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RE: height a deal breaker? - 5/18/2011 9:24:02 PM   
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I'm 5'10" and generally don't have to worry about this. Women my height and slightly taller don't really intimidate me. It's a matter of mindset for me personally, if they have an issue with height that's their own mental hang up not mine. ;^)


I often like guys my own height, my first dom was my height. He would pull my hair back and tip my head back and he could just stare directly in my eyes without leaning down or anything. There was something kinda hot and domly about that, being eye to eye... like prey in a cobra's stare

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RE: height a deal breaker? - 5/18/2011 9:59:26 PM   
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This is only an issue for me when I go on one of my Masai or Mandinka binges.

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RE: height a deal breaker? - 5/18/2011 10:07:57 PM   
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RE: height a deal breaker? - 5/19/2011 12:32:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		Unless a person's height is unusual, I don't tend to notice it one way or another. So it's far from a deal-breaker.

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RE: height a deal breaker? - 5/19/2011 9:31:41 PM   
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. i'm sorry but a short guy isn't going to do that for me when i'm in 4" heels. you pinning me against the wall is not going to have the effect i want when i'm looking at the top of your head. f

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Believe me, if I was pinning my girl against the wall, she wouldn't be looking at the top of my bald head....

The two scariest tops I ever had were 5' and 5'1 respectively.  They taught me a heckuva lot about having a dominating presence despite our, ahem, short comings.



so you are tallking for the girl you have now then? or are you saying that you can forecast what any woman who's with you with be thinking about?

if it's the first, great for her. but exactly, that's HER opinion, not mine.

if the latter, well hey why arn't you just out there spouting your stuff and getting everyone falling at your feet with how amazing you are. since you can predict how someone will feel with you i don't see what your problem is.

the thing is this. i will turn any guy who not above a certain height because i know how i want to feel. i know what being with a short guy makes me feel like and no matter what your attitude is or personality a lack of height ain't floating my boat.

you keep going on about people thinking of how they will look to others as a couple, for some that maybe the case as a factor but i'm guessing that for most it's far more about how they feel.

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Oh isn't that nice. I was just making a light comment and wasn't getting personal with you..... but since you went there....you aren't exactly winning me over either.

So I get it. You don't date short guys. No matter what. Crystal clear.

This has been a good thread--all this time I was thinking that I was missing out on something--obviously....I'm not. 



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RE: height a deal breaker? - 5/19/2011 9:51:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		Height is not a deal breaker for me. Naturally, taller guys are easier to notice; but I've dated a couple of men shorter than myself almost 5'10"), and I'm here to say, the taller ones had nothing on them... Unless you care about the double takes from people, which I've long ago been over. M

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RE: height a deal breaker? - 5/20/2011 12:11:53 PM   
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. i'm sorry but a short guy isn't going to do that for me when i'm in 4" heels. you pinning me against the wall is not going to have the effect i want when i'm looking at the top of your head. f

needles

edited for a silly typo


Believe me, if I was pinning my girl against the wall, she wouldn't be looking at the top of my bald head....

The two scariest tops I ever had were 5' and 5'1 respectively.  They taught me a heckuva lot about having a dominating presence despite our, ahem, short comings.



so you are tallking for the girl you have now then? or are you saying that you can forecast what any woman who's with you with be thinking about?

if it's the first, great for her. but exactly, that's HER opinion, not mine.

if the latter, well hey why arn't you just out there spouting your stuff and getting everyone falling at your feet with how amazing you are. since you can predict how someone will feel with you i don't see what your problem is.

the thing is this. i will turn any guy who not above a certain height because i know how i want to feel. i know what being with a short guy makes me feel like and no matter what your attitude is or personality a lack of height ain't floating my boat.

you keep going on about people thinking of how they will look to others as a couple, for some that maybe the case as a factor but i'm guessing that for most it's far more about how they feel.

needles


Oh isn't that nice. I was just making a light comment and wasn't getting personal with you..... but since you went there....you aren't exactly winning me over either.

So I get it. You don't date short guys. No matter what. Crystal clear.

This has been a good thread--all this time I was thinking that I was missing out on something--obviously....I'm not. 





but i was never trying to win you over, only to say why your opinion doesn't fit me. i haven't actually commented on you as a person for i don't know you. but you don't know me either, you can't make assumptions for people you don't know.

you can have your opinion of how everyone should be, maybe you are even right that it would be better if everyone was like you and had no preference. but the fact is is that it's not that way, as this thread and others show. you are the one who has a problem with others having a preference, not me. if i don't fit what someone wants it's all cool by me, i don't care. you do, i'm sure we all get that too.

but read what i wrote carefully. i did not make any comment directly about you as a person, only your opinion.

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RE: height a deal breaker? - 5/20/2011 12:55:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		Needles, you aren't stating a preference; you're stating a mandatory. How much respect would you have for me if I said I would only date the slimmest five per cent of the female population, no matter what, that her personality, etc., just didn't matter? I would consider myself to be a douchebag if I had a firm requirement like that.

I have dated two women much taller than I am, and they definitely would have preferred it if I were taller, but they didn't mind being seen in public with me, even when they were wearing heels. (Both of them are bedroom subs, if that makes any difference.)

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RE: height a deal breaker? - 5/20/2011 1:14:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		Actually Red, I wouldn't think that made you an ass. If you said that unfortunately only really skinny girls did it for you, as opposed to starting a fat thread. I also need a guy 6' to do it for me, I like shorter guys as friends but for me, chemistry is essential. And I don't have chemistry with shorter guys.

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RE: height a deal breaker? - 5/20/2011 1:21:31 PM   
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Women prefer tall men. It is biological. I didn't make the rules of biology up. It is kinda like men preferring young nubile women.... it is what it is


No, julia, SOME, not all women prefer tall men, just as SOME men prefer flat chested women, or BBW's or blondes , redheads, or blue monkeys. It is not biological, it is preferential.

I am a 5'7" BBW and everyone thinks I would gravitate towards taller, bigger guys.

But no. I don't discount anyone, but I have found myself attracted (even from the time I was a young girl) to shorter, average to muscular guys. Even when girls mature faster and we were all taller than the boys in class, my crushes were always on the cute short guys.

My only criteria is that I am physically and mentally attracted to someone and that they can handle me, in every possible way.

It is interesting, I have had taller boyfriends (my ex husband is 6'3" and was a gymnast) but it was my shorter guys who were the most dominant and hottest.

In the end, a deal breaker is what preferences are about and we are all allowed to have them.

Oh and I agree with Aynne. I feel feminine no matter who I am with; that comes from within me, not from who I am with.



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RE: height a deal breaker? - 5/20/2011 1:33:23 PM   
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Actually Red, I wouldn't think that made you an ass. If you said that unfortunately only really skinny girls did it for you, as opposed to starting a fat thread. I also need a guy 6' to do it for me, I like shorter guys as friends but for me, chemistry is essential. And I don't have chemistry with shorter guys.

No offense intended, Des, but my take on your statement here is that you are damaged in a very small way. One of my favorite posts of yours, ever, was when you told a woman about the importance of learning to be attracted to characteristics that were healthy for her. If a man with the most healthy characteristics for you was also 5 11, he would not be dateable? That seems like a very small but real disability.

Of course, things have worked out quite well for you, so who cares what I think. The bigger issue is one for people who are long term single and unhappy. "Not settling" should mean not allowing someone to treat you in an unhealthy, unloving fashion; not refusing to consider someone because of a couple inches or a dozen pounds.

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RE: height a deal breaker? - 5/20/2011 1:43:15 PM   
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you certainly have closed yourself off to a lot of wonderful people... I'm certain of that...

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RE: height a deal breaker? - 5/20/2011 1:46:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		5'11" would be okay. However I'm not sure that this is that unhealthy a thing. Being attracted to people with anger management problems is unhealthy. Guys who are in prison for murder, that's unhealthy. But not having an immediate click, or ever having that click with a guy who's only 5'6" isn't in the same ballpark.

This is like me not eating green beans. I don't like them and I see no reason to try to learn to like them. I eat broccoli and zucchini and sweet red peppers and sugar snap peas. The lack of a green bean doesn't prevent me from having a healthy diet. Dating a guy who is within a couple of inches of 6' isn't that limiting that I'm unable to find a healthy relationship.

Besides, how long should one try when there isn't any chemistry? Isn't it more fair to not raise his hopes by being honest then to go to bed with him and never enjoy it? Or should I try to fake an orgasm with a guy who doesn't turn me on? Or should I limit myself only to dating guys who I won't invite home hoping in year or twenty I will want to invite one of them? That just seems crazy to me, to only pick guys who I won't be able to have a relationship with.

I wouldn't say this is unhealthy as perhaps shallow. But I'm not sure that's the right word either. This isn't something I choose, it's an atavistic reaction, that zing which makes a relationship worth while. There's an old line; sex is the glue that holds a marriage together. And I think it's true. It's hard enough to keep a healthy sex life going year after year, decade after decade. Starting with a bad sex life seems a set up for failure.

By your viewpoint, people wired for power relationships are 5% unhealthy because they won't do the work to prefer a power equal relationship instead. Or don't you extend it to that?


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RE: height a deal breaker? - 5/20/2011 1:55:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think the way you describe your preference in your second post seems perfectly fine to me. I was concerned about the harder line others seemed to be drawing. Regarding power relationships, I do see a difference between unhealthy fetishizing and strong preference. Most people I know who are in or have been in power relationships would be willing to do nilla if the person was just amazing. Many people have both nilla and power relationships at the same time, for that matter. If someone is unable to consider nilla as a possibility, that seems kind of sad. There are so many relationship options in this new century.

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RE: height a deal breaker? - 5/20/2011 2:33:00 PM   
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Chuck Norris is 5 foot 4.


I don't know, I've never seen him in person.  All of the official bios I've ever seen have him listed at 5"10".  They say it is his youngest brother is the one who is the short one.

I have never a female who is too tall for me.  After they start getting under 5'4" it becomes iffy.   It is not a definite no, but it is make in the no column.


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RE: height a deal breaker? - 5/20/2011 4:42:14 PM   
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RE: height a deal breaker? - 5/20/2011 4:56:19 PM   
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if the latter, well hey why arn't you just out there spouting your stuff and getting everyone falling at your feet with how amazing you are. since you can predict how someone will feel with you i don't see what your problem is.


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the above is what I thought was getting a little snippy and personal--perhaps I misinterpreted your intonation then

I don't think it really matters. ... There are many things that I do agree with you and Julia on.... this just ain't one of them.

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RE: height a deal breaker? - 5/20/2011 5:07:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		And just a random little thought: a few other men that are sexy....and short
Prince   5'2"  
the late Ronnie James Dio 5'3
Dustin Hoffman 5'6"
Chuck Norris  I've also heard he's 5'4" but have not found anything official
Al Pacino is 5'6"

OH...and by the way....

Marquis de Sade.  He was also....  ....5'2"       

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RE: height a deal breaker? - 5/20/2011 6:12:30 PM   
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Women prefer tall men. It is biological. I didn't make the rules of biology up. It is kinda like men preferring young nubile women.... it is what it is


No, julia, SOME, not all women prefer tall men, just as SOME men prefer flat chested women, or BBW's or blondes , redheads, or blue monkeys. It is not biological, it is preferential.



Couldn't it still be biological if it were preferential? I don't see how the latter rules out the former. Our preferences formed by inherited elements of disposition... that sort of thing? I didn't get the taller=good gene, or at least not a strong dose of it. I did get a smarter=good gene, though.

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RE: height a deal breaker? - 5/20/2011 8:27:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		I seldom come across women who don't have a height preference, but it isn't always taller. Were I to simply ask around in the gym (I may actually do this when I take another break later) I'd likely hear responses of "I like them taller than me." (or shorter), but the likelihood of them having no preference at all isn't high.

From my own perspective, I'm always more content having a sub that is smaller than me and usually by quite a few inches at the least (I'm 6'1 1/2") and generally my weight or less due to the fact I know what I can and can't do with their body up to a certain weight, in terms of lifting them completely from the ground with ease. Not to mention remaining eye height if they're sitting in my lap.

These are personal preferences only and each person's tastes vary considerably.

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