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CrazyCats -> RE: is age a automatic deal breaker (5/9/2011 5:16:55 PM)
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Age is a funny thing... The number of years spent roaming the earth does not automatically make a person more mature. If that were the case running for office would be a much more civil affair. I have known many 30's and 40's aged people who lack any meaningful level of maturity, and teenagers who are more mature than I am.
Experience, on the other hand, is a completely different animal. Someone who has studied and practiced BDSM for any amount of time is going to be in another class from the neophyte, regardless of age. To be fair, there are those who delight in training the new, or learning from an experienced sub.
Everyone has their own set of criteria that their hind brain deems "safe." It's called having a type. It's part of how the brain learns, and how we select the people we select.
If age is the only factor that one can think of as a reason to not see someone, even after having met them, then the person doing the rejecting really should have a good hard look at their reasonings. If you're of comparable maturity, and everything clicks... then age is just a number. Delight with them in the thrill of each new discovery, or learn from their mistakes and become better for it. If the idea of an age difference evaporates in the chemistry and it works... then it works. You've found something that many people are looking for: someone whom you enjoy being around, and who enjoys your company in return. Not everyone is so lucky. Even those who are with people that are close to them in age have marriages/collars/"it's complicated" fail. That's life. There are no guarantees.
To sum up: If it really bothers you, don't do it. That may be something else bothering you and it's just coming out as their age. If it doesn't bother you, and it doesn't bother your partner, then do your thing and have fun! Screw what other people think.
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