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Rochsub2009 -> RE: explain Race Play from your point of veiw (5/10/2011 12:10:50 PM)
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ORIGINAL: mech1nomics
for those that participate in race play ...why do you participate in it and how were you first attracted to it
I'm going to answer this, even though my first comment is probably going to show that I shouldn't be answering it.
I don't participate in race play. And you asked the question of those who DO participate in race play. But my perspective may be helpful nonetheless.
Like you, I'm black. The reason I don't do race play is that I find it too often becomes racist, insulting, and just plain stupid.
Don't get me wrong. I understand the taboos of dating outside of one's race or sex with someone of a different color. I understand the curiosity factor. Personally, I've served more white Dommes than black Dommes. Moreover, I've had 3 Asian vanilla girlfriends. So I get it. There's something visually appealing about seeing the contrasting colors when we make love (at least to me).
The part I don't like is what I see most frequently. I hate it when people stop seeing me as a person, and start seeing me as a stereotype. That's what happens far too often.
I get messages all the time from white Dommes who want to dominate my BBC. They seldom mention me as a person. Nope, all they see is a BBC. That's insulting to me. Moreover, who says that my cock is big? They just assume based on a racist stereotype.
Yesterday, a white submissive contacted me on FetLife. I'm a sub, and she's a sub, so I wasn't sure why she was contacting me. I don't switch, and the word "sub" in my name probably let's people know that I'm not a Dom. So I was baffled about why a sub was asking me about potentially getting together. Then I looked at her profile, and I noticed that all of her pictures were of her sucking black cocks. So once again, I was reduced to just being a black cock.
I've had a white Domme ask me to "talk ghetto", and "act like a gangsta". I have a masters degree. I'm not a gangster.
I once had a white Domme tell me during our very first meeting that she couldn't wait for her "ex" to see her with me. She said that he would be so mad, but that if he said anything to her, she'd just have her new black sub kick his ass. So once again, I was reduced to a gangster.
But don't get me wrong. I'm not overly sensitive or politically correct. There have been times when I have participated in race play. For example, I served a white Domme who was fond of saying "take off your clothes and bring that beautiful black cock over here". And I happily complied with her requests. The difference was that she got to know me as a person first. We bonded as human beings. Then, once we realized that we liked one another as people, then it was okay for her to introduce race play.
The bottom line for me is that I am open to relationships with all races. And race play can be a part of those relationships. The only requirement that I have is that they get to know me as a person first, and as black second. When my race comes before my character, personality, and interests, then I find it offensive. I guess it's no different than how women who have large breasts must feel when men stare at their breasts rather than look them in the face. They want him to focus on the person, but he's too busy focusing on the breasts.
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