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LadyConstanze -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/11/2011 10:01:48 AM)

LOL, actually that thing is really great fun, though I'd think the novelty of being a bouncing ball might wear off after a while... I recall a friend who got it, her poor personal was bounced around a lot at the party, you could actually see clusters of dommes begging her to let them play with it, now there is an idea, get one of those and go to any fetish event and you get dommes lining up to play with you... Though I'd think after a few hours of being bounced around by lots of dommes, you might want to be able to complain and ask them to stop ;-)



SternSkipper -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/11/2011 12:14:19 PM)

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Do all Mistresses do this for money?

Is there anyone who is interested in just a realtionship?


Like anything else my friend, you're gonna have to get off your ass and work for it.
I took the liberty of reading your profile, as I was curious what seems to be drawing the Pros your way (course, I am making that assumption since you don't mention soliciting any contact on your own). And I think that given the two whole sentences you have in your description field, any altruistic Domme reading your profile probably doesn't think you are worth the effort. Tell them something about yourself. Utilize the journal the account affords you. throw in a picture. I'll bet your luck will improve at least somewhat.
   But to really see some results, you will probably need to send messages to the Dommes you see here that appeal to you. Others in the thread have offered some impeccable advice on what to look for in the wording. But I cannot stress enough how important your actual participation in this lifestyle is. People recognize and very often appreciate effort . I know I do when a female submissive puts her best foot forward and makes an initial contact with me.
Now Get To Work!
Skipp



mummyman321 -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/11/2011 12:52:21 PM)

LC,
The inflatable rubber ball pictured in my other post I do not think it would be good for bouncing. Its made from rubber but not stiff enough for bouncing. Its main function is simply to immobilize the person inside. I have not had a chance to try it out yet. Looking forward for the opportunity. But I do think you could roll a person around in it.

But you have given me a great idea LOL!. You can buy the ZORB balls which are the inflatable plastic balls you get inside and walk around. Can also be bounced
http://www.gigaball.net
Now put the person inside the ZORB ball but put them in the inflatable rubber ball inside the ZORB ball. Now you have a toy that you can roll around and bounce and the person cannot move. I do think it would wear a person out after awhile. But that is part of the fun :)



MistressDarkArt -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/11/2011 7:32:43 PM)


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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt
The OPs get all sorts of useful feedback on their profiles and approaches. If they actually took some of this to heart they might have a chance at being successful connecting with someone other than scammers and professionals, but days, weeks, months or years go by and absolutely nothing changes on their profile. They still have the same crappy pictures, same do-me narratives, and same kinky laundry lists as though any lifestyle dominant worth her salt would give a flying fart they're into diapers, llamas, large rubber balls and buckets of eels. I wonder what would happen if nobody responded to them when they post here? They eventually disappear into the woodwork no matter what, so maybe it would save some effort?

I hear your frustration, but I disagree.  First, far more people read these threads than just the OP.  When I was new here, I sent short, cut and paste "hi" type messages to women, and spent a lot of time IMing with scammers.  About a month in, I said to myself that I was clearly doing something wrong, and I made an unflattering analysis of myself, and changed a bunch of things I was doing, because I wanted to meet real people in real life.

Not everyone has the ability to self-start like that.  I think I was objectively a troll without intending to be, and I believe there are a lot of other men in the same boat as I was.  So I'm very glad that people give pointers.  Even if only one man in ten pays attention, that is one more guy who now has the tools to get onto the radar of a woman who might really like him.



Oh, hallelujah!! It's good to know we do not always type in vain!! Thanks for the positive input :-)



theRose4U -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/11/2011 8:24:26 PM)

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Now put the person inside the ZORB ball but put them in the inflatable rubber ball inside the ZORB ball. Now you have a toy that you can roll around and bounce and the person cannot move. I do think it would wear a person out after awhile. But that is part of the fun


Interesting idea but little difficult to monitor important things like breathing with that much movable plastic. Zorbs are amazing fun but had never thought of them as pervables...till now.



LadyPact -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/11/2011 8:27:06 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt


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ORIGINAL: mummyman321

as though any lifestyle dominant worth her salt would give a flying fart they're into diapers, llamas, large rubber balls and buckets of eels.



Hey Now......do not be knocking my Rubber Balls Now!.


Ye gods, mummy, WTF is that??!

Actually, the quote was a partial list from LP's link to the do-me animation here:

http://www.xtranormal.com/watch/8325689/the-meeting

The guy says, 'Do you have any skimpy outfits? How about some blue patent leather high heels? Would you dress me up as a chef and cornhole me with a rolling pin, or force me to dress like a little girl, give me a hot bath and wash my private parts? That would be SO AWESOME. Do you have a kiddie pool and a llama? Or a large rubber ball and bucket of eels? Here is a picture of my penis for you to enjoy!"...etc...

It would be hysterically funny if it weren't so dang accurate!!! I sent this link to my Pro-Domme/lifestyle friend; she told me her paying customers were HANDS DOWN more polite and respectful every single time than the clueless dumbasses who think you just post on a kinky dating site and the rest of the rules go out the window. Her submissive husband just laughed his head off over the whole situation (btw, they met from a casual encounters ad on CL, so it *is* possible to connect with quality people this way. But as we all know, the only shortcuts are Mastercard, Visa, American Express, Paypal and CASH!!)

Whoops, I missed this.

I actually don't get credit for that.  The first person to brighten our days with that link was Missokyst.  Not too long after, LnT created a thread devoted to it.  While I would love to be the person who brought it up first, I wasn't.

Problem is, now I can't watch that Geico commercial without laughing because the "sexy Grandpa dance" at the end is the same as when the one in the above talks about cornholing him with a rolling pin.



TimberBeast -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/11/2011 9:59:45 PM)

Just out of curiosity, does the same "do me sub" derision apply if the male is question is a liberated mqso who knows what he likes and isn't afraid to ask for it (with guidance, as needed, during play), isn't for looking for any relationship beyond FWB (at best) ... and like everybody else in bluecollarland isn't sufficiently wealthy to afford the exorbitnt rates charged by most the overwhelming number of Pro-Dominas (but would be happy to fix cracked cabinet door or mow a lawn or rotate tires and change the oil on her car...)?



MistressDarkArt -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/12/2011 12:32:33 AM)


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ORIGINAL: TimberBeast

Just out of curiosity, does the same "do me sub" derision apply if the male is question is a liberated mqso who knows what he likes and isn't afraid to ask for it (with guidance, as needed, during play), isn't for looking for any relationship beyond FWB (at best) ... and like everybody else in bluecollarland isn't sufficiently wealthy to afford the exorbitnt rates charged by most the overwhelming number of Pro-Dominas (but would be happy to fix cracked cabinet door or mow a lawn or rotate tires and change the oil on her car...)?


It does to me. You're just bartering honey-do's for I'm-a-bottom-do-me's instead of cash. Nothing authentically submissive about that.

Thing is, I have an authentically submissive primary partner and a second. Both are wonderful men I have significant loving relationships with who will fix my cabinets, mow my lawn, change the oil in my car, weed the cathouse, bring me a pie, take me to dinner, do the heavy lifting, etc...whether I "do them" or not. They're both smart, funny, affectionate, fun to be with, connected to me...and hawt. So I, as well as most well-established female dominants, have no need to settle for something as base as 'trading favors.'



kickable -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/12/2011 12:44:40 AM)

Hello All,

I'd like to enter into this discussion.

Understand where the person who started this thread is coming from and the many responses. I know from experience it's difficult to know
what's expected, how to present yourself, when you've gone off into a sub-space yearning for something that can seem so difficult to find.

That was the diplomatic portion of my contribution. I'll surely be hammered for what follows.

I've had some good experiences with pro-Dommes and a few have granted me some time with them, sometimes in exchange with some help
doing this or that around the house. Unfortunately, nothing ever lasted.

From my experience, I would say a "personal" relationship with a pro-Domme would include providing services for her (house cleaning etc.) and
not expecting any play, unless she needs someone to make a movie, do a web feed, perform with at a party or show off for a friend.

As for a true lifestyle Dominant Woman, I still have to rate that as an urban myth. I don't think it exists. I think Female Domination experiences are
a service a guy has to purchasde, and pro-Dommes want to keep it that way. Perhaps my disappointment is fueled partly by living in a smaller urban setting
where there is less diversity. Perhaps, I have not presented myself well enough. But, I read through the list of women in my state identifying themselves
as Dominant and they are all pro Dommes, usually. I did just message a Domme who claims she's lifestyle. She sent me a thoughtful response and I sent
her a thoughtful reply. I cannot get excited, however. Nothing has ever happened for me from a Collarme contact, other than a message or two. Of course, I stopped
seeking professional sessions a number of years ago. Were I still in the market, Collarme would be helpful.

I've contacted women by message. I've posted journals. One of my entries offered to do housework on a blind date.
Lifestyle Domme = Urban Myth.

I'm just sayin'.....
kickable



MistressDarkArt -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/12/2011 1:01:34 AM)

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As for a true lifestyle Dominant Woman, I still have to rate that as an urban myth. I don't think it exists.


Living, breathing, loving lifestyle dominant woman here, so I beg to differ. I'm independent, self-sufficient and fulfilled. I don't accept money, but my boys contribute fun, excitement, connection, humor, friendship and love to my already complete life.

Dominant women like me are more common than you think, and if I can do it in Podunk Nowhere, town of 10,000...with the proper outlook and approach you can too.



Ariane23 -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/12/2011 1:14:44 AM)

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1
First, far more people read these threads than just the OP.  When I was new here, I sent short, cut and paste "hi" type messages to women,


I'm rather cruel about these. Someone writes "Hi"

They get "Hi" back. Nothing more. Ball back in your court.

Like the "Hi how are you." thing.

They get "Fine."

90% of the time they don't show on the people who have visited your profile. If they bothered to look, they might find a shared interest to talk about, or at least establish that there are none so there's no point really.



LadyConstanze -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/12/2011 3:33:09 AM)


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ORIGINAL: kickable


As for a true lifestyle Dominant Woman, I still have to rate that as an urban myth.
I'm just sayin'.....
kickable



You know, you come across like a guy who never got a girlfriend and he goes round and proclaims loudly that love doesn't exist and all women are evil... It worked for others, if it doesn't work for you, maybe you're doing something wrong or you're just unlucky, tough.



Rochsub2009 -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/12/2011 3:45:24 AM)

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ORIGINAL: kickable

I've contacted women by message. I've posted journals..............
Lifestyle Domme = Urban Myth.



Have you tried contacting women in real life?  That makes all the difference.  Log off of your computer and go to a munch or play party.  That's where the lifestyle Dommes are. 

I get contacted by financial Dommes all the time on-line, but nobody's ever asked me for money at a munch.  Funny how that works.  [;)]

BTW, don't say that there are no munches near you.  If it's important enough to you, you'll drive to the closest one.  I've driven 7 hours to attend a BDSM event in NYC, I drove 10 hours to meet a Domme in Kentucky, and I've crossed the border to attend events in Toronto.



OttersSwim -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/12/2011 6:20:34 AM)

Roch is right, Daytona Beach, where kickable lives has more than 500 kinky people, seven active groups including a MaST group, a crossdresser's group, and a munch on the 2nd Friday of each month, and one in St. Augustine too just 40 miles up the coast!  



RedMagic1 -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/12/2011 6:42:56 AM)


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ORIGINAL: kickable
Nothing has ever happened for me from a Collarme contact, other than a message or two.

I have met maybe sixty people from collarme in real life. It is certainly well over fifty. About half of them were at the wedding of a friend who met her then husband here on this site. The rest have been dates. In some cases we became play partners, in others not. And I have had my profile inactive or hidden when I have been in relationships. Several of the women I met identify as dominant.

If you are getting no results at all, as I was in May 2007, then you are doing something wrong. I started to get results because i realized I needed to change, and I did not shore up my ego by saying I was perfect and women who matched my kinks simply did not exist.



LadyNTrainer -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/12/2011 7:27:31 AM)

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ORIGINAL: kickable
I've contacted women by message. I've posted journals. One of my entries offered to do housework on a blind date.
Lifestyle Domme = Urban Myth.


Translation:  I have poor social skills and bad boundaries, and nobody in the BDSM community wants to date me.  That means you are ALL FAKES and there is no such thing as a femdom who wants to date a submissive. 

Lame.

Dude.  I am not letting some stranger from the Internet into my house to "do my housework", only to find out that he's stolen my lingerie, raped my dog and taken a shit in my refrigerator the minute I turned my back.  It's easier to do my OWN housework than to spend the same amount of time closely monitoring a stranger you don't trust in your home. 

Offers of service are cool, eventually.  But if you don't realize and respect that it takes time to get to know someone to the point that they can trust you in your home, what other personal boundaries do you have unrealistic ideas about?  Do you also expect 24/7 sexual slavery on a first date, and show your kinky laundry list as the first thing you introduce yourself with when meeting a woman?

Yeah.  No.  Femdoms who want to date male submissives, move in with them, marry them, have personal relationships and sex with them, etc, absolutely do exist and I live in a real-time community that is chock fuckin' full of successful lifestyle couples.  We just don't want to have much to do with guys who are creepy and don't understand that femdoms are also normal women, and human, and that we have personal boundaries with strangers.  Even if you're "submissive".    Maybe especially if you're "submissive".




kickable -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/12/2011 7:33:50 AM)


thankyoy for responding
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As for a true lifestyle Dominant Woman, I still have to rate that as an urban myth. I don't think it exists.thank you [/quote]



kickable -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/12/2011 7:35:29 AM)

I BELIEVE LOVE EXISTS AND i love women



LadyPact -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/12/2011 7:36:55 AM)

Urban myth, huh?  That one's kind of funny.  I guess the folks who have met Me, even the ones on this thread, were just dealing with some kind of illusion.  Maybe I'll just go back to telling that joke that I really just hire some chick to play My role at parties.



kickable -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/12/2011 7:38:22 AM)

I think I've written fairly good introductions and responses.



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