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RE: Is it unethical to sexually objectify someone witho... - 5/17/2011 12:44:19 PM

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I can't imagine the sexual harassment issues at work this would cause if everyone were telling each other they thought they were hot lol.

Wanking to their voice on the phone (um, not at work) is pushing the envelope a bit as to what's ethical behavior in my world. But if every man who undressed me with his eyes TOLD me he was doing that I'd be a little creeped out I think. This is probably a case where "Don't ask don't tell" is a good thing.

How about the occasional man?

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RE: Is it unethical to sexually objectify someone witho... - 5/17/2011 12:45:07 PM

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So if I find a hot woman at the bar I need to ask her permission for my dick to get hard?

I dare you to try that.

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RE: Is it unethical to sexually objectify someone witho... - 5/17/2011 12:47:36 PM

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Masturbating on the phone? On the rare occasions that I'm in that situation, yes, I tell them.

I just want you to know that I'll be masturbating to your voice today. Could you please continue with your expense report?

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RE: Is it unethical to sexually objectify someone witho... - 5/17/2011 12:51:20 PM

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How about the occasional man?

Haha no comment.

And LMAO at the expense report comment!!

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RE: Is it unethical to sexually objectify someone witho... - 5/17/2011 12:52:52 PM

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The ones who might go off on my pictures on my pro side pay me to see them...so sort of they get my consent sort of... even when of course I have no idea who they are

I truly can't express how sad this statement is.

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RE: Is it unethical to sexually objectify someone witho... - 5/17/2011 12:53:37 PM

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Haha no comment.

Whaaaaa???..You don't like hordes of "fan" mail?

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RE: Is it unethical to sexually objectify someone witho... - 5/17/2011 12:56:53 PM

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The ones who might go off on my pictures on my pro side pay me to see them...so sort of they get my consent sort of... even when of course I have no idea who they are

I truly can't express how sad this statement is.

Much less sad than having a bunch of wankers getting off for free!

Shit.....I've gotten random emails telling me that they jerk off while staring at my photo, and many other women's photos. So I say YAYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!! for those that capitalize on the wankers!

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RE: Is it unethical to sexually objectify someone witho... - 5/17/2011 1:00:06 PM

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Whaaaaa???..You don't like hordes of "fan" mail?

It would be unethical to answer that.

Although the Mister might enjoy it a bit...

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RE: Is it unethical to sexually objectify someone witho... - 5/17/2011 1:01:42 PM

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I used to answer a crisis /helpline. Many mentally challenged and/or lonely men who couldn't get a partner would call and try to whack off with the phone call.

Can I get your number?

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RE: Is it unethical to sexually objectify someone witho... - 5/17/2011 1:02:27 PM

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i think that getting off on a fantasy is okay, but any real time sexual behavior requires the other person's consent. Crushes don't count, because you can't really help having them. ~Gungadin

Agreed.

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RE: Is it unethical to sexually objectify someone witho... - 5/17/2011 1:07:36 PM

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Perhaps you are just "undressing them with your eyes" or having a conversation that is leading, but sexually charged for you - without them even knowing it. What about masturbating to the sound of his/her voice on the phone but never fessing up to it?

Do you believe you need to get consent from someone before you take sexual gratification on their behalf, even if they are totally unaware of it?

Akasha

What in the hell are you talking about?

Are you suggesting that it is improper to be sexually aroused by another person unless you get their consent?

So if I find a hot woman at the bar I need to ask her permission for my dick to get hard?

Yea yea yea I too thought the question was retarded. So did quite a few others judging by their posts. It seems like most of the fems actually took the question seriously. It prolly cuz men are from venus and girls talk out their Uranus.

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RE: Is it unethical to sexually objectify someone witho... - 5/17/2011 1:07:44 PM

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RE: Is it unethical to sexually objectify someone witho... - 5/17/2011 1:08:53 PM

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The ones who might go off on my pictures on my pro side pay me to see them...so sort of they get my consent sort of... even when of course I have no idea who they are

I truly can't express how sad this statement is.

Much less sad than having a bunch of wankers getting off for free!

Shit.....I've gotten random emails telling me that they jerk off while staring at my photo, and many other women's photos. So I say YAYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!! for those that capitalize on the wankers!

Well LaT, that's the problem.

Look at the red side of the board and you will find numerous women trying to capitalize on it.

Men are visually stimulated. There is no harm in that. But you are saying it is okay to exploit men financially based on that.

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RE: Is it unethical to sexually objectify someone witho... - 5/17/2011 1:14:39 PM

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Men are visually stimulated. There is no harm in that. But you are saying it is okay to exploit men financially based on that.

Number one........I NEVER said a word about men....you are making that leap. And Number two, I think the phrase 'to exploit men financially' is utter bullshit in this instance. No one is holding a gun to any putz's head, demanding they pay to ogle photos or any other ridiculous dumbassery they are willing to pay for.

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RE: Is it unethical to sexually objectify someone witho... - 5/17/2011 1:14:51 PM

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really stupid question.

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RE: Is it unethical to sexually objectify someone witho... - 5/17/2011 1:16:01 PM

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When I watch TV and put my feet up on em, they know something is going on...

Your TV knows something is going on???

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RE: Is it unethical to sexually objectify someone witho... - 5/17/2011 1:17:13 PM

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Yea yea yea I too thought the question was retarded. So did quite a few others judging by their posts. It seems like most of the fems actually took the question seriously. It prolly cuz men are from venus and girls talk out their Uranus.

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RE: Is it unethical to sexually objectify someone witho... - 5/17/2011 1:17:44 PM

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Well LaT, that's the problem.

Look at the red side of the board and you will find numerous women trying to capitalize on it.

Men are visually stimulated. There is no harm in that. But you are saying it is okay to exploit men financially based on that.

Exploit them? You mean exploit as in: To make use of selfishly or unethically? What is selfish or unethical about making money in this manner? If there were no (male) customers, she would have no business. As with most sex industry "jobs" - the demand drives the need for services.

Your post comes across as more than a bit one sided, but perhaps that's just me.

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RE: Is it unethical to sexually objectify someone witho... - 5/17/2011 1:17:59 PM

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really stupid question.

Agreed. I can't possibly think that I'm the only one seeing this thread for what it is. If our dear Kelli did it, folks would be all over it.

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RE: Is it unethical to sexually objectify someone witho... - 5/17/2011 1:18:23 PM

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but in the same breath you have to possess the ability to sell your image to the putzes.

Lots of people would find whatever paltry sum paid would not be a sufficient amount.

To each their own. If you are an exhibitionist might as well get paid for what you are handing out for free.

i guess cunt dollars spend just as well as one's actually earned.....or do they?

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