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needlesandpins -> height a deal breaker? (5/17/2011 4:28:50 PM)

so there's the thread about age maybe being a deal breaker on here. today at work we've been talking about height. admittedly it was a female orientated discussion but i guess it could apply to guys too. one said that if she could have changed anything about her ex husband it would have been his height as she didn't like wearing heels with him as it made her tower over him.

i'm 5'6 and like tall men, my current is 6'2. this is purely a preference i've always had and it makes a difference to how a man can make me feel.

does it matter to you? say, as a sub/slave could you feel the same domination/mastership with someone around the same height or shorter. when looking for someone is height something you take into consideration?

i don't think it would feel the same to me being submissive to someone who was shorter than me if i'm wearing heels.

needles



juliaoceania -> RE: height a deal breaker? (5/17/2011 4:35:59 PM)

I have been involved with men that were slightly shorter than myself, and also with men that looked me in the eye. I prefer men over 6 feet. I would date a guy an inch shorter than myself, but any shorter is something I just do not feel okay about. It is my thing, but it just makes me uncomfortable.

I am 5 foot 10 in my bare feet. The last man I was seriously involved with was 6 foot 2



NocturnalStalker -> RE: height a deal breaker? (5/17/2011 4:41:00 PM)

I prefer females 5'7 and above.  More easier to lean down towards.



littlewonder -> RE: height a deal breaker? (5/17/2011 4:41:58 PM)

when I was looking, yes height was a dealbreaker...no shorter than 5'7". I'm simply not attracted to short men. 



NuevaVida -> RE: height a deal breaker? (5/17/2011 4:42:05 PM)

The Mister is about 3 inches taller than me, maybe 4. I can't wear high heels but I do wear moderate heels. It would be awkward for me if he were shorter than me.



FelineFae -> RE: height a deal breaker? (5/17/2011 4:42:39 PM)

Height isn't a deal breaker, but it will play a serious role in my physical attraction to someone.
i am 5' 4" and i like taller folk, just something i like. i also really like long hair to a near fetish level.

Yet,

i have yet to meet someone that's shorter than me when i'm on my knees.[;)]



Hillwilliam -> RE: height a deal breaker? (5/17/2011 4:44:36 PM)

Whether they want to admit it or not, for most subs, height is a deal breaker.

Experience speaking



subsong -> RE: height a deal breaker? (5/17/2011 4:46:11 PM)


Though I tend to prefer men a good bit taller than me, one of the most imposing Doms I've ever been with , was a scant couple inches taller - though his attitude made him seem far larger,  and I was way too distracted to think about height  !     Nice.



kallisto -> RE: height a deal breaker? (5/17/2011 4:50:39 PM)

** Hijack ** ... I really like this in your sig, Hillwilliam "Kinkier than a cheap garden hose" [:)]

Back to topic ..

I'm 5'2 if I stand up straight and hold my head up [:)] so yeah, height would be a deal breaker if the man were shorter than me. But all in all, I love tall men. I like being "towered" over.



HeartItRaces -> RE: height a deal breaker? (5/17/2011 4:53:36 PM)

I am 5'6 and Master is 5'5, I have never been with someone shorter than myself and I will openly admit I have found it completely attractive and arousing!



Hillwilliam -> RE: height a deal breaker? (5/17/2011 4:54:57 PM)

ty kali. what if the guy is 5'7 on a good day?
ETA he intimidates men that are well over 6' because of the shoulder/arms/chest thing.



juliaoceania -> RE: height a deal breaker? (5/17/2011 4:55:09 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: subsong


Though I tend to prefer men a good bit taller than me, one of the most imposing Doms I've ever been with , was a scant couple inches taller - though his attitude made him seem far larger,  and I was way too distracted to think about height  !     Nice.



I do not associate height with domliness. For me, being domly isn't a height thing. I have to say, it isn't that I do not think short men are attractive, it is how being with someone a lot shorter makes me feel... it makes me feel bigger, less feminine I suppose. I know that maybe shallow and I accept that it is my own issue



mynxkat -> RE: height a deal breaker? (5/17/2011 4:57:00 PM)

I'll admit that yes, height is potentially a deal breaker for me. Or at least a role breaker. However, I have an UPPER limit as well as a lower one on how tall or not I'm comfortable with my partner/Dom/Master being. Any taller than about 6' 7" is just TOO tall, I don't want to have to climb up on the furniture or on them to give someone a kiss or whisper in their ear or what have you. On the other side, I'm 5'5", and I'm just not comfortable with someone more than an inch or so shorter than I am in a dominant role over me. Now someone that I'm topping, yes, can be shorter. Little, and soft, and snuggly by preference. I don't get to do that very often though.

The above tends to apply only to males (except the too tall part, that one isn't gender specific). With other females, it just doesn't seem to matter anything like as much to me on that subconcious level.



Softsexysub -> RE: height a deal breaker? (5/17/2011 4:57:20 PM)

The taller the better for me.. They are sexier In everyway,. Cant deal with "little man syndrome"



agirl -> RE: height a deal breaker? (5/17/2011 4:58:07 PM)

I'm 5'2''......it's seriously not something I've had to consider.....everyone is taller than me, even my grandchildren are getting frighteningly close to my height.....:)

I did spend a few minutes considering whether I'd think or feel differently about M if he was shorter than me.......but I came to the conclusion that he'd just slice me off at the knees and say it was *for the best*......lol

agirl







needlesandpins -> RE: height a deal breaker? (5/17/2011 4:58:15 PM)

thinking on more, i wonder, for some of you who are Dom/mes, would you get a bigger sence of 'power' from dominating someone taller? or say bigger built, because that can also give the appearence of more height.

thanks so far guys.

needles



Muttling -> RE: height a deal breaker? (5/17/2011 4:58:33 PM)

IME, height is more of an issue for women than it is for men.     Despite all of the claims that "appearance isn't a driving factor", the vast majority of taller women who I have known have an issue with men who aren't taller than they are.



thishereboi -> RE: height a deal breaker? (5/17/2011 4:58:36 PM)

I like tall women. I love to hug them and bury my face in their shoulder and feel cuddled. But I am 5'8 and unfortunately most women I meet are shorter than me. So like the hair thread, no deal breaker here. 



faithbunny -> RE: height a deal breaker? (5/17/2011 4:59:26 PM)

I think most women prefer tall men. However, I have dated guys from 5'4 to 6'5 and found them sexy on both ends of the spectrum. My beloved is 3 inches taller than me, but he could be a few inches shorter and still be running the show, bossy as he is... ;  )

~faith



kallisto -> RE: height a deal breaker? (5/17/2011 5:03:26 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam

ty kali. what if the guy is 5'7 on a good day?
ETA he intimidates men that are well over 6' because of the shoulder/arms/chest thing.



5'7 is tall to me ... that's a whole 5 inches taller than me. [:)]



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