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DiannaVesta -> Life on the Farm (5/8/2006 3:35:24 PM)

I wanted to pop in and say hello. I’ve been very busy with the last details of my sites. I am opening two community based sites. One is lifestyle female domination. I’ll keep you posted. The graphics are high fantasy. It’s all very exciting.


  I was in Florida wrapping up some business. When I came home 3 weeks later all the leaves were on the trees and the flowers I planted only a week before leaving were huge & in bloom. Gardening is hard work but so worth the rewards. I remember years ago writing articles for males looking to serve and impress a dominant woman & building her a nice garden was one of them. I even instructed one male to build me a vegetable & berry garden. I was impressed with his diligence in preparing this for me & tending to it. He did great for about 4 weeks.


  I just let a male go yesterday. I have an RV on my land and allowed him to stay in it. Of course it has full hook-up so its not a dump. One of his jobs was to plant a bunch of seeds for me so they would sprout when I returned ready to plant. He was also to till the pumpkin patch & an area to grow corn for the animals. To make a long story short this male had a bad habit of telling me he did something but never really did it. I started to notice this. Anyhow, I had a funny feeling when I came home. So Saturday I told him to hook up the sprinklers on the pumpkin patch and let me see the coverage. I plan on growing huge pumpkins and a very large area. I instructed him to come get me when it was hooked up.


  I went inside. My office overlooks my greenhouse and a portion of the pasture where the pumpkin patch is close to. I see him down there with the wheel barrel. I go out onto the deck to take a closer look and he’s planting damn pumpkin seeds! I go down there and he quickly hides the packs. I asked him since the hose did not seem to reach how he was watering the seeds. He said he carried buckets. Then I asked him if he planted them today. He said, “More or less.”


  I dismissed him. Yes, its pumpkins but he lied & as I walked around the farm I notice so many other things. This was pure laziness. What bothered me the most were things I saw that he didn’t do when it came to the animals. Maybe he didn’t starve them but his oversights left a bad taste in my mouth. Its not like he had anything else to do. I took good care of him but expected him to work and earn his keep.


  This made me think about other males I have had in this position and how they too began to slack in their day to day responsibilities. I’m talking about live-in full time slaves. If they were forgetful from time to time I can understand this but to purposely cut corners on MY instruction is unacceptable.  

I began to wonder if it was some type of unconscious conflict or passive aggressive behavior. Being a mom I know this happens with teenagers. I’m not saying that all males do this but a large enough portion to take notice. Speaking with other lifestyle ladies I see that they too have the same type of problems. Its more with the 24/7 slaves then the part timers. Maybe the key is to have them get a job and work when they get home, however in my perfect world EVERYTHING evolves around me! Lol


  So I left to my own defenses, all muddy and wondering how I’ll ever get all these seeds in.


  Its also my birthday! I just turned … 40 something! lol

I need slaves with real farm experience. Its time to put those stables to good use. <wink>
 




MsDominiquenz -> RE: Life on the Farm (5/8/2006 3:56:03 PM)

Firstly Happy Birthday Lady !!
Then..wow.. there is a lot in this posting that could be me, as I also have a few acres and the gardens and animals, and subs here are required to tend to them, only its the opposite time of year for me.
Im knee deep in apples and pears and fejoas and leaves and animals getting ready for winter, firewood sorting and olive pickling.

Yes... the same things happen here, and yes, they are down the road...byeee
Imagine the one sent outside to do some easy weeding who was found crouching down at the side of the house under a window reading a book.. sunnies and all !
I find those who have little to do, do nothing unless a whip is being cracked.. so I like my folk to have part-time work at least to balance their life and keep them on target.. it also gets them out from under my feet.

If a job isnt done and there is no reasonable excuse but a lie or coverup..thats a reflection on their submission and servitiude..so impress me.
Hope you enjoy your garden Goddess..mmm pumpkin soup !




DiannaVesta -> RE: Life on the Farm (5/8/2006 4:31:42 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MsDominiquenz

Firstly Happy Birthday Lady !!
Then..wow.. there is a lot in this posting that could be me, as I also have a few acres and the gardens and animals, and subs here are required to tend to them, only its the opposite time of year for me.
Im knee deep in apples and pears and fejoas and leaves and animals getting ready for winter, firewood sorting and olive pickling.

Yes... the same things happen here, and yes, they are down the road...byeee
Imagine the one sent outside to do some easy weeding who was found crouching down at the side of the house under a window reading a book.. sunnies and all !
I find those who have little to do, do nothing unless a whip is being cracked.. so I like my folk to have part-time work at least to balance their life and keep them on target.. it also gets them out from under my feet.

If a job isnt done and there is no reasonable excuse but a lie or coverup..thats a reflection on their submission and servitiude..so impress me.
Hope you enjoy your garden Goddess..mmm pumpkin soup !




Thank you!
  Yes, I agree that maybe a part time job is best. As long as they can balance submission at home with everyday life. Some do and some can’t. That is the hardest part of 24/7 submission in a femdom relationship.


  I prefer someone who is retired that has time to give me because my life is so demanding. I don’t need the extra income but I do need the help. The again money does buy more help. It’s hard, as I’m sure you know, to have hired workers around when you have slaves around unless everyone is really cool. Plus living in a small town you want additional privacy. I’m very careful.


  Where do you live?


  You know a lot of lifestyle ladies are into gardening and outdoors. In fact on the femdom site I think I am going to create a forum for us. How wonderful it would be to have a spring tea out by the garden with a few well trained garden slaves!!! Now that would be a very happy birthday!

Oh you know why I grow so many pumpkins? Not for the pumpkins but the flowers. have you ever had them battered and fried? Hmmmmmm.... gotta try that.
  GDV    




thetammyjo -> RE: Life on the Farm (5/8/2006 4:44:43 PM)

First, happy birthday!!!!

Second, I think everyone needs positive feedback and I'm sure you gave him that but since you also said that you were gone for a while, could your not being there have been a factor?

While Fox likes to have his time alone in the house when Tom and I go and so some couple thing (usually corresponding to something academic, thus it goes) he does it anxious for me to get back after about two days.

Did you have check-ins while you were gone? Did you leave someone else in charge to give feedback -- a friend or another slave?

While we'd love to think that in this consensual slavery someone will do a good job just because I think these mundane matters require even more feedback and positive strokes after they are done to make them worthwhile.

Just my thoughts and questions.

I'd love to have this much land!




littlesarbonn -> RE: Life on the Farm (5/8/2006 6:19:41 PM)

There may be something to the submissive having a regular job and then coming home to work when they get to you. Or maybe it's the person. I don't know.

Years ago, I was the live-in slave to a woman who ran a bdsm house. She really didn't ask that much of me, to be honest. She just liked having me around as I was always able to brighten her day with humor, stories or just being there.

But I found myself coming home from work, feeling like I wasn't really doing anything for her. So I went into the yard one day while she was doing all day sessions (the place was HUGE, by the way). Because the women who worked there were always inside, the outside was extremely unkept. So I started turning the outside into the aesthetic I felt it deserved. I spent probably four or five days of work outside before I think she finally realized I was out there doing something constructive, not just hanging out outside. I really made that place look great. I really did. But it was because I felt that she deserved more from me, and I didn't want her to feel she had to ask me to do it. I didn't even tell her I was doing it, because I didn't want the attention so many subs crave for when they pull mommy by the dress and say "Look what I did!!!!" I just wanted her to come out and see something beautiful, so that when she finished her work for the day, she could relax in something that would be pleasing to her.

This really all stemmed from one arbitrary comment she made when we went for a walk one day where she said "I really wish I had time to make the outside look right." I figured that's why I was there. I made the outside look right, so in essence, she DID have the time to make the outside look right.

To be honest, this is the part of the relationship I miss the most. I get so sick and tired of playing the "let me prove I'm real" game, and I just never seem to fit in to the whole bdsm scene thing anyway. Maybe it's just my frustration in this crappy area where I live. Who knows?




crouchingtigress -> RE: Life on the Farm (5/8/2006 9:08:15 PM)

Happy birthday! welcome back you have been missed.
 
Sorry about the boy, I am sure that hurt, but I am glad you let him go, lying is such a deal breaker.





brightspot -> RE: Life on the Farm (5/8/2006 10:53:58 PM)

It's nice to see your face has popped up, DV!
Happy Birthday! Another Taurus among us, my BD is in the
end of April and I know a couple others here have had a BD lately too.
 
My BD was dampen by the passing of a very close friend, I hope you were able to find some pleasure in your day[sm=flowers.gif].
I'm in the 40 something range too so I prefer not broadcast it anymore, lol.
 
I would love to try pumpkin flowers sometime haven't had the chance to do that yet, although I love to season and roast up a bunch of seeds in the fall.
 
Tsk, Tsk, on the guy and his lack of responsibilities especially where your animals are concerned. Hope you find someone who can tend to business more responsibly,  I hate to have animal worries when I travel.
Good luck with your sites!
 
*Brightspot




disretion7 -> RE: Life on the Farm (5/9/2006 1:10:32 AM)

Dear DiannaVesta,
 
Happy Birthday from an unknown.
 
I guess that is easy for me to say since I turn 62, today, on May 9.
 
Nobody is THAT old but, at least (for me) it was more certain than death or taxes.
 
with best wishes,
 
disretion7 (Phil)
--------------------------

quote:

ORIGINAL: DiannaVesta

I wanted to pop in and say hello. I’ve been very busy with the last details of my sites. I am opening two community based sites. One is lifestyle female domination. I’ll keep you posted. The graphics are high fantasy. It’s all very exciting.


I was in Florida wrapping up some business. When I came home 3 weeks later all the leaves were on the trees and the flowers I planted only a week before leaving were huge & in bloom. Gardening is hard work but so worth the rewards. I remember years ago writing articles for males looking to serve and impress a dominant woman & building her a nice garden was one of them. I even instructed one male to build me a vegetable & berry garden. I was impressed with his diligence in preparing this for me & tending to it. He did great for about 4 weeks.


I just let a male go yesterday. I have an RV on my land and allowed him to stay in it. Of course it has full hook-up so its not a dump. One of his jobs was to plant a bunch of seeds for me so they would sprout when I returned ready to plant. He was also to till the pumpkin patch & an area to grow corn for the animals. To make a long story short this male had a bad habit of telling me he did something but never really did it. I started to notice this. Anyhow, I had a funny feeling when I came home. So Saturday I told him to hook up the sprinklers on the pumpkin patch and let me see the coverage. I plan on growing huge pumpkins and a very large area. I instructed him to come get me when it was hooked up.


I went inside. My office overlooks my greenhouse and a portion of the pasture where the pumpkin patch is close to. I see him down there with the wheel barrel. I go out onto the deck to take a closer look and he’s planting damn pumpkin seeds! I go down there and he quickly hides the packs. I asked him since the hose did not seem to reach how he was watering the seeds. He said he carried buckets. Then I asked him if he planted them today. He said, “More or less.”


I dismissed him. Yes, its pumpkins but he lied & as I walked around the farm I notice so many other things. This was pure laziness. What bothered me the most were things I saw that he didn’t do when it came to the animals. Maybe he didn’t starve them but his oversights left a bad taste in my mouth. Its not like he had anything else to do. I took good care of him but expected him to work and earn his keep.


This made me think about other males I have had in this position and how they too began to slack in their day to day responsibilities. I’m talking about live-in full time slaves. If they were forgetful from time to time I can understand this but to purposely cut corners on MY instruction is unacceptable.  

I began to wonder if it was some type of unconscious conflict or passive aggressive behavior. Being a mom I know this happens with teenagers. I’m not saying that all males do this but a large enough portion to take notice. Speaking with other lifestyle ladies I see that they too have the same type of problems. Its more with the 24/7 slaves then the part timers. Maybe the key is to have them get a job and work when they get home, however in my perfect world EVERYTHING evolves around me! Lol


So I left to my own defenses, all muddy and wondering how I’ll ever get all these seeds in.


Its also my birthday! I just turned … 40 something! lol

I need slaves with real farm experience. Its time to put those stables to good use. <wink>





BlkTallFullfig -> RE: Life on the Farm (5/9/2006 1:28:10 AM)

Happy Birthday DV. [sm=flowers.gif]   
Sorry about the boy who didn't work out.   M




Oumae -> RE: Life on the Farm (5/9/2006 3:57:54 AM)

Happy Birthday from another Taurean but one who doesn't particularly have the green finger bug!

Oumae




MsDominiquenz -> RE: Life on the Farm (5/9/2006 5:01:49 AM)

Im in New Zealand close to Wellington, and your website that you mentioned to me a while ago via email sounds lovely..a community for FemDoms is desperately needed !!!  I was a part of one for almost 3 years.. wonderful stuff.

No, I havent eaten the pumkin flowers, sounds good.. and the garden party even better !
I have an outside bath, a few naked subs as crawling tables, water bearers, wine carriers, and nibble toters..gardensubs/gnomes ! Sounds like a Goddess weekend to me :)




MsKyln -> RE: Life on the Farm (5/9/2006 8:46:17 AM)

  Happy Birthday  !  

You know a lot of lifestyle ladies are into gardening and outdoors. In fact on the femdom site I think I am going to create a forum for us. How wonderful it would be to have a spring tea out by the garden with a few well trained garden slaves!!! Now that would be a very happy birthday!
 
A FemDomme garden area on the sight would be another Great additon to your columns !!  
 
Ms.Kat





DerLachendeKater -> RE: Life on the Farm (5/9/2006 10:40:38 AM)

first of all happy birthday
that said i just wanted to say that really sucks that you had to find out that way. i'm a live in pet and while i personally despise outside work partly becuase i burn and overheat very easily and partly out personal reasons if my mistress needs me to tend to the garden then i do so and in the rare instances that i don't i have one of the kids do it and give them the credit i belive lieing is one ofthe worst things a pet/sub can do and it should never be tolerated

anyways i guess what i'm trying to say is you deaserve better and i hope you find a really good sub




MistressWolfen -> RE: Life on the Farm (5/9/2006 10:54:36 AM)

Happy Belated Birthday!! DiannaVesta I am also in my 40's well trythfully creeping out of them LOL and live on a working ranch as well. I can identify with the challenge of reliable service in this area *sighs*, good luck with future boys and pffffttttt to the bad ones.




mixielicous -> RE: Life on the Farm (5/9/2006 11:08:24 AM)

this is just a random thread i came accross but i had to comment [even though i am slave to a Male] coz i go to agriculture school and the lives that you two [DiannaVesta and MsDominiquenz] have created for your slaves i think it just lovely! gardening and landscaping are my second livlihood [Him being first and farming being third] often i dream of the [small] farm i hope to tend to for Him. i am very strong and love this feature about myself because it means i can provide such a thing for my Master [fresh veggies and meat? hell yes] anywho. i just wanted to say that you ladies are pretty cool for that.

And also as a slave, on your PT job ponderings, for me that is what keeps me sane. "idle hands are the devils playground" plain and simple.




LaTigresse -> RE: Life on the Farm (5/9/2006 11:16:02 AM)

Happyyyyy Birthdayyyyyy!!!!!!!!!! I just had my 44th birthday a few days ago also. AND OH MY GAWD I cannot believe I know someone outside my Iowa family that eats fried pumpkin flowers, how very cool!! I love them and love the faces on people that I cook them for the first time.

I can empathise with your concern for you animals when you travel. It is the biggest reason I do not travel alot. My animals are my babies, especially the rescues that were abused. I am very picky how they are cared for and how they are treated. I actually really enjoy doing all the work on the farm I just wish I could do it full time rather than work an hours drive away and do the farm stuff evenings and weekends. However it was the choice I made and I do love the peace and quiet out there. I have been asked many times about moving. I reply "Sure I would move!.........To another farm!" .....unless of course they have LOADS of cash and several properties they are going to fly me around to, one of the being a farm........big sigh....

Sorry about the slacker, perhaps an energetic young woman that does not mind getting her hands in the dirt would do a better job. I know from working with my nephew's 4-H group and the people that boarded at various stables I did thru the years before getting land of my own that the women where much more attentive to the land and animals than the guys ever thought of being. Just an idea.....

Again, Happy Birthday!!!





MsDominiquenz -> RE: Life on the Farm (5/9/2006 1:36:59 PM)

Thanks mixelicious, you sound very cool also :) and would probably do better than the boys managing the FemDom kune kune piggy..Doris !




GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Life on the Farm (5/9/2006 5:48:53 PM)

Happy Birthday, Dianna...a day late, again. Life does get in the way, and I did not have much time to keep up in the last few days.
Another green thumb here, and a big fan of lovely garden tea parties.  Kind of a waste in the Sonoran Desert! *Smile*
I have considered, more than once, relocating and having a working ranch.  But I also worry about the dedication of these boys who say they want to submit, but don't want to do the work that goes along with it.
littlesarbonn...the invitation stands to visit Arizona! 
 




fastlane -> RE: Life on the Farm (5/9/2006 6:03:28 PM)

everything is good....even the number 11
inside joke
winks, Kevin




DiannaVesta -> RE: Life on the Farm (5/9/2006 6:38:14 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

There may be something to the submissive having a regular job and then coming home to work when they get to you. Or maybe it's the person. I don't know.

Years ago, I was the live-in slave to a woman who ran a bdsm house. She really didn't ask that much of me, to be honest. She just liked having me around as I was always able to brighten her day with humor, stories or just being there.

But I found myself coming home from work, feeling like I wasn't really doing anything for her. So I went into the yard one day while she was doing all day sessions (the place was HUGE, by the way). Because the women who worked there were always inside, the outside was extremely unkept. So I started turning the outside into the aesthetic I felt it deserved. I spent probably four or five days of work outside before I think she finally realized I was out there doing something constructive, not just hanging out outside. I really made that place look great. I really did. But it was because I felt that she deserved more from me, and I didn't want her to feel she had to ask me to do it. I didn't even tell her I was doing it, because I didn't want the attention so many subs crave for when they pull mommy by the dress and say "Look what I did!!!!" I just wanted her to come out and see something beautiful, so that when she finished her work for the day, she could relax in something that would be pleasing to her.

This really all stemmed from one arbitrary comment she made when we went for a walk one day where she said "I really wish I had time to make the outside look right." I figured that's why I was there. I made the outside look right, so in essence, she DID have the time to make the outside look right.

To be honest, this is the part of the relationship I miss the most. I get so sick and tired of playing the "let me prove I'm real" game, and I just never seem to fit in to the whole bdsm scene thing anyway. Maybe it's just my frustration in this crappy area where I live. Who knows?




I'm going to reply to everyones post. Thank you so much...

BUT YOU OF ALL PEOPLE ~ WHERE IS MY HAPPY BIRTHDAY????? Oh you're in big ass trouble D

More tomorrow over coffee.




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