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RE: sub guys limits - 6/24/2011 9:15:47 PM

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Coookie is right on this. Each persons limits are their own and only for them to decide. I find that too many think their way is the only way. Find the person that understands your limits and agrees with them and will respect them. There is no one right answer except your own and that of course can change. Discuss your "no way in hell" limits as well as your "not interested but know that might change" limits.

I have not had the chance to be sub with anyone but did have a very brief moment with someone special (at that time) that gave me a very submissive feeling that I liked. I know that one limit I have is that this is a sexual interest and not a full time interest. It is also a interest that I want to be soft and slow and patient and not a domineering type thing. My interest is in orally pleasing a man or woman and having my ass used but that is mostly it. I say that I have no interest in kissing a guy but know that in the heat of things it could change and it might even be something I might like. I also have no interest in rimming although I have done it with a freshly showered woman and might again.

As you see most things are limits for me but some stuff I didn't mention might be ok while others would be a "hell no". LOL One fantasy I have is a woman that finally gets me to suck a guy but has a secret goal breaking my resistance to it and she never stops trying to build a need for it. In some ways it isn't a limit but in other ways it is. I feel that most people limit themselves sexually because of fear of rules that society has put in place and think women are especially restricted by it. I have known enough women that I think would love to let their sexuality out if it wasn't for fear that they would be called a slut etc and have seen a few actually say they like to have no limits. I think even the few that are gangbanged still hold back. So I love the idea of a woman that sees me as a project get my sexuality as a bi sub bottom to have no limits and try to turn that side into a pure, no thoughts just action, primal sexuality.

But keep open communication with the person on what your limits are and which ones that can be pushed and which ones might be broken. There will be some that are pretty hard limits unless a certain criteria happens first and that needs to be discussed as well.

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RE: sub guys limits - 6/26/2011 12:32:56 PM

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I agree with Coookie here, it is your own and can be different from one person to the other of course. And yes as Lady Pact has pointed out there are many things on the list besides hard limits.

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RE: sub guys limits - 6/26/2011 10:36:01 PM

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Limits are very individual, so it doesn't really MATTER what some other subs' limits are. I know I'm not a sub GUY, but mine are scat, kids, animals, AB/DL, death and dismemberment, actual injury/harm, whips and blood. No matter which side of the kneel I'm on at any given time. Some people have more limits and some have less. AND some limits may disappear the longer you are with someone and the more you trust them.

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RE: sub guys limits - 6/27/2011 7:39:39 PM

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There are a few limits related to general compatibility, such as non-smoking, permanent marks, etc. that are deal breakers. Then there are things that I would present to a potential partner as limits like a moderate level of pain tolerance and water sports that are really more of what I would consider 'advanced' activities, meaning I could do them but only as trust and submission have been developed. The interests checklists so common (and probably necessary and useful) on sites like CM can be a mixed blessing because they invite taking a stand on activities that I can't really decide on without a particular partner in mind.

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RE: sub guys limits - 7/2/2011 8:28:13 AM

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we all have limits and some of yours are very common. Although i have a few "hard" limits, i try to be open-minded to knew things and have often found that what was once a "limit" is now very enjoyable.

As for tributes, i have no problem paying someone for their time. And some people "get off" sending money blindly into cyberspace and to each his own

i have to agree with others though, if someone blocked you, it is really time to move on and get over it. Why waste time pursuing someone who seems to have no interest in you?

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RE: sub guys limits - 7/2/2011 5:13:41 PM

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ok new question, probably been done before.
generally guys, what are your limits when being dominated?
stuff you think isnt ok or just doesnt feel right for the time if youre meeting just to be dominated for an hour or so.
if prompted by a domme prior to meeting, what things would you request she doesnt involve during the session with her?

if you're asking about my pain tolerance during impact play, it's dropped to almost nothing because i haven't played for a long while. but anything that messes with my phobias are my limits

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