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hejira92 -> RE: Choice or no choice? (5/3/2011 5:14:30 PM)

If He had to micromanage every decision I make in a day- oy, vey! -I would not be a woman who would interest Him in the least.

If He cares, He makes the decision. If not, then either we decide together or I do. You see, He gets to decide if He wants to decide.

I will say that He has decided the next movie we see will definitely have explosions in it since the last two we went to were "The Kids are Alright" and "The King's Speech" (my choices, obviously).



mummyman321 -> RE: Choice or no choice? (5/3/2011 7:57:30 PM)

For play, sometimes its nice not to have a choice but in day to day life, sorry I have a brain and I am going to use it.



IrishMist -> RE: Choice or no choice? (5/3/2011 8:13:27 PM)

~FR~

Why do so many people get caught up in the non-reality aspects of relationships of this kind?

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Subs, do any of you want choices? Big and small ones? Or do you want to be controlled without any choice?


Seriously, what kind of a question is that. Submissives and slaves make CHOICES every single day of their lives, despite the fact that they are in relationships that 'say' I gave away my choice.

Making choices in life, or NOT making choices, has nothing to do with whether or not a person is in a D/s/M/s dynamic.
Making choices, or not making choices is a persons personal perogative. A submissive, for reasons of his/her own, MAKES THEIR OWN CHOICE on whether or not to FOLLOW the advice and direction of their partner/s. A slave, for reasons of his/her own, MAKES THEIR OWN CHOICE on whether or not to FOLLOW the advice and direction of their owner/s.

Life is nothing more than one choice after another. It has nothing to do with what kind of relationship you are in.



Futuresocks -> RE: Choice or no choice? (5/3/2011 9:35:44 PM)

Yes, I do want some choices. That's what I want to say. I think, of necessity, there will always be some. Not all dommes can micromanage every last thing. But I know I do better with fewer choices. I respond well to stress because I can cave and let another take over. But yes, a part of me would rather pick and choose, a big part of me. I can suspend my will for another's, and indeed, I strive with the greater levels of difficulty in obeying.



littleone35 -> RE: Choice or no choice? (5/4/2011 9:33:11 AM)

I make many choicies in my daily life. i decide what clothes i wear i mean most of my clothes have masters stamp of approval but he does not lay out my cloths for me. Sexually i don't want any choices I live everything he does. the only time i have a choice is if something is hurting me (like if i am tied up and get a muscle cramp) ., since we are not into pain play more sensation, pain is an issue. If he gives me a choice i can make one but i often don't get them. Except for what song he will use.

Matt's litleone



yummee -> RE: Choice or no choice? (5/4/2011 2:10:23 PM)

I make choices all the time, even choices that affect B directly. I choose what to wear, where to shop, what groceries to buy, the decor, what to pack for his lunch tomorrow, whether to mow the grass on Monday or on Friday, which restaurant to go to, the netflix movies, the cell phone plans, and on and on and on. I make those choices with B in mind, and occasionally I may make a choice with JUST ME in mind. Sometimes, I serve peas with supper! I LOVE peas, but B ... not so much. Sometimes he eats them ... sometimes not. Every now and then, I make the wrong choice, and B tells me which was the right choice and gives me the opportunity to choose correctly.



kiwisub12 -> RE: Choice or no choice? (5/4/2011 2:27:45 PM)

Life is full of choices - even if you think you have none - and my life is no different. Unless the dom wants to come up with every decision for a couple , the submissive has choices - even if it is as simple as sitting versus standing. As for couple choices - i expect to be given an option when the final decision isn't important to him. Like, where shall we eat? I can always come up with something i want to eat, and most of the time he doesn't care enough to make that decision.



sunshinemiss -> RE: Choice or no choice? (5/5/2011 12:55:01 AM)

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Quote of the Afternoon
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for
Is this like a chinese menu
where you pick one from column A and
two from column B and
if you add another person
you get eggrolls too?

*sorry I didn't notice it before...
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jewelsthepoet -> RE: Choice or no choice? (5/5/2011 5:22:59 PM)


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ORIGINAL: skylong

Subs, do any of you want choices? Big and small ones? Or do you want to be controlled without any choice?

For example:
"Do you want to sleep or play?"
"Do you want to suck or fingered?"
"Do you want me to play with your left or right side?"
Please notice I tried to include different levels of choices.

Slaves, I'm afraid you may have to skip this one. I know you are not allowed. But if you are, I'd like to hear from you too.





Absolutely want choices. At times, anyways, at times not. It depends on what's going on at the time. Subs aren't slaves, they have some freedoms and decisions that they make on their own, as well as choices in how they are treated and what kind of activities they are and aren't going to participate in.



IrishMist -> RE: Choice or no choice? (5/5/2011 5:38:19 PM)

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Subs aren't slaves, they have some freedoms and decisions that they make on their own, as well as choices in how they are treated and what kind of activities they are and aren't going to participate in.

And slaves are not mindless robots who are unable to think or do for themselves. Even when owned, they still are relied upon AND EXPECTED TO make choices.



faithbunny -> RE: Choice or no choice? (5/10/2011 12:23:06 PM)

I agree that it's nearly impossible to live a life where you never make choices. I also agree that my beloved wouldn't want me if I really wanted and needed him to make all the decisions. I run the household, take care of the kids, have a career. He likes his video game and beer-with-the-guys time. Overseeing every aspect of my life is not a responsibility he would want to take on... and I don't think I could live that way, regardless. I think I'm so much more interesting the way I am. If we weren't a serious longterm couple, just for fun and kinks, he might find it amusing for a day or a weekend, but 10 years? Uh-uh.

~faith



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