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ORIGINAL: BBBTBW

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I spent 4 years grooming a sub to be a slave....just before we were to have our collaring ceremony I was in a rather bad car accident.  When I got out of the hospital 2 weeks later, all I found at home was a letter saying that he couldn't handle the posibility of me being in a wheel chair the rest of my life.  The key word is POSSIBILITY.  I am not in a wheel chair, I still have some slight mobility issues due to my injuries but I am fully mobile.  The time and effort it took to get him where I wanted him to be was exhausting for it to culminate into nothing.  SO if he is not already slave,  I am really not interested in playing the sub to slave game.

That is just wrong in so many ways. I don't understand how anyone who cared even a little bit about you could just up and abandon you like that in your time of need. The least the A** hole could have done was to help you get healed before making a decision to leave you. It is just as well you found out now about him before you spent even more time and energy on him. To just leave you before you came home from the hospital is so cold.  Excuse me but that's Bull S**t. I am really sorry you had to experience that. I can't belive your soon to be collared slave had any humanity in him at all. Not all subs/slaves are like that, please believe me. And please don't give up. There are some of us subs who could really appreciate a Mistress with the patience to train us.

Nikki Ann

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DANCE as though no one is watching,
LOVE as though you have never been hurt before,
SING as though no one can hear you,
LIVE as though heaven is on earth.--Souza

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That is like fishing for bass in a mud puddle.

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ORIGINAL: BBBTBW

I have been in the lifestyle for several years now.  I would never deem to call myself an expert because after all, what is a Pert and am I sure I want to be an Ex???  Just a little lite humor.

As I said I have been in the lifestyle several years (14),  I have had a couple of subs in those years but never anyone I would call a slave.  I have searched for a slave for the past few years but there always seems to be some reason (on their part) why they can't serve me.  Either I am not close enough in proximity, They don't want to relocate to Oklahoma (they can't make the money here that they make in their current locations) or we just simply don't see eye to eye on issues. 

My question is when is enough enough?  I am very tired of going thru the rigamarole associated with interviewing subs/slaves and getting to know them for it all to culminate into the abyss of nothingness.  If there is anyone out there that is having the same or similar issues or if you just have a comment, please discuss this with me as I am really considering calling an end to this whole thing for myself.  I am a natural DOMINANT and just tired of playing all the games that people play.

Ms Loren

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ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle

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ORIGINAL: BBBTBW

I have been in the lifestyle for several years now.  I would never deem to call myself an expert because after all, what is a Pert and am I sure I want to be an Ex???  Just a little lite humor.

As I said I have been in the lifestyle several years (14),  I have had a couple of subs in those years but never anyone I would call a slave.  I have searched for a slave for the past few years but there always seems to be some reason (on their part) why they can't serve me.  Either I am not close enough in proximity, They don't want to relocate to Oklahoma (they can't make the money here that they make in their current locations) or we just simply don't see eye to eye on issues. 

My question is when is enough enough?  I am very tired of going thru the rigamarole associated with interviewing subs/slaves and getting to know them for it all to culminate into the abyss of nothingness.  If there is anyone out there that is having the same or similar issues or if you just have a comment, please discuss this with me as I am really considering calling an end to this whole thing for myself.  I am a natural DOMINANT and just tired of playing all the games that people play.

Ms Loren

Ms Loren,

After reading your profile and the full thread, I think the best suggestions you've gotten here are Ms MacComb's, Lady Zephyr's and and julia's.

The more conditions you pre-set for a fulfilling, contented relationship, the less likely you are to find one.  The more pre-conceptions you have about the ideal slave, the less likely he is to even exist.

In this world of WIITWD, Dominant Women are far outnumbered by submissive men.  If, after 14 years of looking, a Dominant Woman cannot find a submissive man who meets her requirements, I think it would suggest that she needs to look within herself for the cause of the problem.

For instance, you say in your profile, that once your slave is owne by you, "then I own EVERYTHING about you."  Yet in your post, one of the problems you state is, "they can't make the money here that they make in their current locations."  What difference does it make how much money he can make there, unless your requirements for his income are unrealistic?

I would suggest that you step back and examine yourself: who you are, what you want and what you can live with.