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-=Do you avoid posting volatile topics or replies?=-

Yes

24% (13)

31% (17)

Sometimes, depends on the topic.

44% (24)

Total Votes : 54

(last vote on : 10/8/2012 8:24:31 PM)
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tazzygirl -> RE: -=Do you avoid posting volatile topics or replies?=- (5/15/2011 12:50:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kana I also tend to steer clear of the P&R sections. I only avoid one section, the Gorean one.

heartcream -> RE: -=Do you avoid posting volatile topics or replies?=- (5/15/2011 2:34:46 AM)
RS, Cool the way your avatar moves! I post when and where I like, or not.

CynthiaWVirginia -> RE: -=Do you avoid posting volatile topics or replies?=- (5/15/2011 3:14:23 AM)
quote: Do you avoid posting volatile topics or replies? Yes. Most of the time. As for posting volatile replies, I try to behave at CM and not have too much fun at another person's expense. Since I rarely cut loose in r/t and let people have it between the eyes, it would be strange to do this frequently online. As for topics, this about covers it: quote: I just didn't have time to attend the thread properly and put out all the flames and derailment. I have proven myself to be lousy at taking care of threads I started. [:D] Several years ago I was a mod at another site and was so involved in caretaking everything that it ate up most of my day. I do not want to devote such a large chunk of my life to a site, not even this one...that is my Hotel California. By the time I answer letters and do some reading, there isn't much time left for posting, much less starting threads on a regular basis. I am grateful to even trolls for doing this because at least it gives me something to read when I am bored and come here for relief.

Phoenixpower -> RE: -=Do you avoid posting volatile topics or replies?=- (5/15/2011 4:22:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: crazyml Some times. Its not the volatility of the topics, it's the replies. There have been quite a few times of late that I've drafted something and thought better of it. And a couple of times when I've edited a post down to nothing because it was not worth the stress. Like you, it does depend on how much time I can devote to a thread or topic. That said, I avoid the entire Pols and Religion section of the site entirely. Pretty much what he said, though I don't avoid the Politics and Religion section [:)] I know that sometimes in the threads folks see it different of course due to having a different view or due to simply living in a different country with different norms and, as it happened at one topic, being less familiar with managerialism which does play a part in the UK at times when decisions are being taken, lead to ridicioulus arrogant views from some believe-to-know-it-all. However, it really doesn't bother me when then sometimes people start to show how oh so much smarter they believe to be as quite frankly I am not on here to win a battle about opinions...I say mine, either folks take it or not, it doesn't matter to me either way really. There was one occassion where I hesitated to open a topic but that then got solved as someone else had opened it already anyway [:)]

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: -=Do you avoid posting volatile topics or replies?=- (5/15/2011 4:53:19 AM)
Do you avoid posting volatile topics or replies?No, I don't (obviously). I calls em how I sees em, and I don't expect everybody to agree. That said, I have made some posts that, due to my own poor choice of words, got misconstrued. So I've made posts that were volatile w/o meaning to. I sometimes forget that this is not like a cooking or aromatherapy forum, where if something in a post sounds off, people just ask you. I've found it's much easier here to offend people, since (quite naturally) people take how they feel about their personal relationships and personal dynamics so much more seriously. I don't avoid P & R, some topics I enjoy, though I try to be much more careful in terms of not engaging with those who do not really want to converse. Actual discussion and exchange of ideas interests me, pissing contests, not so much. I did venture (briefly) in to the Gorean forum, and found that there is little for me to discuss there. I can't get behind the universal "You don't understand, b/c you're not Gorean" argument.

RedMagic1 -> RE: -=Do you avoid posting volatile topics or replies?=- (5/15/2011 5:14:00 AM)
No. That is for replies. When I have a contentious, difficult issue in my life, I don't start a topic on collarme. I go for a long walk with a friend.

angelikaJ -> RE: -=Do you avoid posting volatile topics or replies?=- (5/15/2011 5:21:50 AM)
My general rules for posting are: a) will this contribute in some way b) is it true to the best of my knowledge c) is it kind I have not posted things if they fail on the third criteria... and I have posted things in the heat of the moment that have slipped by the first and/or the third. It isn't the topics per se that cause me to avoid posting, but my individual responses.

ResidentSadist -> RE: -=Do you avoid posting volatile topics or replies?=- (5/15/2011 6:07:03 AM)
I have a couple topics that are very volatile. They cover some things that world hasn't decided whether or not they should be illegal yet, some of our common beliefs about BDSM that are wrong and the psychology behind our motivation to do what it is that we do. I have written them but not posted, just saved them for later. I looked at them again, rewrote them to soften and neutralize the "bite" I am often accused of putting into my writings. I reread them and they were too wordy and defused. To much focus lost on being PC. Basically, I decided not publish watered down drivel and not to start any fires. I was looking at the folder with these articles when I wondered how many of you wrote something, maybe even saved it, but never published it. Hence this poll.

peachgirl -> RE: -=Do you avoid posting volatile topics or replies?=- (5/15/2011 6:32:37 AM)
I've been instructed not to get involved in any threads that are going to be an energy suck, so generally that includes most volatile topics. I have had enough volatility in my life and my common response to that is to deal with it here in r/t, not to seek help online, therefore no reason I would post about it.

HannahLynHeather -> RE: -=Do you avoid posting volatile topics or replies?=- (5/15/2011 7:16:13 AM)
no, i don't avoid them at all, i'm drawn to them like a moth to a flame. i rarely worry how what i post is perceived or if i hurt somebody's feelings. how people take my words are their problem not mine. i am naturally sarcastic, rude and intolerant of what i see as stupidity. i guess it shows. i've been asked by the nice mods to pause before i hit ok, so i will be a little gentler on people from now on, but i'm pretty sure i'll still manage to live up to my sig. hannah lynn

JstAnotherSub -> RE: -=Do you avoid posting volatile topics or replies?=- (5/15/2011 7:19:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LinnaeaBorealis When I was fairly new here, I tried starting a couple of threads up above the fold, like in Ask a Master or some such. The answers I got were so outlandish that I decided not to do that anymore. When I asked a question about something to do with my Owners, I was told to run far & fast & that they were going to kill me. So, of course, I went to them & asked them if they were going to kill me & they said, "Of course not!! Who'd clean the house then???"I have responded to some posts & what I said got removed because apparently I was a little too harsh. LOL So I guess that I don't hold back always. I do try to get my point across without being volatile, but sometimes something just hits that last nerve & before I really know it I've posted. That oughta be a quote of the day-lolol. I love it!

JstAnotherSub -> RE: -=Do you avoid posting volatile topics or replies?=- (5/15/2011 7:22:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tazzygirl quote: ORIGINAL: Kana I also tend to steer clear of the P&R sections. I only avoid one section, the Gorean one. I suspect I am going to wish I avoided the Gorean section later today.....and I may just start doing that, but sometimes I read things there that make it impossible for me not to reply. I wish it could be taken off the scroll-lol.

juliaoceania -> RE: -=Do you avoid posting volatile topics or replies?=- (5/15/2011 7:33:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HannahLynHeather no, i don't avoid them at all, i'm drawn to them like a moth to a flame. i rarely worry how what i post is perceived or if i hurt somebody's feelings. how people take my words are their problem not mine. i am naturally sarcastic, rude and intolerant of what i see as stupidity. i guess it shows. i've been asked by the nice mods to pause before i hit ok, so i will be a little gentler on people from now on, but i'm pretty sure i'll still manage to live up to my sig. hannah lynn I enjoy reading both of you

domiguy -> RE: -=Do you avoid posting volatile topics or replies?=- (5/15/2011 7:39:55 AM)
I enjoy reading very few people.

Kana -> RE: -=Do you avoid posting volatile topics or replies?=- (5/15/2011 7:42:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub quote: ORIGINAL: tazzygirl quote: ORIGINAL: Kana I also tend to steer clear of the P&R sections. I only avoid one section, the Gorean one. I suspect I am going to wish I avoided the Gorean section later today.....and I may just start doing that, but sometimes I read things there that make it impossible for me not to reply. I wish it could be taken off the scroll-lol. I don't practice Gor (And I kinda think the whole concept is hysterical. I mean, I remember reading the Gor books in the 70's when I was a middle school kid and knowing even then that the writing was just pathetically weak) so I don't even bother going in that section. Any opinion I would have is irrelevent and I have zero experience to share so why bother? As for the politics, I generally avoid the threads because people get so wing-nutty. There tends to be little actual dialogue and more line drawing and side taking, but that's JMHO. As a rule of thumb in life, I don't waste time arguing with fanatics-I have better things to do with the limited number of breathes I will have in life.

Termyn8or -> RE: -=Do you avoid posting volatile topics or replies?=- (5/15/2011 7:57:44 AM)
RS, while that question is not, well inane, it is to me. You've seen what I HAVE posted, think about what I decided not to post, and also those posts that were removed and generated me a gold fringed Cmail. LOL You think I'm nuts ? Get to know me and you'll really find out. T^T

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: -=Do you avoid posting volatile topics or replies?=- (5/15/2011 10:42:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania quote: ORIGINAL: HannahLynHeather no, i don't avoid them at all, i'm drawn to them like a moth to a flame. i rarely worry how what i post is perceived or if i hurt somebody's feelings. how people take my words are their problem not mine. i am naturally sarcastic, rude and intolerant of what i see as stupidity. i guess it shows. i've been asked by the nice mods to pause before i hit ok, so i will be a little gentler on people from now on, but i'm pretty sure i'll still manage to live up to my sig. hannah lynn I enjoy reading both of you Me too. Hannah never pulls her punches, and personally I like that.

kalikshama -> RE: -=Do you avoid posting volatile topics or replies?=- (5/15/2011 10:57:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HannahLynHeather no, i don't avoid them at all, i'm drawn to them like a moth to a flame. i rarely worry how what i post is perceived or if i hurt somebody's feelings. how people take my words are their problem not mine. i am naturally sarcastic, rude and intolerant of what i see as stupidity. i guess it shows. i've been asked by the nice mods to pause before i hit ok, so i will be a little gentler on people from now on, but i'm pretty sure i'll still manage to live up to my sig. hannah lynn I like your posts. Sure you're abrasive, but I've yet to see the asshole to which you refer in your sig.

Hillwilliam -> RE: -=Do you avoid posting volatile topics or replies?=- (5/15/2011 11:01:12 AM)
I post someting if I either have knowledge about something or seek knowledge. Unlike a lot of folks, I wont post authoratatively about stuff I am ignorant of.

kalikshama -> RE: -=Do you avoid posting volatile topics or replies?=- (5/15/2011 11:07:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist I have a couple topics that are very volatile. They cover some things that world hasn't decided whether or not they should be illegal yet, some of our common beliefs about BDSM that are wrong and the psychology behind our motivation to do what it is that we do. I have written them but not posted, just saved them for later. I looked at them again, rewrote them to soften and neutralize the "bite" I am often accused of putting into my writings. I reread them and they were too wordy and defused. To much focus lost on being PC. Basically, I decided not publish watered down drivel and not to start any fires. I was looking at the folder with these articles when I wondered how many of you wrote something, maybe even saved it, but never published it. Hence this poll. If I'm going to respond to volatile posts, I try to be extremely careful with my wording and facts. These often take quite a while to compose. I write with the knowledge that I will be critiqued. As a result of the "Gor/feminism" and "Jane Fonda likes alpha men" threads, I've been composing a post regarding feminism to put in P&R but have held back because the waters are quite rough there. ResidentSadist, I've found you to be quite thoughtful and I think you should post your topics. Feel free to PM with both drafts - perhaps I can help with a compromise between flame-bait and drivel. KK

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