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AAkasha -> RE: Finding a Mistress (5/23/2011 3:00:28 PM)
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ORIGINAL: kinkysubmissive8
I was wondering if there is anyone out there just looking to have a sub serve them for fun. No strings just a good old fashion get on cam and let me laugh at you type of Mistress. It seems everyone I come across on this site recently is all about either the financial aspect or the live in situation. Where did all the fun go. Do you know understand I have a life outside this lifestyle? Do you not realize I don't want to drink your piss? I mean where are the level headed down to earth just want to have fun with a sub Mistress's?
When I was in my uber-predatory and totally-single days, I often engaged in seductive, no-strings BDSM activities. But part of the rush for me was the process of seduction and coercion, so I wasn't online looking for willing guys (who line up) to perform on webcam, I was looking for men that I was immediately attracted to (from a physical standpoint) or men in my social circles to seduce. Kinky or not. Actually, the less kinky, the better. I loved converting shy vanilla guys into wanton bondage victims.
I will admit that there are times now, yes, I just feel like I want some hot video action in the form of a guy just submitting to me live on cam. No strings. One time, never talk to him again. But I have to find him immensely attractive if all he is to me is eye candy, so I will go to a site that features paid models. It's expensive. But it's like custom porn anyway. You get what you pay for.
More likely, I will have developed a relationship based on mutual chemistry with a man who doesn't live near me, and if the timing is good, I can drop him a line and tell him I'm feeling frisky and we'll go from there. But I have to be attracted to him. Some random person who I have never seen, never talked to, have no idea what he's like as a person...and then, if he goes on cam, and on top of that, he is NOT physically appealing to me -- that's a huge, huge turn off. There must be some spark there.
I can't speak for all femdoms. But my desire to dominate is based on lust. I don't enjoy dominating a man simply because the *process* is exciting to me; it's the specifics of the way the man reacts to the process, and that's based on my affection, interest, desires for THAT man. If I can't manufacture a fantasy around him as a person (because I am shallow - if he's HOT, as a start), then I have to have built up an affection for him as a human being, in the way his MIND works, in his capabilities. That said, there are some men I dominate on cam regularly that I would have NEVER been interested in if I just met them and they turned on their cam and said "Here I am, command me!" -- but now, because I know them, I am deeply attracted to the idea of making them submit.
Short version - you can pay a woman to dominate you on cam, no strings attached. Or, you can take time to develop a relationship (chemistry) with someone who considers "cam play" a fun diversion. If you are very, very physically attractive, you can sign up and cam for cash at one of the cam sites (ha!) but know you are submitting to men as well as women. Or, you can send your picture to me, if you look like a young Johnny Depp. Easy!
Akasha
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