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Proprietrix -> RE: Bath and candles (5/8/2006 2:45:15 PM)

Would your peers feel better if you ran the water forcefully and said "Get in the tub now bitch!"
heh
Followed by "Don't make me use the loofa!"
lol
Your peers need to soak in a hot tub to relax if they're so bunched up about your subbie's bathing habits.



Littlepita -> RE: Bath and candles (5/8/2006 2:58:03 PM)

I remember when my Master gave me a bubble bath and then a full body massage while wanting nothing in return. He knows it's hard for me to only receive and he is determined that I learn. If he wants to do something very special for me then that is his right. I do however plan to return the bath and massage next week on his birthday. [;)]



MrrPete -> RE: Bath and candles (5/8/2006 3:05:41 PM)

subs, submit to your Dominant.
Dominants, love your sub as yourself

Nice way to show your love to your sub.

I'll have to keep that in mind for when I find a sub.

Mr. Pete



bandit25 -> RE: Bath and candles (5/8/2006 3:15:25 PM)

My dom draws a bath for me every so often and I LOVE it.  He's just showing me how much he cares for me.



KatyLied -> RE: Bath and candles (5/8/2006 3:44:18 PM)

quote:

If I want to draw a bath for my girl, complete with candles?. Does it make me less or more of a dominant? I have no problem with doing it. But, sometimes I feel my peers don't agree.


I think your girl is lucky!



artglfr -> RE: Bath and candles (5/8/2006 3:48:09 PM)

Peers don't agree? So what you are the Dom! Do what you like, if it feels good to You do it.



CrappyDom -> RE: Bath and candles (5/8/2006 3:55:41 PM)

Iron Bear, thanks for the great quote! 
quote:

Firstly you and you lone decide who you recognise as your peers....
and if you want your submissive to put a strap on do you from behind, more power to you, making your own reality is what being dominant is all about.

That said, you want to spoil her, (and trust me, yourself as well) go down to Bath and Body or something similar, even some drug stores now have  them and get a pair of those bath gloves, they are made of a soft version of a scrubby pad.  I love being washed all over with them, especially my back...and she will as well unless her skin is super sentitive.

I mean come on, if you can't spoil her once in a while, whats the fun in having her?



puella -> RE: Bath and candles (5/8/2006 4:00:50 PM)

Cruelty is not the only way to impress a woman's slavery upon her.

Remember the saying.. You can win more flies with honey than salt?

You are her Dom/Master... you use what ever pleases you to enforce your control over that woman. 

I do not understand, personally, the mentality that love and kindness makes you a weak owner...

Versatility always makes you more adaptable, and stronger.



DaimonDog -> RE: Bath and candles (5/8/2006 4:37:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Proprietrix

Would your peers feel better if you ran the water forcefully and said "Get in the tub now bitch!"
heh
Followed by "Don't make me use the loofa!"
lol
Your peers need to soak in a hot tub to relax if they're so bunched up about your subbie's bathing habits.


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IronBear -> RE: Bath and candles (5/8/2006 4:58:48 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

Iron Bear, thanks for the great quote! 
quote:

Firstly you and you lone decide who you recognise as your peers....
and if you want your submissive to put a strap on do you from behind, more power to you, making your own reality is what being dominant is all about.



Can't you see it CD, A new controversial thread, "My Peers are better than your Peers"?

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Rayne58 -> RE: Bath and candles (5/8/2006 5:00:05 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Lasttime2

If I want to draw a bath for my girl, complete with candles?. Does it make me less or more of a dominant? I have no problem with doing it. But, sometimes I feel my peers don't agree.


I remember the first time Master ran me a bubble bath with candles.....I was asleep on the couch and He woke me gently and led me to the bathroom. There was a very full bath with bubbles, candles and my favourite drink. NO ONE had ever done that for me before, I was speechless. He helped me undress and get into the bath and then He left me to relax and soak for as long as I liked.

He buys me flowers, we share lots of kisses and cuddles. Who says there's no romance in D/s [;)] When I broke my toe a couple months ago He was looking after me - oh how uncomfortable I felt not being able to do the things I normally did for Him! [8|] Like pita I find it hard to receive both care and pleasure without wanting to give in return. However in His mind it's something I need to learn so I will be good and obey [;)][:D]



kyraofMists -> RE: Bath and candles (5/8/2006 5:21:18 PM)

My Lord once gave me a bath, complete with using a salt scrub and shaving me.  Of course, my flesh was a little raw with fingernail and knife scratches.  It was all rather sensuously sadistic.  It certainly didn’t make him less dominant in my eyes.

Knight's kyra



KnightofMists -> RE: Bath and candles (5/8/2006 7:06:01 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lasttime2

But, sometimes I feel my peers don't agree.


AND why should you care???!!!!  They don't walk in your shoes and you don't walk in theirs!

What matters is that your happy with own steps and those steps do well for you and those you care about.



maybemaybenot -> RE: Bath and candles (5/8/2006 8:21:50 PM)

My first Dominant made me breakfast every Sunday I can recall. I was allowed to sleep in on that day and he brought my breakfast to me in bed. He climbed in with me < breakfast was actually for two> and then we would lay in bed for the morning and read the newspaper together.

In my eyes, that was an expression of his Dominance. It made me feel very special and very appreciated. Where is it written that submissives are not entitled to be pampered if that is the choice of the Dominant ? What's the difference between tender aftercare and doing something special just because you want to? Both are loving acts.

                mbmbn




quietkitten -> RE: Bath and candles (5/8/2006 8:33:48 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Proprietrix

Would your peers feel better if you ran the water forcefully and said "Get in the tub now bitch!"
heh
Followed by "Don't make me use the loofa!"
lol
Your peers need to soak in a hot tub to relax if they're so bunched up about your subbie's bathing habits.


I love your posts!!  [:D]



Vendaval -> RE: Bath and candles (5/8/2006 8:51:31 PM)

Do what makes you feel happy.  What goes on behind closed doors between you and your slave/sub is not for your peers to decide.  If you think they will be disapproving, why bother telling them in the first place?
 
Vendaval
 

 



skinnykitten -> RE: Bath and candles (5/8/2006 11:13:35 PM)

This is slightly off the point, but I recall a few years back when I was watching the movie 'Secretary' with an aquaintance who could best be described as anti-bdsm.  I don't know how many here have seen this movie, but anyway... Throughout the movie this friend - let's call her Jane  was railing against Leigh's character, how she was allowing herself to be taken advantage of / abused by Mr. Gray, whatever - you know the drill, why would she want him, he's sick, she's not getting anything from him but abuse etc etc.  Towards the end of the movie Mr. Gray requires Leigh to prove her devotion to their relationship.  He orders her to stay put on a chair until he returns for her, ends up being a relatively humiliating ordeal.  He doesn't return for quite a few days  (Jane's commentary:  WTF is wrong with her, why doesn't she just get up, why would she put up with this, God, he's such an A***hole).  Eventually, Leigh passes out from exhaustion, Mr. Gray comes in, picks her up and takes her to his house.  The next shot is of Leigh in the bathtub, totally exhausted but blissed out, and Mr. Gray is washing her hair, attentive and gentle.  At this point, my friend Jane just says, 'oh'.  It was a very telling 'oh'.  The penny had dropped. 
 
Long winded for sure, and, sin of sins, taken from a movie and not a real life experience : )  My point though, is that D/s relationships are essentially symbiotic.  It's not a one way street.  The dominant energy feeds off the submissive energy, and vice versa.  As such, anything that makes a submissive feel special or appreciated is only going to enhance the dynamic, not undermine it.  The act of running a bath with candles is simply that; a demonstration of care that the one has for the other.  Kind acts such as this will, if anything, replenish and invigorate the dynamic.  Example:  I know for myself, when my partner does something sweet for me, it only makes me love him and appreciate him more.  It also reinforces in my mind the value he places upon me, which just makes me even more determined to live up to that high esteem.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Bath and candles (5/9/2006 5:44:17 AM)

Can I try and make it simple?

I consider myself a fairly nice and giving person.

I want the people in my life to also be fairly nice and giving people.

Thus, we will tend to do fairly nice and giving things for eachother.

I think people take Ds and Ms and let it really complicate and cloud what they "can" or "should" do in their lives.  For me it's not always about proving devotion, expressing love, or forcing service, or allowing service, or signalling who is in charge.  Those are all THERE and certainly a part of it, but we're not really THINKING about that when we do something nice.  When I go to the store and think "Oh, he would LOVE that" I'm not thinking "and it makes me such a good submissive to do this and I can show my love to him and express what good attention I pay to him, blah blah blah."

No, I think "Oh he would LOVE that" grab it and then look back down on my grocery list, happy and hoping there would be some good cuts of meat to pick up.

We're just nice people and thus we tend to do nice things. 



KatyLied -> RE: Bath and candles (5/9/2006 5:48:10 AM)

My Dom always makes the coffee.  Does that make him less dominant?  I don't think so.  I fix breakfast.  I serve the coffee.  Does that make me sub enough? 

Do what works for you.  Don't worry about other's opinions.

[;)]



SweetEscravo -> RE: Bath and candles (5/9/2006 9:14:29 AM)

Whats wrong with that?  Everyone could use a little pampering now and then...just make sure the sub desearves it and fully appriciates it.  Whats wrong with a dom taking good care of this property?



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