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valeca -> RE: Vanilla Sex...is it still possible? (5/10/2006 9:39:42 AM)
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I'm assuming you mean 'sex' in the sense of intercourse.
If you break sex down to its most basic elements, the mechanics, then, yes, vanilla sex is something we all do--lick, touch, blow, suck, stroke, insert, etc.
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I have found that whenever I've said never in my life I have always had the opportunity down the road to have to eat that word....lol. I've learned not to use that word casually anymore.
I think it would put a great deal of pressure on a partner to expect them to always be "ON". Not to mention, it would be sad to deprive them or myself of all of those sleepy, middle of the night encounters, the sweet morning wake my man up in a good mood blow jobs and the times when I can seduce him, climb on top and expect nothing more from him than for him to lay there and enjoy the experience (as I have found that men really like to do that once in while).
In what I consider to be a long term relationship, a few years into it I find that every single encounter does not necessarily have to be fireworks and screaming in agony....sometimes it is just two people who know each other so well they can just take pleasure in the intimacy of the moment and the cumulative experience of having learned each others bodies as well as their own.
Erin, elequently spoken, as usual.
As yummy as kink is (slurp), a steady diet of any one thing can become tedious. I see it in these terms. BDSM is like steak and lobster.. Awesome and delicious, but if that's all you'll ever allow yourself, much of the appeal is lost over time.
Vanilla may not be the most exciting flavour, but it is a flavour, nonetheless.
I prefer variety.
I understand some might feel differently if they don't have the 'steak and lobster' available to them on a 24/7 basis, and had to settle for 'mayo on white bread' more often than not. I'd probably feel the "no 'nilla, ever!" thing in that case, too.
Damn, now I'm hungry. Off to make lunch.
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