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MasterMLT66 -> RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? (5/23/2011 7:00:23 AM)
Being a Dom, I too had some confusion with the understanding, yet when I am asked, "What is it that makes you want to be a Dom?", I have the same answer as that of what I am reading in this post ... I feel it inside of me, it IS me ... it is who I am. I have always had this urge, focus, draw to command, control, demand, discipline and train. I have been doing it all my life and it is all I know. My understanding of, or realization of, how some subs feel occurred when I was training my current slave ... I met her at work. She was always one of the more forceful people in any meeting or any situation, very controlling and demanding. Her aggressiveness drew me to her, wanting to gleen things from her nature to make me a better Master, but after we started to become closer, she would slip out of the agressive role and be more subordinate around me. Finally, we started to connect in amore personnal way, and when we started to become intimate, I asked her about the differences in her actions at work and away from work. She confided that she hates to always have to be the controlling person, the only one who can do anything or manage everything. It became clear to me that she had a need to be release from that part of her being ... that she had an deep desire to be controlled, and by me controlling her, gave here freedom. I have been her Master for 7 years now, we still go to work together, and she is still a very controlling person at work, but once we get home, she is a very obedient and well disciplined slave ... not because she has to be, although a bit of discipline is needed from time to time with every slave, but because she is happiest when she is serving and being led. I hope that helps ... I know it did for me.

onlyfreelycaged -> RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? (5/23/2011 12:03:46 PM)
It's just a way of being that makes sense to me, when inspired by the right man.

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? (5/23/2011 3:16:17 PM)
it's a natural response to certain types of men (or women, though i haven't had a person experience with a woman). the dominance and sense of control and ownership brings out an in-kind response. for me, it was all first inspired by a particularly great guy; i would never have thought i'd WANT to call someone "Master," aaaaand the rest is history as they say. from that experience, i know that that was when i was happiest, and i imagine it could be inspired again.

avena -> RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? (5/23/2011 4:57:36 PM)
Like a few others have said, I'm not a slave, I'm his slave. And the only reason I answer to that term at all is because that's the term he chooses to use. I am, however, a submissive personality. My happy place consists of following in the shadows of someone who is a strong leader. But, I am more than capable of taking charge and taking the lead myself. I've had to learn. It's a requirement of my job, and of being a single mom. Being able to shed all of that and kneel at D's feet gives me the warm and fuzzies in a big way. And that is basically the what and why for me. It just is who I am, and being my true self makes me happy. As for hating or loving it... If I hated it, I wouldn't do it. Sometimes I do struggle with some aspects of my submission, but again, I wouldn't bother struggling if it wasn't something I wanted to do. As D knows all too well...I'm stubborn and focused. Sometimes that can be a good thing....

falccon -> RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? (5/23/2011 7:21:16 PM)
it's the dynamics of giving up control and someone wanting to control. it's a perfect balance for me.

aromanholiday -> Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? (5/24/2011 5:57:14 AM)
I remembered something else I like about slavery. Under the right person, it allows to me to see ugly character traits that I would be much better off without, and then, with appropriate assitance and enouragement, to change them.

PdxJ -> RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? (5/24/2011 11:45:34 AM)
Excellent thread and fantastic responses/ insight. Thank you all!

trueshadow -> RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? (5/28/2011 3:48:20 PM)
Nothing attracts me to it. It is what I am. It's like asking, "what attracts you to breathing?"

LPslittleclip -> RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? (5/29/2011 9:41:06 PM)
i did not understand what the term slave meant till my Mistress explained it to me and it was like a light turned on and it has been that way since i enjo serving my Mistress and it helps me to keep focused with my adhd

chiaThePet -> RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? (5/30/2011 12:22:41 AM)
Slavery gets shit done. chia* (the pet)

wickedslut4u269 -> RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? (5/30/2011 12:35:39 AM)
It's what I chose to be and? I'm used to it. I can't get enough of it at all? What I'm attracted to is I'm the "HIS CHOSEN ONE" I LOVE being put in my place and he wants it for me? [sm=angel.gif] [sm=AttentionWhore.gif]

jacXjackXattack -> RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? (5/31/2011 10:45:56 AM)
I have done a lot of thinking, and come up with quite a few reasons (some good, some bad)that I am a sub: 1. It helps me confront everybody's greatest fear: losing control. After being dominated, all my worst fears have come true so I can finally relax! 2. I am lazy and want someone else to do all the work. 3. I often have guilt problems and therefore letting someone take control for a little while relieves me of that as well. 4. It ensures that I am the center of attention. 5. I have some gender issues, I am so uncomfortable with the female role. Unfortunately, one has to come to terms with their gender if they're going to have straight sex, so being a caricature of my gender role (albeit a negative one) helps me deal with it. 6. It abdicates me of responsibility. I hope this was enlightening! -Jaclyn

sexyred1 -> RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? (5/31/2011 11:54:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: jacXjackXattack I have done a lot of thinking, and come up with quite a few reasons (some good, some bad)that I am a sub: 1. It helps me confront everybody's greatest fear: losing control. After being dominated, all my worst fears have come true so I can finally relax! 2. I am lazy and want someone else to do all the work. 3. I often have guilt problems and therefore letting someone take control for a little while relieves me of that as well. 4. It ensures that I am the center of attention. 5. I have some gender issues, I am so uncomfortable with the female role. Unfortunately, one has to come to terms with their gender if they're going to have straight sex, so being a caricature of my gender role (albeit a negative one) helps me deal with it.6. It abdicates me of responsibility. I hope this was enlightening! -Jaclyn Edited to add what happened with the quote box? I find that to be a tragic comment. You think being submissive or a slave is negative and makes a woman a caricature of her gender? Wow. I will leave it at that.

HisEvelyn -> RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? (5/31/2011 1:49:20 PM)
I am yet another that does not identify as A slave, but HIS slave. I would be a slave to no other. However, I AM a submissive personality. To bring joy to others makes me happy. I could never hate pleasing others because it's what I love to do. And pleasing Master is the epitome of that need, with a clearer direction and purpose than general kindness.

NuevaVida -> RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? (5/31/2011 5:31:06 PM)
Because my love and desire for him drives me to want to do whatever he'll let me to bring goodness to his life. Sure there are things he does to me that totally floats my boat, but what it really boils down to is when I'm into someone this much I just can't help but to do what he wants.

BeautyDebased -> RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? (6/1/2011 6:04:32 PM)
I's simple, I was born one, even if I didn't know what it meant to be such, I was a shy child, always giving, selfless and as I matured and grew so did this natural part of me grow. It's an inbuilt and unchanging desire to serve, and to serve one who you love, the happiness in His eyes when you have pleased Him, constantly learning to better yourself and grow into what He wishes you to be. To embrace selfless devotion and revel in this, in the beautiful knowledge that as your Masters slave you will be truly cared for, loved, cherished and each day you will only grow stronger together, explore each other. I believe we all submit at times when we don't want to, no-one can truly say they have submitted to everything and also loved it all however, there is a part of you which always loves it and that's the part seeking pleasure in his pleasure, happiness in his and regardless of the situation this is always present. For me I rarely have times I don't enjoy what I'm doing or what is being done to me, probably because when seeking I made sure I met someone who felt about BDSM the exact same way as me, has the same likes and with that, it is far more enjoyable. As a slave I feel beautiful, sensual, loved, cherished and content, I think that about sums it up, I've been collared for over a year now, we are also planning on getting married. B

wickedslut4u269 -> RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? (6/1/2011 6:13:52 PM)
I'm a worthy sub and. I'm proud of who. I chose and decided to become. [:D] I feel appreciated, devoted, and it was my decision to serve him whole hearted to him

nakedspirit -> RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? (6/1/2011 8:54:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thedavezone What is it about slavery that makes you a slave? What do you like? Why do you do it? What is going on in your mind? Do you submit and then hate it, but love submitting? -Is it alright if it's from a male slave point of view? In my case, it's that I am the "boss" in my career and so am the leader, the one who makes decisions, gives counsel, initiates, and oversees things. So, in my "private" life, I want to let go and completely give myself up to being used for someone else's pleasure and use. For me, I want to be completely naked and have my body exploited or used as a palette for the master's creativity...ideally, in front of an interactive audience or group. -Being a masochistic exhibitionist, I love the tantalizing sensations of the sensual pain and pleasure. I love becoming an object for others' use and degradation. I want to be poked, pulled, proded, and probed while being suspended, clamped, flogged, and displayed. It's a private jouney for me as I try and remain "in the moment" of the physical challenge of feeling every clamp, rope, weight, in the muscles, on the skin...in the mind and try to ride it out or anticipate the next stage and "rise" to the occasion. -The ultimate trust is in literally and figuritively giving up control of my naked, shaved, exposed body without having to remain "in the driver's seat." To trust someone enough to say I give you my body, myself, to bend, shape, explore, stimulate, and display for your use and pleasure...is the ultimate surrender. -I fear this may be too vague or isoteric, but it's the ultimate self exploration journey I've ever experienced.

wickedslut4u269 -> RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? (6/1/2011 11:51:50 PM)
I like being a slave and what attracts me to it? Is being owned and feeling his presence he excites my inner child

trueshadow -> RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? (6/2/2011 7:53:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OwnedFemaleFlesh Honestly, I laugh out loud at that idea now. I know everyone's definition differs, but my definition of the difference between a submissive and a slave is that a submissive chooses each time whether to say yes or no, whereas a slave says yes once for always. I can't imagine switching my submission on and off, or choosing to one time but not the next time. owned xxx I personally enjoy this definition of slavery. It fits how I feel exactly.

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