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HannahLynHeather -> RE: Honest Question (5/3/2011 11:47:40 PM)
quote: I hate TROLLS, they have no respect for the LS, they mostly think the LS is just for sex. paint green and call me loathsome and rubbery then, cause it IS for sex. it is sex. that's the whole freaking point dude. its all about the fucking. hannah lynn

MissImmortalPain -> RE: Honest Question (5/4/2011 12:20:33 AM)
Ok I have to admit I am wondering why a dom marine would ask how not to look like a troll in a forum made for subs....unless it is just to seem as if he has not been treated kindly and wants sympathy. (damn marines can be sneaky things) Really everything the others have told you is good advice. Don't rush things. Be honest. Be strong. Man up and don't expect this "lifestyle" to be any easier then the other kind when it comes to finding the right person.

RedMagic1 -> RE: Honest Question (5/4/2011 7:48:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HannahLynHeather paint green and call me loathsome and rubbery then Trollplay.

Jeffff -> RE: Honest Question (5/4/2011 7:54:03 AM)
As a troll of some repute, I believe I have no valuable input here.

RedMagic1 -> RE: Honest Question (5/4/2011 7:59:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff As a troll of some repute, I believe I have no valuable input here. Dude! Tulip is coming to Chicago! And I forgot I have your number. Want me to call you tonight? I will have to charge my old cell phone.

Jeffff -> RE: Honest Question (5/4/2011 7:59:44 AM)
Yes, do that.

jewelsthepoet -> RE: Honest Question (5/5/2011 5:26:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: USMCGUNNER1971 I have a honest question. I hate TROLLS, they have no respect for the LS, they mostly think the LS is just for sex. My question is how can a SWM DOM, find a SWF sub? While looking for the right one, and not look ad be treated like a TROLL? Did you ever consider that your approach to women may appear to be trollish? Think of how you word things, say things and what exactly is it that you say to someone when emailing them. Honestly, when i get emails asking about my bra size or if i like to fuck a certain way they go straight into the troll pile. And a boring "hi" email is absolutely pointless and a waste of my time and theirs. If they're serious, they'll email something worth reading.

akisha -> RE: Honest Question (5/5/2011 8:14:14 PM)
1. Have a profile that talks about real interests not just bdsm and sex. What you are interested in, and what you have to offer as well as what you are looking for. 2. How you approach someone on here is HUGE. talk to them like they are a person with a brain not someone you already own or a peice of fuck meat. I met alot of people on here including both my former Master and my current. Both started as ldr and moved to rt. What impressed me was they both talked to me as a person. Their initial message was not corny, cheese or lame. We treated each other as people, like we would if we met at a friends house.

sexyred1 -> RE: Honest Question (5/5/2011 9:37:00 PM)
I am glad the guy at least asked the question. I had a guy write me on FL tonight saying how much he loved my profile and wanted to get to know me. He cited nothing in my profile, just a generic statement. I then went to read his profile and saw that he had posted in every single thread where single subs posted and basically hit on almost every women in a 25 mile radius of where he lives in NJ. For a 52 year old man to do that and then expect me to be interested in chatting with him, is silly. It reeks of desperation. For me, someone at least needs to possess the finesse to not broadcast that he is hitting on any breathing female. Even if he is, no one wants to feel like just another estrogen receptacle.

gungadin09 -> RE: Honest Question (5/6/2011 5:47:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: USMCGUNNER1971 I have a honest question. I hate TROLLS, they have no respect for the LS, they mostly think the LS is just for sex. My question is how can a SWM DOM, find a SWF sub? While looking for the right one, and not look ad be treated like a TROLL? Well, i hate textspeak. [image]http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-rolleyes005.gif[/image] But, seriously, a troll is defined as someone who posts nonsense just to get people's goat, and NOT someone who is just out for sex. If you're getting the wrong types of responses, maybe you could be more specific in your profile about what you're looking for, and what you're NOT looking for. pam

risktaker9 -> RE: Honest Question (5/6/2011 7:52:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 I am glad the guy at least asked the question. I had a guy write me on FL tonight saying how much he loved my profile and wanted to get to know me. He cited nothing in my profile, just a generic statement. I then went to read his profile and saw that he had posted in every single thread where single subs posted and basically hit on almost every women in a 25 mile radius of where he lives in NJ. For a 52 year old man to do that and then expect me to be interested in chatting with him, is silly. It reeks of desperation. For me, someone at least needs to possess the finesse to not broadcast that he is hitting on any breathing female. Even if he is, no one wants to feel like just another estrogen receptacle. This is all true, however, I'd rather the guys who are doing things like that keep doing it so I can see that they're not what I want and be able to pass them by. It's kind of a double-edged sword. It's good to advise people on what to do to be more successful, and then when you do that you are masking perhaps something that would make them unsuitable. It's just nicer when you can see upfront that you're just a number or whatever the case might be.

Rochsub2009 -> RE: Honest Question (5/6/2011 10:53:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: USMCGUNNER1971 My question is how can a SWM DOM, find a SWF sub? Others have said similar things, but I have to say that coming on here and basically asking "How do I get a girl to like me?" doesn't sound very domly. I'm just saying. Now that I've got that out of the way, your profile sucks. Seriously. It's not the least bit interesting. You don't list any of your activities and interests. Your picture makes you look like your 70, not 39. And the only useful info I got from reading your profile is that you are an ex-Marine, and you like tractors. Yawn! Put some work into it. Treat your profile like it's your resume. Make yourself stand out from the crowd. Tell people why you're interesting. What makes you worth getting to know (hint: tractors are NOT the right answer). Similarly, when you write to someone, make your introductory message interesting. View it like your cover letter. catch their attention. Make them laugh. Make them want to look at your profile. Don't just send a brief note that say's "Hi" and then attach a cock shot. That will definitely get you blocked. And most importantly, get off of the computer and go to a munch or a play party at the local dungeon. Good luck!

ResidentSadist -> RE: Honest Question (5/6/2011 7:02:55 PM)
How the fuck did the OP get away with this? If I posted a thread asking how a handsome poly sadist can find a cute fertile/poly/bi/slave/maso without looking like a troll . . . you guys would roast me alive saying I was, "trolling for bitches by posting a personal ad in guise of a thread." Just sayin'

sunshinemiss -> RE: Honest Question (5/6/2011 7:16:17 PM)
Yeah, but for you it'd be true. [:D] Come on man, he's new. We are being nice. Lulling him into a false sense of security until one day BOOM! we nail him! We've been taking lessons from fellows like you! And by the way, I don't think anybody's been all lovey dovey with him. Some folks just don't know how to utilize the internet and need to be pointed in the right direction. He seems clueless about this, rather like a lot of folks who write the "please help me with my profile" threads. best, sunshine

ResidentSadist -> RE: Honest Question (5/6/2011 8:48:46 PM)
^ ok... ok... point taken. He didn't post it specifically in the submissives' forum and hope for hits. He sincerely wanted their point of view instead of a Master's POV, or off topic POV. ... and it you ever saw me post something like that, it's true, it would be a fair cop that I was just trolling.

BurntKitty -> RE: Honest Question (5/6/2011 9:35:05 PM)
OP- Head out to munches & events to find real time women to date. Just remember, not everyone considers this a "lifestyle". And yet others, ~shudder~ aren't just here for the kinky sex. I'm here for the floggings & cookies. (And the occasional troll flamefest lynchings.)

MasterSlaveLA -> RE: Honest Question (5/7/2011 10:12:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: USMCGUNNER1971 I hate TROLLS, they have no respect for the LS [lifestyle]... I hate any reference to BDSM as some mythical "lifestyle" -- or worse, as belonging to some alleged "community". [8\|]

Rochsub2009 -> RE: Honest Question (5/7/2011 11:42:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA I hate any reference to BDSM as some mythical "lifestyle" -- or worse, as belonging to some alleged "community". [8\|] Amen!!!!!!

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