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txironhead -> Greetings, earthlings.... (4/13/2011 8:59:24 PM)
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Okay, I just wanted to put something fun in the subject.
I have been a member of this site for some time now, lurking in the background. I originally joined back when I was married, as my wife and I had discussed the possibility of "sharing" a sub. Our marriage went south shortly after, and now I am here single, interested in learning more.
Few things about me: I am a dominant. I have actually given this a lot of thought and introspect, I didn't just think "hey, it would be fun to tie people up and spank them". I experimented with both sides of the coin while married, and I honestly enjoy exploring someone's boundaries and helping people encounter new experiences.
I make a lot of my own toys. I leave insertables to the professionals for now, but I have a decent collection of restraints, paddles, floggers, crops and other fun little gadgets. I am designing and planning some small, concealable furniture for future projects. It's a challenge in an apartment, but my band saw fits nicely in the coat closet.
I am constantly learning. I am currently studying "Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns", which is a definite eye-opener to some thought processes.
I am not heavily experienced. I was dom for my wife, to a limited extent (it was definitely a "bedroom-only" thing for her), and for one other sub after that I stopped having any relationship with once I realized that she was mentally unstable and I was not going to risk doing lasting harm. I understand that 90% of BDSM happens in the mind, and I knew that continuing play with her could end badly, for one or both of us. On a brighter note, she eventually took everyone's advice and got the help she needed and last I heard was in a healthy, albeit vanilla, relationship.
I have never been to a "Munch" or any kind of BDSM gathering or party. All that I have learned has been through research and personal practice. I would like to be able to see how others, more experienced than I, train and interact with their submissives. I would like to meet and get advice and tips from others. I know that these forums are a great place to talk with like-minded people, and hopefully I will find an event that is somewhat local to me.
I am looking for a submissive, but not very actively. I would not mind finding an experienced sub that would be able to teach me the finer points while allowing me to maintain the dominant aspect. Or it may be best to find someone suitable and we both learn as we go. I'm open to suggestions.
So that is me. Feel free to ask questions or for clarification on any points.
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