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NiceGuyNihilist -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/12/2011 1:00:26 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze


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ORIGINAL: NiceGuyNihilist

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That a woman is willing to accept money in return for domination doesn't prove she doesn't sincerely enjoy control, or that she wouldn't be a Domme if she didn't get paid for it. The sheer number of submissive men, and the general intensity of their urge, simply provides a niche in the market for enterprising women. If there were scores of women who were willing to pay to suck my cock, do you think I'd turn them down? And do you think money could diminish the inherent pleasure of a blowjob?

Don't succumb to the morality of resentment; don't insist on seeing the world through shit-tinted lenses just because there are certain parts of it that are presently beyond your grasp.




Sorry but you are talking out of your nether regions here. I have NOTHING against pro dommes, in fact I used to be one, thank you very much, but what you might not grasp is that there is a difference between a client and date, what he seems to be asking for is a service, and most dominant women don't service for free.

Now if you pay for BJs or not has nothing to do with the matter, it only shows that you're a bit clueless as to what pro dommes do - oral services are not included in a professional service (giving or receiving) but strictly for private use.


I was addressing the OP, not you (just fast-replying) and in any case you missed my point entirely (or I entirely failed to convey it). I was trying to tell the OP not to write Dommes off as worthless just because he can't have one right now. Will elaborate when I've got more time.



lockedaway -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/12/2011 1:11:47 PM)

Noosed, read my journal.  you will find that your experiences are very similar to that of the other submissive males on this site. 



kickable -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/12/2011 1:15:08 PM)

Perhaps all those reasons and more are true.

Yet, my experience is my experience.

You and others have identified yourselves as lifestyle Mistresses. I do find that encouraging.




LadyConstanze -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/12/2011 1:20:05 PM)


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ORIGINAL: lockedaway

Noosed, read my journal.  you will find that your experiences are very similar to that of the other submissive males on this site. 


And your profile is quite similar to his profile, funny that... I'd say tough titty that there are more male submissives than there are female dominants, so you guys have to up your game or see a professional - or be on that site and complain endlessly about that you aren't getting what you want.

To paraphrase LP "If you aren't a stud muffin in vanilla life, you aren't going to be one just because it's BDSM and since we get to pick, we can be picky"

Welcome to reality, and it's not what you think it is, it's not that ALL dommes are pros and out for money, it's simply that you guys don't pull because you've got nothing that interests us and you aren't hot enough... Time to hit the gym and work on your personalities...



mummyman321 -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/12/2011 1:21:05 PM)


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ORIGINAL: theRose4U

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Now put the person inside the ZORB ball but put them in the inflatable rubber ball inside the ZORB ball. Now you have a toy that you can roll around and bounce and the person cannot move. I do think it would wear a person out after awhile. But that is part of the fun


Interesting idea but little difficult to monitor important things like breathing with that much movable plastic. Zorbs are amazing fun but had never thought of them as pervables...till now.


Now if I can turn a Zorb ball into a pervertable, I think I can come up with some safe ways to monitor a person. Actually technology has made it a lost easier. There are wrist watches that will monitor a person's heart rate and breathing, there are mini wireless cams complete with sound you can monitor a person with. This is similar to the baby monitors out today, just smaller and more portable. Walkie-talkie with a throat mic. You can even be gagged and the throat mic will still pic up your gagged words. Many hardware stores now have battery operated key fob alarms. You would wire your sub up with the key fob so he/she could hit the panic button if they are in trouble.

I do take safety seriously. I think some people look at things as mummifications or encasement play being more dangerous. In reality a person hooded or gagged and handcuffed can be in as much danger as someone completely encased. The person can be in serious trouble in as little as 30 seconds if they are having breathing difficulty. So I always make whatever I am doing, it is safe.



LadyPact -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/12/2011 1:35:32 PM)

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ORIGINAL: lockedaway

Noosed, read my journal.  you will find that your experiences are very similar to that of the other submissive males on this site. 

Would you like to do Me a favor?  I would like you to start a thread on this forum and ask a question.  That question is, "how many Dominant females would ignore an email based on a kink and/or sexually related screen name?"  We've had a number of threads on the subject in the past and they have a high majority of women who would pass you by on the screen name alone.  It announces the chastity angle and not all women want that.  While not stated up front, it also implies "one trick pony".

Now, you can a) criticize Me for telling you this (which you probably didn't like, but it happens to be true), b) read some of the past threads on the subject through the search feature, or c) start a new thread on the subject so you can see replies that we've given on the subject before, but will repeat again.



BonesFromAsh -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/12/2011 1:39:47 PM)


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ORIGINAL: lockedaway

Noosed, read my journal.  you will find that your experiences are very similar to that of the other submissive males on this site. 


Rather ironic that I have your profile hidden because of your most recent journal entry and all the "expert" labels.

"He who has so little knowledge of human nature as to seek happiness by changing anything but his own disposition will waste his life in fruitless efforts." ~Samuel Johnson

I guess it comes down to attitude and whether you see the glass as half full or half empty.



LadyConstanze -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/12/2011 1:48:13 PM)


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ORIGINAL: BonesFromAsh


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ORIGINAL: lockedaway

Noosed, read my journal.  you will find that your experiences are very similar to that of the other submissive males on this site. 


Rather ironic that I have your profile hidden because of your most recent journal entry and all the "expert" labels.

"He who has so little knowledge of human nature as to seek happiness by changing anything but his own disposition will waste his life in fruitless efforts." ~Samuel Johnson

I guess it comes down to attitude and whether you see the glass as half full or half empty.


Funny, I blocked him for really no reason, I mean calling us man-hating whores and sponges surely is no valid reason. Now oddly enough I always thought I pay my share of the mortgage, electricity, gas, water, food, costs for the pets, etc. and my other half is free to spend his disposable income as he likes, just as I am free to spend my disposable income as I like... I guess the fact that he just went out and is going to buy me a Chinese take-away (mind you his idea as we both don't feel like cooking tonight) must make me a sponge. Thank fuck I don't have a relationship where I ask him back for the money if I bought him a shirt, tie or anything I think he likes, or he asks me for money back because he might have bought a meal...

And there are really guys out there who wonder why they can't find their match....



MistressDarkArt -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/12/2011 2:29:06 PM)

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Perhaps all those reasons and more are true.

Yet, my experience is my experience.



Well Noosed, here is my experience (and that of MANY lifestyle dommes here since we do compare notes, you know). This is actual dialogue and we are bombarded with stuff like this day after day:

Him: KNEELS 2 U ..i have a huge nylons and heels fetish i need enhanced ..will u help me ?

Me: I have a huge scallop and lobster tail dinner fetish I need enhanced...will u help me?

Him: lol i dont know how? guess your not serious i am :)

Me: I'm quite serious about this so let me tell you how, 'k? U can help me!! I really, really want to enhance my seafood fetish, 'k? And you're just the guy to do it (well, so are a thousand others I can spam.) $75 should do it...probably $50 for the lobster and the rest for the scallops. I like the tails broiled and the scallops just barely grilled, still pink on the inside. Boy, that would make me so happy!

Surprise, never heard from him again ;-)


Or maybe you could relate more to this one:

Him: could you turn me into a statue
This was the message in its entirety. (Wow, what happened to hello?)

Me: Well, I suppose I could but I'm curious what exactly do you think is the appeal for me?

Him: u get to turn me into a statue

Me: Hmmm, that might take a lot of time and it doesn't do a thing for me.

Him: but you get to turn me into a statue

Me: OK, you talked me into it. For $1000 I will turn you into a statue. But you have to bring the plaster.

Him: u don't have to be such a bitch

Me: You don't have to be such a dumbass

So, Noosed and other unenlightened ones...I wish you knew who you are...is it any wonder we lifestyle dominant women get a bit miffed when yet another do-me dumbass piles it on?




kickable -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/12/2011 4:54:25 PM)

Thanks for your response



cloudboy -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/14/2011 9:40:45 AM)

A random profile that popped up my screen (a femdom) on sign in had this written in her journal:

Well, I wouldn't say everyone is fake here, I'd classify the group into 3 catagories:

1) - 50% Sausage Feast, guys thinking that fetish/bondage means easy sex

(cheaters included here)

2) - 40% Female Gold Diggers

3) - 10% A few real people who actually will meet and become friends.



LadyPact -> RE: Mistress for Sale (5/14/2011 9:46:21 AM)

Nah.  I wouldn't go for that.  Even the closest possible on the gender split would be if the entire ten percent of the good people category were male, which would leave the gender numbers at sixty/forty percent, with males being the higher number.  The lowest estimate that I'd even consider believing would be seventy/thirty.



Noosed -> RE: Mistress for Sale (12/21/2011 1:45:00 PM)

You really know how to hurt a guy I almost feel like crying.

I guess I am stupid.



myotherself -> RE: Mistress for Sale (12/21/2011 1:52:18 PM)

It's taken you 7 months to get this upset?? [8|]


Resurrecting necro-threads is kinda frowned upon by mods round here.



Azonier -> RE: Mistress for Sale (12/21/2011 1:55:28 PM)

Well if it took you seven months and that's the best you could come up with, I wouldn't put you at the top of the earthling intelligence scale. 



DarkSteven -> RE: Mistress for Sale (12/21/2011 1:57:40 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Noosed

You really know how to hurt a guy I almost feel like crying.

I guess I am stupid.


Lemme get this straight.  You ask a question and get honest feedback.  Then you take absolutely none of it and seven months later make a dumbshit comment like that?

You wanna be taken as being smart, start acting it.

Change your profile the way EVERYONE told you to do it.  NOW.

Then start acting like you have something to offer.  Don't approach us like a sniveling kid.





kalikshama -> RE: Mistress for Sale (12/21/2011 2:16:22 PM)

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You really know how to hurt a guy I almost feel like crying. I guess I am stupid.


Dude, this was one of the best "Don't be a do-me sub" thread I've read and seven months later your profile still sucks.

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LaTigresse -> RE: Mistress for Sale (12/21/2011 2:21:32 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Noosed

You really know how to hurt a guy I almost feel like crying.

I guess I am stupid.


You GUESS?!?!?



lizi -> RE: Mistress for Sale (12/21/2011 3:44:58 PM)

OP,  you think the people here were trying to hurt you? They were being honest and you could have learned from what they had to say but choose not to, geez. Yes, you are stupid for not seeing the value in the things that you were given. Poor poor baby.



Higuysitsme -> RE: Mistress for Sale (12/21/2011 6:20:44 PM)

There has been so much good advice given out here. I think one of the major points is that bdsm is not a way for guys who can't get their rocks off in vanilla life to get them off easily in another sphere. It just doesn't happen! Its completely true also that as you get older, you do lose that glittering physical edge of youth; although in some cases of course, that's no bad thing! In some cases it was never there to begin with! But with greater age should also come increased maturity and the ability to play to new strengths, rather than just being hard bodied and able to keep it up all night! (Obviously, some of us still maintain those aspects of ourselves too.........lol) Whoever you are, whatever you're seeking, in bdsm as in vanilla, its never enough to just look for whats in it for you. The primary reason for entering into any relationship should be that it gives you opportunity to be with someone you like, respect, and with whom you want to invest time and energy. Hence, its about how you can enrich their life by being part of it. If she's a pro-domme, then you enrich her life financially; but she'll still expect to be treated with respect. If she's a lifestyler, then you need to have other things which you can bring to the table; the kind of things you might bring to a vanilla relationship, maybe. Someone remarked about wining and dining, going to hockey games (Hockey games? Does she like hockey?!). Yes, you do these things; and you converse in an adult and interesting fashion too.

Yes, there are genuine people who will dom/me you and not expect to get paid for it. But - you gotta earn their interest, liking and respect first, and show you offer them something more than just your 'do-me' list of kinks and fetishes.

And now I'm off to check out my profile and 'do-me' list; just in case!



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