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RE: opinions needed - 5/9/2006 7:14:45 PM

slavegirl18666

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I see everyone else stressing communication and i agree. Master and i often have our moments in which there becomes a large rift in our relationship and we live together, so, we sit down and speak to one another. You should have sit and spoke with him before anything went on, because you obviously felt this way before your session started, it was just the session that pushed you over. Someone else said something very important, you didn't safeword because you said you didn't want to deny him, but you denied his kiss later, in a way it looks like you might have been looking for a way to justify the reason you didn't feel comfortable in the relationship any longer. It happens, in any kind of relationship, it's a part of life. Sit down and look deep inside yourself before continuing to persue a relationship you might not really want. You might just be feeling guilt that it is over, as you're a sub, feeling guilty for causing the downfall of the relationship is natural. It's okay to let go, it will be hard, but it's okay. But, if it's something you feel that was misunderstood, by all means, go for it. Just make sure it makes you happy, no matter whatever you do.

Good luck!

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RE: opinions needed - 5/9/2006 9:23:44 PM

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thanks everyone for their responses and support. I now realize that i should have used my safe word. An additional reason that i didn't use it was because the physical pain was one which i had been able to withstand before. I knew i had been feeling off. I knew it was me and not Him. And when we started the session, i was fine. But obviously, it was lurking under the surface. And when it did arise, i thought, wrongly, that i could deal with it and when i could formalize my feelings and thoughts, we would talk. IMHO, there's nothing productive in Him asking me what's wrong when i can't verbalize what i'm feeling. Sometimes i need a day or so for my feelings to gel together. But the best laid plans sometimes backfired.

We have been talking before the post and will continue to communicate until a resolution is found.

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RE: opinions needed - 5/9/2006 9:44:33 PM

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There was a break-down in "connection". Can the connection be regained? Was it momentary or an indication of the bigger picture? Only you can decide...

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