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Honest Question - 4/7/2011 7:24:41 PM   
BonerBob321


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Dear Dominatrix Women

My question is direct but meant to better understand myself. Since the first grade (yes the first grade) I have always desired to worship a lady. My particular fetish is a fixation on the woman's posterior. I dream of having a woman facesit me and control my breathing. However, a woman is different and probably thinks this stupid. So she might comply with a guy's request but prefers other dominant activity. Your comment please.


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RE: Honest Question - 4/7/2011 10:57:01 PM   
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If I have taken a sub and know his personal preferences then as long as they are not in conflict with what I am prepared to do then I will accommodate him - after all what better way to exert control over someone than to use their own desires to "hook them in"

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RE: Honest Question - 4/7/2011 11:02:11 PM   
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BonerBob321,

At the risk of generalization, I'll say the following.  Most dominant women do things on their own terms and this includes activities like face sitting and breath control.  Are there women who enjoy these activities?  Yes, absolutely there are.  However, the dominant women I know wouldn't consider sharing these activities with someone they don't know well and don't like.  Consider a random person walking up and saying "hey Miss Dominant Woman... it's your lucky day because I'm offering to let you sit on my face!"  This kind of offer, when made on the Internet, is likely to get you ignored and blocked.  When made in person, you'd more likely get a slap in the face or some other gesture indicating disdain.

So how do you entice a domme to want to share these activities with you?  You get to know her as a person.  Allow chemistry to develop.  Follow her lead and the way things organically develop.  Behave as a gentleman and treat her with grace, courtesy, and kindness.  If appropriate, romance and court her as you would anyone else.  Share your personality, interests, and sense of humour outside of BDSM, and see if the two of you enjoy spending time together.  All BDSM develops from this base.  Keep in mind that some dommes will like the activities you've listed and others will loathe them.  Thus, if these are really important to you, at some point you'll need to discuss this, but leading with this is a really bad idea.  A good time to discuss this is when she knows you well enough and asks (on her own) what activities you like.  You might also consider adding these activities in your profile.

If you just want your face sitting needs met immediately, you can go to a professional domme.  Having said this, if this is the route you choose to go, the fees are typically quite high ($150 to $300 per hour) so this isn't feasible for those without appropriate funds.

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RE: Honest Question - 4/8/2011 4:08:55 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: BonerBob321

Dear Dominatrix Women

My question is direct but meant to better understand myself. Since the first grade (yes the first grade) I have always desired to worship a lady. My particular fetish is a fixation on the woman's posterior. I dream of having a woman facesit me and control my breathing. However, a woman is different and probably thinks this stupid. So she might comply with a guy's request but prefers other dominant activity. Your comment please.


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Call me picky, but I just don't see a question in this post. What I read, instead, is a person stating their kink wish.

OP, when a man comes at me (online) with nothing but kink/sex in hand, any interest I might have had goes out like a fire with nothing of substance to feed it. It makes me feel like a drive-thru...."I'll have one female ass and some face-sitting to go please."

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RE: Honest Question - 4/8/2011 5:01:15 AM   
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Well having started such a thread congratulations on being a One Kink Wonder.

What is a One Kink Wonder you may ask? A One Kink Wonder is a submissive, usually a male, who becomes incredibly focussed and obsessed with one particular kink. It takes over. It dominates his entire life. It can ruin relationships, endless hours are taken up on the Internet typing in specific words on search engines and seeking the One Kink, bringing feelings of excitement, wonder, arousal, and quite a few stiffies.

It can take away so much time, for a trigger can happen anywhere, at any time, at any place. A trigger can be a word in a conversation, a woman walking by you on the street, a picture on the Internet and that's it.. you're gone.. You struggle to get through the rest of the working day. You come home from the supermarket having bought turkey drumsticks and you cannot understand why. And it can lead to furtive twenty minute marathons in the cubicle at work as you work yourself up furiously trying to conjure up the images and imagine just for that release. You get jizz on your fingers, your dating skills and your attention span suffers, and it can really screw up your life.

The problem is is that any potential friendship or relationship you could have with any woman becomes a victim to The Kink, or even The Kinks (yes 'you really got me' you say to yourself) as it becomes the most vital, essential piece of information - does she enjoy The Kink? Is she into it? Will you both be able to Share The Kink and live happily ever after? You cannot rest until you find this piece of information, it disturbs your sleep, your concentration. She never understands, she takes you for a pervert, a horndog, she feels cheapened, objectified, and she moves on.

And so do you, dominated not by any woman, but by The Kink..

Or in your case.. The Kinks, and I am not referring to the 1960's rock band.

In fact, given your OP and your age I would have you pegged as a One Kink Wonder. Especially if you've been going round with the same thoughts and the same fantasies in your head since first grade.

The screen name is not encouraging. 'Boner Bob'. Tell me, do you walk up to people at places like munches and parties and say 'Hi, I'm Boner Bob on CM'? You must have a wicked reputation. I can just see the eye rolls coming from dommes when they get 'New Messages' and see the pale blue letters 'Boner Bob'.

Two things. First thing, BDSM is all in the mind, this is where it starts. The boner comes much later, right at the end, after you have shown someone just how intelligent you are, your personality, and what you can offer a woman emotionally and intellectually. Dominant women are generally pretty intelligent women, they need stimulation, attention. 'Boner Bob' just doesn't cut it. It states the obvious, you are male, you have a boner.

Second thing, everyone is kinky, even if they don't admit it. You come across as Captain Obvious, stating your kink right out, indicating that you have a boner, and that you have always wanted to worship a lady. What? Any lady? The first woman who comes along?

At your age you really should know better, but you don't, because you are a One Kink Wonder.

You seriously need to take a chill pill, get over the kink, and brush up on some really basic gentlemanly dating skills if you're ever going to get anywhere.

Seriously.

< Message edited by stellauk -- 4/8/2011 5:02:02 AM >


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RE: Honest Question - 4/8/2011 5:46:10 AM   
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Yea, I like women's asses too. Sex is also good. sooooooooo

You said at the beginning there was going to be a question. Did I miss it somewhere?


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RE: Honest Question - 4/8/2011 8:49:58 AM   
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I just gotta say..........The threads created by the general, drive by, sub male population on this site, make me roll my eyes more than any other. They also make me VERY VERY VERY glad I've no interest in sub males.

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RE: Honest Question - 4/8/2011 4:59:39 PM   
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Bob, I have two comments.

1. For God's sake, change your screen name.
2. You look at this as binary - will she or won't she?  I can guarantee you that even a woman who lives for facesitting will not do it if she doesn't like the guy.  So look at this as something that a woman might do, might not do, etc.

Once you think of her as a woman you can make happy, and not just an ass planted in your face, you will do much better.


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RE: Honest Question - 4/8/2011 5:08:23 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I just gotta say..........The threads created by the general, drive by, sub male population on this site, make me roll my eyes more than any other. They also make me VERY VERY VERY glad I've no interest in sub males.

They aren't all that way, LaT.  Some of them really are quite good.  It's a question of quality.


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RE: Honest Question - 4/8/2011 5:09:32 PM   
Killerangel


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I saw the title of this thread and thought "How refreshing, someone has an honest question." Then I saw your username next to it and just thought oh....yuck.
Please OP, take the suggestion to change your nick to heart - you'll have to start a new profile, you can't just change the name on the one you have. Honestly, if I saw mail in my inbox from someone calling themselves BonerBob it would be tossed out in an instant. I'd never read it.

Also, you've received stellar advice here, take that to heart too.

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RE: Honest Question - 4/8/2011 5:13:39 PM   
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quote:

Once you think of her as a woman you can make happy, and not just an ass planted in your face, you will do much better.

this...


damnit Steven, i can't stop laughing


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RE: Honest Question - 4/8/2011 5:42:32 PM   
SnowRanger


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Thanks Lady Pact! I am glad somebody noticed!

LaT I can only say that, while I try to be patient with new male subbies on "Ask-A-Mistress," I rolled my eyes too!

Dark Steven is batting a thousand again. Now if he can just keep from getting grouchy!

Hi Bob 321,

As you can probably tell, questions like this are a dime a gross on Ask-A-Mistress.

To comment on your post: There are women who will indulge your kink whether they think it is stupid or not. Will they expect you to satisfy their kink(s)? Of course!

There is a lot I'd like to say here but my eyes are rolling like one of those old style slot machines.

Good Luck Bob.
Mike
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RE: Honest Question - 4/8/2011 7:00:06 PM   
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quote:

Dark Steven is batting a thousand again. Now if he can just keep from getting grouchy!
at his age i do believe it's called "crotchety"





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RE: Honest Question - 4/8/2011 9:47:49 PM   
DarkSteven


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Or "groinety".

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RE: Honest Question - 4/8/2011 10:12:52 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: thishereboi
Yea, I like women's asses too. Sex is also good. sooooooooo

You said at the beginning there was going to be a question. Did I miss it somewhere?
I love the people around here who make me laugh out loud. Thank you... And Stellauk, and... M

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RE: Honest Question - 4/9/2011 8:14:50 AM   
Real0ne


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I just gotta say..........The threads created by the general, drive by, sub male population on this site, make me roll my eyes more than any other. They also make me VERY VERY VERY glad I've no interest in sub males.

They aren't all that way, LaT.  Some of them really are quite good.  It's a question of quality.



Ironically the responses are often more entertaining than the questions.




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RE: Honest Question - 4/9/2011 9:11:33 AM   
LaTigresse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I just gotta say..........The threads created by the general, drive by, sub male population on this site, make me roll my eyes more than any other. They also make me VERY VERY VERY glad I've no interest in sub males.

They aren't all that way, LaT.  Some of them really are quite good.  It's a question of quality.




I agree and it is guys like old Boner up there that makes the few gems really sparkle.

I may not want to own a male but I can certainly appreciate the guys that stand out in a positive way.

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RE: Honest Question - 4/9/2011 10:12:57 AM   
DarkSteven


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
I can certainly appreciate the guys that stand out in a positive way.


Is there a certain length? 

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RE: Honest Question - 4/9/2011 2:04:23 PM   
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1.  Quit thinking of and talking about women like a life support system for an ass.  It is incredibly unflattering and objectifying to a woman to be seen as nothing more than tits and a whip, or an ass and a whip in your case.  It is a guaranteed recipe for failure at human relationships.

2.  Quit shoving your boner in people's faces as a first introduction.  That's another key ingredient in your recipe for failing at human relationships.  That means losing the explicit screen name and leading with good manners and an engaging personality, not your dick and an ass fetish.

There are plenty of dominant women who enjoy all kinds of kinky activities with their beloved, trusted submissives, their committed life partners, or just their play partners who are friends.  But they will not enjoy any degree of intimacy, sex or kink with someone who treats them like a *thing* to fulfill his ass fetish rather than like a human being.

If you don't care about the person and only want the ass, I strongly recommend you hire a professional and do a negotiated facesitting session.  The "fetish first" approach will not work for any kind of normal, non professional human relationship.  No femdom wants to be treated like a *thing* by someone who doesn't care about her and only wants her ass. 


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RE: Honest Question - 4/9/2011 3:17:54 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
I can certainly appreciate the guys that stand out in a positive way.


Is there a certain length? 


That was deeply, *deeply* poor, Steven. You have shamed North America with that joke.

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