet kid, go play with him and spend lots of time with him.

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RE: dick withdrawls - 4/4/2011 11:46:31 PM   
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RE: dick withdrawls - 4/4/2011 11:46:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		OK OP - here's the reality thing.

You have a 5 year old and you're with him 24/7? Do you have family who can babysit once in a while to allow you to go out?

If the answer is yes, then you need to take control of your life and MAKE the opportunities to meet men. Sitting back and doing the 'woe is me' is not going to help anyone, least of all a 5 year old who is going to be upset at finding his mum crying.

If the answer is no, then you need to keep away from the stuff that is making you horny/upset and start trying to find ways to get a real life away from online fantasies.

It's easy to get upset when you're feeling alone and missing the company of a partner, and it's hard to do something about it. The decision is yours as to whether you take the easy route to misery or the harder route to fulfillment.



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RE: dick withdrawls - 4/4/2011 11:47:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		I read an article once by a man advocating long-term chastity as a way to achieve intellectual and creative purity, and there was a quote that stuck with me:

If you leave your dick alone, it will leave you alone.

I expect you could substitute one organ for the other and have much the same result.


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RE: dick withdrawls - 4/4/2011 11:58:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yeah, I lived that life and it wasn't easy. I put aside the things that made me resent my son so that I'd be happier doing what I had to do which was take care of him. He deserved a mother who cherished him, not one who put up with him. I went back to school, I cultivated friendships, I worked part time, I took him out places, I did everything I could to live a full and vibrant life so I wouldn't miss the private things so much and it worked pretty damn well.

It sounds trite but tell yourself that dick isn't on the menu right now, and then go about making the best of what you do have. It works to stay busy. Don't stop there with filling your time, see how you can improve yourself. It makes a huge difference.

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RE: dick withdrawls - 4/5/2011 12:09:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		What everyone else said, OP.


Do you want to show your son how to:

A) wallow in self-pity

or

B) how to take proper steps (gain and use proper coping skills, etc.) to enjoy life?


(HINT: the correct answer is B.)




Your son is watching you, and will model your behavior. Proper parenting means setting a good example for him to follow. If you do not know good coping skills, it is your responsibility to fix that ASAP- so that you'll be able to teach him. Its not his job to cheer you up. Get help right away if you need it, so that he doesn't have to parent you.




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RE: dick withdrawls - 4/5/2011 12:27:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would say get your priorities straight and worry about the um in your house, rather than your own personal frustrations.  That's what being a parent is about.  Putting your kid first.

By the way, you don't really "need" dick.  You want it.  Which, in and of itself is fine.  Just don't act like your life will cease without it.  Have an evening out one time a month and get all of the dick you want.  Have a party!  The rest of the time, dedicate yourself to the little person who really does NEED  you.


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RE: dick withdrawls - 4/5/2011 1:51:41 AM   
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Status: offline 		Nobody ever died of celibacy. I know, I just finished a 10 year stint with it. Trust me you will survive until such a time as you can get out and play. Don't make the little one suffer because you are getting yourself all worked up. Your first priority should be him, not some dick you haven't even met yet.

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RE: dick withdrawls - 4/5/2011 1:59:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		On this alt sex lifestyle forum, you will rarely see me agree with the solutions designed for prudes.  We aren't dickless, conflicted gay priests in a closet or nuns with dusty cunts where the solution to everything is cold showers, prayer and abstinence.  A decent human can go get laid and raise a kid.  Somehow I don't see where your OP indicates you have your priorities out of alignment.  Yo aren't neglecting your family, your job or your health while you are lost for days on end in some serial cock gobbling quest that has you fucking in allies and bar bathrooms.

Auburn, WA population - 70,180
Your bedroom population - 1
Try finding dick volunteers outside your bedroom.  Go out to a munch, a party or an event.
Hire a babysitter or make your potential dick volunteer pay for it
Buy lots of condoms, spread legs, have at it until you smell burning rubber
Squeegee yourself clean, go home and get some rest and go back to watching movies with your kid


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RE: dick withdrawls - 4/5/2011 2:32:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		plan your time and life better
as people have pointed out, don't put your selfpity onto your kid, it is bad parenting but to make sure you have a plan in place to have night off at least once or twice a month to let your hair down in an adult fashion is very liberating stimulating and lovely.

be aware that there is a difference between looking for sex and looking for a suitable partner

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RE: dick withdrawls - 4/5/2011 3:29:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		The desire for sex is natural and I guess that raising a kid on your own can be very frustrating.
It's ok to go and get laid.
What you want to avoid is having lots of different men meeting your son and then disappearing out of his life.
Kids need stability.
If they don't get it they grow up with anxiety problems.
here in UK if a single woman goes to a pub, she is likely to get any number of offers before night is out.
If you want more than just a shag/orgasm try dating sites, lots of decent single blokes happy to take on woman and kid.


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RE: dick withdrawls - 4/5/2011 3:53:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		Exercise till exhaustion.
You can do this to a dance program with your kid right there and dancing with you. Trade sleepovers once a month with a friend who has kids the same age.
Date single fathers who have the same priorities you do. 

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RE: dick withdrawls - 4/5/2011 4:10:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		Let's see, you are working yourself up into a sexual frenzy so intense it makes you cry, then expecting your five year old to pull you out of it?

Grow up and realize your sexual needs have to take back burner to your other priorities. You appear to be the single mother of more than one child. That's your priority, and you don't need a stranger to tell you this.

I got that you are young and horny. As has been suggested, find a babysitter (even if you have to exchange services with another single mom) and go out and get laid every now and then. You are a reasonably attractive female who wants sex, finding an obliging male should be easy. Just don't expect him to rescue you from your many responsibilities.

If you want an actual relationship, that might take more than an online "I need dick" message. For your kid's sake, you need to be careful who you bring home and into their life.

Good luck.






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RE: dick withdrawls - 4/5/2011 4:41:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		Your journal from yesterday says you are a wreck because you have not heard from sir, and you don't want to be a bother so you won't message him.  Here you say you want a boytoy.  You sit and look at things that will make you horny, knowing that will aggravate you more AND you are the single parent of a 5 year old?

I really expected to see your age in the 20's.  Since it is in the 40's, my advice is different.

Put on your big girl panties and deal with it.  You made the choices that got you here, make the best of it.

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RE: dick withdrawls - 4/5/2011 5:12:07 AM   
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RE: dick withdrawls - 4/5/2011 5:25:29 AM   
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quote:

hi , im new to this lifestyle only 4 scenes i found myself laying in bed sad and crying because i'm needing dick . my 5 yr old son saw me upset and does wat he does best put a smile on my face and asked to watch a movie with me so i wouldnt b alone awwwwww he is so sweet
laying in bed feeling sorry for yourself and pining for a piece of ass while caring for a five year old is not cool. In fact..it is poor parenting in my book. You will probably always be able to find a willing cock, but your time to embrace a snugglie five year old is very brief.

Get your act together and realize what is important, Mom.


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RE: dick withdrawls - 4/5/2011 5:29:24 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BeautifulSufforing

hi , im new to this lifestyle only 4 scenes i found myself laying in bed sad and crying because i'm needing dick . my 5 yr old son saw me upset and does wat he does best put a smile on my face and asked to watch a movie with me so i wouldnt b alone awwwwww he is so sweet . i have been studying and reading discussions which is making me hot and masturbating doesnt help . actually quiet the oppisite any suggestions I don't really have no way to find a boy toy frm my bdrm very well always home with kids what can I do to help me deal with this



MY advice...
Grow the fuck up, accept responsibility for the priorities in your life, and realize that sex, while great (spectacular if done with moi-:-)) ain't the end all and be all.



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RE: dick withdrawls - 4/5/2011 5:29:25 AM   
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Grow up and realize your sexual needs have to take back burner to your other priorities. You appear to be the single mother of more than one child. That's your priority, and you don't need a stranger to tell you this.
sadly, i fear she does

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RE: dick withdrawls - 4/5/2011 7:02:35 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

quote:

Grow up and realize your sexual needs have to take back burner to your other priorities. You appear to be the single mother of more than one child. That's your priority, and you don't need a stranger to tell you this.


sadly, i fear she does


My bad. I should have amended my statement to:    . . . you should not need a stranger to tell you this.




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