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Finding a Mistress - 5/21/2011 3:23:12 AM   
kinkysubmissive8


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Status: offline 		I was wondering if there is anyone out there just looking to have a sub serve them for fun. No strings just a good old fashion get on cam and let me laugh at you type of Mistress. It seems everyone I come across on this site recently is all about either the financial aspect or the live in situation. Where did all the fun go. Do you know understand I have a life outside this lifestyle? Do you not realize I don't want to drink your piss? I mean where are the level headed down to earth just want to have fun with a sub Mistress's? 
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RE: Finding a Mistress - 5/21/2011 3:53:54 AM   
Killerangel


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ORIGINAL: kinkysubmissive8

I was wondering if there is anyone out there just looking to have a sub serve them for fun. No strings just a good old fashion get on cam and let me laugh at you type of Mistress. It seems everyone I come across on this site recently is all about either the financial aspect or the live in situation. Where did all the fun go. Do you know understand I have a life outside this lifestyle? Do you not realize I don't want to drink your piss? I mean where are the level headed down to earth just want to have fun with a sub Mistress's? 


So, in conclusion you're asking if there are any Mistresses who will serve you?

Not likely.


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RE: Finding a Mistress - 5/21/2011 3:59:29 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Killerangel

quote:

ORIGINAL: kinkysubmissive8

I was wondering if there is anyone out there just looking to have a sub serve them for fun. No strings just a good old fashion get on cam and let me laugh at you type of Mistress. It seems everyone I come across on this site recently is all about either the financial aspect or the live in situation. Where did all the fun go. Do you know understand I have a life outside this lifestyle? Do you not realize I don't want to drink your piss? I mean where are the level headed down to earth just want to have fun with a sub Mistress's? 


So, in conclusion you're asking if there are any Mistresses who will serve you?

Not likely.


He is asking for a mistress to serve him because he writes in the first person format?

Not likely.


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RE: Finding a Mistress - 5/21/2011 3:59:52 AM   
kinkysubmissive8


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Status: offline 		no I'm not looking for a Mistress to serve me. I'm just asking if there are Mistress's out there that are not into the financial aspect and are realistic about their subs. I understand serving them its their rules. But honestly when they don't respect your limits. How can one serve a Mistress like that?

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RE: Finding a Mistress - 5/21/2011 4:06:29 AM   
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ORIGINAL: kinkysubmissive8

no I'm not looking for a Mistress to serve me. I'm just asking if there are Mistress's out there that are not into the financial aspect and are realistic about their subs. I understand serving them its their rules. But honestly when they don't respect your limits. How can one serve a Mistress like that?
Of course there are Mistresses that are not interested in the financial aspect. Looking in directions other then a computer screen might really help you. Look into the BDSM community where you live and start to attend munches and other functions.

And this is just my humble opinion, but if a Dominant doesn't respect the limits of their submissive, the submissive cannot trust the Dominant and a M/sD/s relationship is not possible.

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RE: Finding a Mistress - 5/21/2011 4:37:59 AM   
dusty52


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Status: offline 		i dont thank there is a reall mistress im a sub guy been looking for a long time havent found any thing

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RE: Finding a Mistress - 5/21/2011 4:42:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		So you thought you'd increase your chances of finding a Mistress by going to place where they hang out online and try to throw a pity party for yourself?

FFS man - get a grip! It took me EIGHT YEARS to find the man I needed. So it's taken a little time? Welcome to the real world!

There is NO alternative to getting to know someone (online and real-life) and building a relationship of whatever kind, unless you're prepared to pay for it.

So you can either pull up your big boy pants and start making more of an effort to meet women or sit in a corner and sulk. Your choice.

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RE: Finding a Mistress - 5/21/2011 4:45:40 AM   
sirsholly


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i dont thank there is a reall mistress im a sub guy been looking for a long time havent found any thing
Well golly gee dude. You joined this site an entire four days ago and basically have a blank profile. Instead of presenting yourself in a positive manner in the forums, your first post is extremely negative and loaded with typos.

Now please tell me just WHY a Mistress would demonstrate interest in you when you present yourself in such a manner?


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RE: Finding a Mistress - 5/21/2011 4:50:25 AM   
poise


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ORIGINAL: kinkysubmissive8

I mean where are the level headed down to earth just want to have fun with a sub Mistress's? 


Perhaps they are having so much fun that they somehow fail to notice you.
What are you doing to garner their attention, besides pleading for it on a forum?

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RE: Finding a Mistress - 5/21/2011 4:52:49 AM   
MissAsylum


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ORIGINAL: myotherself

So you thought you'd increase your chances of finding a Mistress by going to place where they hang out online and try to throw a pity party for yourself?

FFS man - get a grip! It took me EIGHT YEARS to find the man I needed. So it's taken a little time? Welcome to the real world!

There is NO alternative to getting to know someone (online and real-life) and building a relationship of whatever kind, unless you're prepared to pay for it.

So you can either pull up your big boy pants and start making more of an effort to meet women or sit in a corner and sulk. Your choice.


Yeah, what the bunny said.

You may want to take that phallic out of your butt and take your hand away from your crotch and go meet some real people. Honestly, what you are looking for isn't going to happen for free, money or time wise. Figure out which one you want to invest in and act accordingly.

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RE: Finding a Mistress - 5/21/2011 5:01:02 AM   
RedMagic1


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Status: offline 		The old fashioned women who had fun with web cams became influenced by Seventeenth Wave feminism, and now they like going on dates in real life. You might try a new fangled idea like buying someone dinner and a show. It is weird, I know, because you might think a true mistress would not care about anything so vanilla. But what can you do? Chicks are weird. They are much more likely to cam with you for free after they know you in real life.

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RE: Finding a Mistress - 5/21/2011 5:01:04 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Folks, please note that kinkysubmissive8 is looking to serve on webcam ONLY.

ks8, you say that "you have a life",  That, coupled with the fact that you say that you're interested in online, makes me think that you're married and just looking for some fun on the side.

You're essentially looking for an online Mistress for free.

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RE: Finding a Mistress - 5/21/2011 5:04:21 AM   
LadyConstanze


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ORIGINAL: kinkysubmissive8

I was wondering if there is anyone out there just looking to have a sub serve them for fun. No strings just a good old fashion get on cam and let me laugh at you type of Mistress. It seems everyone I come across on this site recently is all about either the financial aspect or the live in situation. Where did all the fun go. Do you know understand I have a life outside this lifestyle? Do you not realize I don't want to drink your piss? I mean where are the level headed down to earth just want to have fun with a sub Mistress's? 


Let me translate your words into a vanilla context...

"I'm really wondering, I'm always looking through the window of this cafe/pub/club and a lot of chicks hang out, so I went in there to see if they want to shag a guy, just for fun, no strings, I mean I would be happy if they'd get naked and just let me masturbate while looking at them. I don't want to buy them a drink or even talk to them, I just want to have my fun. Why do they all want a relationship? Don't they understand I got a wife at home who mustn't know about me trying to bang a chick quickly on the side, I mean I got a life outside.... Do they not realize I don't want to worry about what they might like? I mean where are the level headed, down to earth, just want to have fun girls who will bang me and then go away? Women are so evil, they are mean and just want money! I am having a pity party now!"

FFS, why should I want to watch a stranger on cam? Why should I spend time with some dude who just wants to get his rocks off? You know what? Not a dime a dozen - you get a few hundred of them for a dime, so what makes you stick out, why you over all the other selfish wankers who want to have a bit of fun?

There will be women willing to watch you on cam, but since there is nothing in it for them in terms of fun, they will charge you. Fair game! Your bit of fun is just not our bit of fun and most of us wouldn't even want to play if you'd pay so grab the ones who are willing to endure your cam show, I know we are all such meanies.

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RE: Finding a Mistress - 5/21/2011 5:07:28 AM   
RedMagic1


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Status: offline 		You dont sound very old fashioned.

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RE: Finding a Mistress - 5/21/2011 5:09:35 AM   
MsLadySue


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Status: offline 		You want to play on cam for your own amusement. Why would we bother with you when there are lots of real men available to play in person?

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RE: Finding a Mistress - 5/21/2011 5:14:18 AM   
ebonywarqueen


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Status: offline 		OH JOY! Its the weekly why can't I find a Domme thread. Because afterall this question never comes up.

1. don't ever ask for "no strings" it is the equivalent of saying you want a free fuck. Most of us want SOME strings. Maybe not a full flung relationship, but also not some nobody we have no connection at all with.

2.Make friends with Dommes. Most of us do not enjoy doing D/s with strangers but we do enjoy it with friends.If you meet and get to know some real Dommes you have a much better chance of getting some scene time with one.


3. WE ARE NOT MISTRESSES. We are women- dominant women. See us for who we are (women) not what we do (Domme).

4. go to munches and get involved in your local kink community and make friends with others in the lifestyle. The dungeon I used to go to has "sample your kink" nights where they offer people a chance to try different kinks they would like to experience.

5. Hang out here and get to know the Dommes who post here. Most of us are lifestyle and many have our own subs and slaves. it could be helpful for you to find out how lifestyle Dommes think and interact to get to know us as flesh and blood human beings.

The fun is out there baby. You just have to go to IT. IT does not come to you.

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RE: Finding a Mistress - 5/21/2011 5:16:25 AM   
LadyConstanze


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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

You dont sound very old fashioned.


I'll try and work on that, I promise... But if that means that I don't want to watch some complete stranger jerking off on cam "for my amusement" (can somebody please pass the puke bucket), I embrace not being old fashioned



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RE: Finding a Mistress - 5/21/2011 5:25:07 AM   
sunshinemiss


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Status: offline 		There are a lot of people that like to have fun. Your definition of fun and a lady's definition may be somewhat different.

Just a thought.

Good luck,
sunshine

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RE: Finding a Mistress - 5/21/2011 5:30:32 AM   
ebonywarqueen


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ORIGINAL: dusty52

i dont thank there is a reall mistress im a sub guy been looking for a long time havent found any thing


I can guarantee you there are probably not many dominant women in OZARK AL where your profile states you are from. However there is a very active realtime D/s group in Birmingham, AL. if you go to fetlife they have an online group. And there also is a group of dominant women who meet once a month in Birmingham.

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RE: Finding a Mistress - 5/21/2011 5:33:04 AM   
LadyConstanze


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ORIGINAL: ebonywarqueen


quote:

ORIGINAL: dusty52

i dont thank there is a reall mistress im a sub guy been looking for a long time havent found any thing


I can guarantee you there are probably not many dominant women in OZARK AL where your profile states you are from. However there is a very active realtime D/s group in Birmingham, AL. if you go to fetlife they have an online group. And there also is a group of dominant women who meet once a month in Birmingham.


But that would mean he has to leave the house, make an effort and it is not a guarantee that he will automatically be accepted and get kink a la carte...

Gosh, I know a lot of vanilla people who haven't found their match but most of them aren't as whiny as sub guys, ooops, could that be a reason?

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