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OsideGirl -> RE: Any s's ever respond to those first 'Dom you right away' emails? (5/22/2011 5:40:33 PM)

If I do respond, it's usually not in the manner in which they were expecting....



Racer_X -> RE: Any s's ever respond to those first 'Dom you right away' emails? (5/22/2011 5:42:43 PM)

Oh yeah?  What does that look like?



-Rx



keechoo -> RE: Any s's ever respond to those first 'Dom you right away' emails? (5/22/2011 8:21:12 PM)

I have and two years later I am owned by him. He is the nicest, kindest, and a very intellegent man. Even though I probably wouldn't do it again and I am very happy that I did respond to him.



juliaoceania -> RE: Any s's ever respond to those first 'Dom you right away' emails? (5/22/2011 8:33:28 PM)

Yes I have... I did it because I wanted to see how those men would react if they got an actual response. By responding, I do not mean I submitted to them, but I did say politely that I get to know someone before I am submissive, and if they wanted to exchange emails, who knows....

It was interesting, for while I did not click with anyone (perhaps partially because I was biased against them from the start?), some of them did knock off the master shit. I think some of them think mistakenly that we want to be approached like this.

I also had some who responded belligerently to me.

I did not try it for very long, more of an experiment than a strategy.



petmonkey -> RE: Any s's ever respond to those first 'Dom you right away' emails? (5/22/2011 10:56:11 PM)

FR

If it's a full sentence or more i respond with a polite decline.  They may be looking for that specific fantasy scenario, you know, the one where All bottoms respond in a submissive manner to All Tops. Their kink is okay, it's just not my kink and i'm willing to say so.  If they are confusing fantasy for reality, it's not my job to correct their thinking. If it's less then a full sentence, i use the "No response is a response" technique and delete without actually opening the message.



Phoenixpower -> RE: Any s's ever respond to those first 'Dom you right away' emails? (5/22/2011 10:58:44 PM)

As I am not looking at the moment I actually respond with saying "My profile contains more than a picture and it doesn't hurt to read it, yanno...." [8|]



tiggerspoohbear -> RE: Any s's ever respond to those first 'Dom you right away' emails? (5/24/2011 4:59:15 PM)

I won't put up with the "I'm a Dom you're now my sub".  I either ignore or if I'm in a mood then they get the snarky response.  I've done lots of those. "How's the girl doing  today?", "How's this sub doing today?", "I'm a Master and you have to apply for a position as a slave to me".  Those are samplings.  "The girl" is busy, I'll see if I can find her", "I don't know how this sub is doing, she's busy right now", "Good for you buttercup, now try that on someone who'll actually fall for that crap". 

I can block and delete just as easily as I can reply.  Depends on if I feel like playing with an idiot for awhile.  If they smarten up, that's one thing.  None of them have so far.  So snarky replies and a lot of whooooooooooosh right over their heads.  Until I agree to become someone's sub, then I'm a single sub and don't owe any Dom a damn thing, we're people first and it's not about the label.



faithbunny -> RE: Any s's ever respond to those first 'Dom you right away' emails? (5/24/2011 8:39:50 PM)

It's laid out in my profile that I find such doms ridiculous, so if they choose to contact me acting that way, they're asking for it. The obnoxiousness of my response is generally on par with the obnoxiousness of their email. I have never responded positively to someone who approached me disrespectfully like that. I've had 3 relationships with doms, and all 3 treated me with respect and caring before they started trying to dominate me. Maybe it would work better on people who don't limit their submission to serious relationships?



sexyred1 -> RE: Any s's ever respond to those first 'Dom you right away' emails? (5/24/2011 9:01:08 PM)

I only responded that one time when Brad Pitt wrote me. I asked why he was cheating on Angie and he said she was vanilla and so boring in the sack and he thought he would take a walk on the wild side.

So I did him. It was totally rad.

See? Dreams do come true on Collarme.



DomMeinCT -> RE: Any s's ever respond to those first 'Dom you right away' emails? (5/24/2011 9:01:36 PM)

I don't get too many of the really domly/nutty ones, but if I do, I usually answer with a snarky but potentially educative response (Is this how they'd approach a woman in RL? Do they honestly think they'll get a civilized response using the approach they're taking?) or point out some hilarious irony in their profile.



Kaliko -> RE: Any s's ever respond to those first 'Dom you right away' emails? (5/24/2011 9:07:21 PM)

I do believe I've responded once or twice to that type of email, but it was a long time ago, when I was kind of learning about what to look for...and what not to look for...when trying to meet a Dominant online.


There was a man fairly recently who started in heavy with a kink of mine from email number one, and to be honest, for a few emails, I just couldn't ignore it. Totally went with it and had a little fun, but then backed off again because it just wasn't the right fit for me. He wasn't trying to "Dom me right away", or at all, really, but it was heavily raunchy from the start. Probably just like I was in the beginning when I was getting those types of ""Dom me right away" emails, I was surprised and reacted out of curiosity.



graceadieu -> RE: Any s's ever respond to those first 'Dom you right away' emails? (5/25/2011 8:59:32 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Racer_X

Hey folks-


So we all know the 'common wisdom' - don't write rude, Master-y or Dom-y emails right away.  Don't give orders, don't verbally abuse, etc. etc.  Common wisdom says those get deleted right away, or worse, hauled out for Journal Abuse.  (Which, by the way, I'm not a huge fan of.  It's not so bad if you don't use the nic, but naming names generally went out with Stalin.) 

Common wisdom says those messages are, generally, 'unsuccessful'.  But I'm curious if that's the reality.  Certainly it's true for some.  But how true.... really?

So my question is:

Is there anyone out there who has responded to any of those kinds of messages?  And I mean of any kind- once on a lark, a couple times, 'there's a certain type that can get me to do that', online, went-and-met, etc.

I'd be curious to hear as much of the who's/when's/why's as you'd care to share.




RacerX

(Please note- I'm not asking for a judgement on people who write messages like that- 'assholes', etc.  I'm not asking your opinion on how often you think it happens...)


I did when I first got on Alt.com a number of years ago. Some of the less jerk-y messages seemed kind of sexy to my newbie self, so I responded to some of them. But I never met any of them, and realized pretty quickly that they were a waste of time.



Nanako -> RE: Any s's ever respond to those first 'Dom you right away' emails? (5/27/2011 2:29:37 PM)

I'll generally respond politely, asking them stuff about themselves, asking to see pictures, etc, and try to have a conversation.
Most such doms don't seem to know how to react to actually getting a response, and give up on replying quite quickly



fragilepieces -> RE: Any s's ever respond to those first 'Dom you right away' emails? (6/9/2011 4:32:40 PM)

I got one today and I am still trying to figure out what his response meant---I did ask but he deleted my email unread.   Can anyone figure out what he meant by 'get the know from panties out of your cunt'?   





LanceHughes -> RE: Any s's ever respond to those first 'Dom you right away' emails? (6/9/2011 7:23:28 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: fragilepieces
I got one today and I am still trying to figure out what his response meant---I did ask but he deleted my email unread.   Can anyone figure out what he meant by 'get the know from panties out of your cunt'?   

As a gay male Dom, I have just 3 words: "Brain bleach, PLEASE!!!!"



sunshinemiss -> RE: Any s's ever respond to those first 'Dom you right away' emails? (6/10/2011 4:30:47 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1

I only responded that one time when Brad Pitt wrote me. I asked why he was cheating on Angie and he said she was vanilla and so boring in the sack and he thought he would take a walk on the wild side.

So I did him. It was totally rad.

See? Dreams do come true on Collarme.


You are such a frickin' hussy.  I like that about you. [:D]



littleone35 -> RE: Any s's ever respond to those first 'Dom you right away' emails? (6/10/2011 9:39:27 AM)

Well i usually read all my mail.  I always show Master and he decides which ones get played and which ones just get deleted  he usually deletes most of them.  Cause if they read my profile they would see,i am very happily owned, but hey maybe they cannot read.

Matt's littleone



LillyBoPeep -> RE: Any s's ever respond to those first 'Dom you right away' emails? (6/11/2011 3:51:30 AM)

i dont generally respond just because that personality type is a turn-off for me. if he thinks that he has to do that to impress me, rather than just be himself and let THAT impress me, well then... he's probably not my type, really. i've responded to a few, to be honest, but they generally either don't know how to reply back, or i was right and they really AREN'T my type. 



kalikshama -> RE: Any s's ever respond to those first 'Dom you right away' emails? (6/11/2011 4:41:10 AM)

quote:

Is there anyone out there who has responded to any of those kinds of messages?  And I mean of any kind- once on a lark, a couple times, 'there's a certain type that can get me to do that', online, went-and-met, etc.


I will occasionally respond out of a sense of incredulity or the desire to impart some words of wisdom. Sometimes I will tell them they may have better luck if they try this approach: http://www.collarchat.com/m_1717756/tm.htm

I have never given out my phone number or email address as a result of these exchanges, much less met in person.



Awareness -> RE: Any s's ever respond to those first 'Dom you right away' emails? (6/11/2011 8:50:58 AM)

Personally, I go conversational and amuse myself and them, however I think the question itself is a problem.

Playing the odds by asking what works isn't the way you do this.  Determine what your own approach will be based upon your own reality and what you expect from yourself, first and foremost.  Set standards for your own behaviour and what you'll tolerate from others.

Then engage in the way which matches your standards.  This means your responses will flow from you, they won't be a pretty facade you're putting together for the benefit of the sub.  Ultimately, the sub is always going to sniff out the real you lurking behind whatever mask you choose to wear.

If being aggressive and Domming right away is who you are then go with that - simply because you only want responses from subs who DO respond to that.  And some do.  The self-righteous time-wasters who try and lead you on are simply judgmental - they expect tolerance for their particular style of kink, while condemning someone whose style doesn't meet with their approval.

Consequently, they're blind to their own hypocrisy.



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