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Whiplashsmile4 -> The depth of toys. (5/22/2011 1:30:29 PM)

This last week, I found myself holding my red flogger in my hands while in the midst of straighten up things.

At first, I was a bit like a kid waving a plastic sword in the air. Pulling off some mean ass martial arts like moves with it. The typical stuff, figure 8's and such. A moment of pure excitement and glee. Like I said, I felt like a little kid waving a plastic sword around in the air...pretending to fight dragons or something. Only it wasn't dragons. It was taking it the naked body of somebody that does not exist. They might as well be a mythical dragon.

I ended up sitting down on the edge of the bed. Holding the flogger laid out in the palms of my hands. Staring at it. Slowly clasping my hands around it, caressing it, and twirling my fingers through the tails, very much as if it were somebody's hair. The moment was screaming a certain emptiness.

The Red flogger, is a special flogger. You see, I've yet to use it on anybody. It's completely free of any mental connections or memories of anybody. It's a symbolic clean slate. This is one of the main reasons why I bought it.

Oh the sweet Masochistic Embrace of Sadistic Affection. My mind wonders for a moment over one that does not exist, in my life. I've recently resolved myself to being open to a play partner. Perhaps even a one time hook-up. I want to fulfill these desires burning inside of me, with anything that is really REAL. You can't take a flogger to somebody Long Distance!!! Not over the phone, Not in Chat or IM.

Sure you might have them take a flogger to themselves, but that ain't the same. There's a certain personal depth when you use your toys for real on somebody. The very real elements and aspects of physical contact. I'm very much into sensations, along with the mental and emotional aspects.

In many ways, toys like floggers have added depth and meaning. I realize not everybody thinks, relates nor connects this way to things.



LadyPact -> RE: The depth of toys. (5/22/2011 1:53:39 PM)

Good post, but we're on the opposite sides of this one.  I don't have a single toy that isn't connected to something, someONE in some way.  I literally don't own a single one that doesn't have fond memories attached to it. 

I can fully admit My love affair with My toys.  The thing is, it's not that they are material possessions.  The collection is pretty large, but there isn't a thing you could pull out that I can't tell you where it came from or why I have an emotional attachment to it.  Some of them, the really special ones, I can touch and feel that connection to a certain person.  That's part of why I love them so much.



littlewonder -> RE: The depth of toys. (5/22/2011 2:01:03 PM)

It's one of the huge huge reasons why I don't like used toys being used on me even if they are toys that can be cleaned...there are memories, thoughts attached to those toys that were used with and on someone else.

The last thing I want is when he is hitting me with that cane is for all those memories of that person to come flooding back into his head. I want those thoughts to be of me and of us, not a third party.

People say I'm being too strange when I want new toys and that they cost him a lot of money so why shouldn't he use them again? Because of the reason I stated. It's one reason why I don't do casual.




DesFIP -> RE: The depth of toys. (5/22/2011 2:18:35 PM)

Absolutely. I don't want to be a generic warm body or worse him imagining somebody else's head on me. If there's a ghost there, then I won't be. I can't be.



SimplyMichael -> RE: The depth of toys. (5/22/2011 2:42:26 PM)

I have a very soft chenille blanket that I have used for aftercare since I entered the scene, I have poured so much energy into that blanket anyone who touches it smiles, it is imbued with me, I have a picture of BSB asleep with it wrapped around her and I don't tend to use it with just anyone.

Some toys to me take on the energy of a partner and that may make them so associated with them, that I don't use them again. The collar I used many years ago for the one woman I have ever collared will never be used again. My cuffs however, are mine and unlike the collar will probably be the ones I use till some event makes we set them aside for a better pair as functionally, they are not the bestl

Heck, there are sex acts, kinks, and forms of play that take on someone's energy that just feel wrong doing them with someone else. BSB and I shared a hand signal for a certain position and for me, it became a magical thing, something imbued with deep meaning and significance shared between her andI and so I will never again share that piece with anyone else.



Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: The depth of toys. (5/22/2011 2:43:26 PM)

This red flogger is literally a symbolic clean slate. One of the reasons why I bought it. What's sad is that I've had it for 5 months now. One more month = 1/2 a year. It's the only Toy I own that is a clean slate. LOL

There are some things, I refuse to part with. Such as a pair of extremely heavy duty ankle and wrist restraints. You could swing off trees with those. Mind you, I've been questioned before about who's been in them. I keep that information dark and mysterious, most importantly to myself. ;^)




needlesandpins -> RE: The depth of toys. (5/22/2011 3:17:51 PM)


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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

It's one of the huge huge reasons why I don't like used toys being used on me even if they are toys that can be cleaned...there are memories, thoughts attached to those toys that were used with and on someone else.

The last thing I want is when he is hitting me with that cane is for all those memories of that person to come flooding back into his head. I want those thoughts to be of me and of us, not a third party.

People say I'm being too strange when I want new toys and that they cost him a lot of money so why shouldn't he use them again? Because of the reason I stated. It's one reason why I don't do casual.




i don't think that's strange at all. in fact that's very much how i see it too. i'd hate to think personal toys had been used on someone else. in the same token, i'd hate it more if my/our toys were used on/by someone new and brought back to me. cuffs i'm not bothered about, but more intimate things then very much yes. it's not so much about actual ownership, as in who paid for what, but the attachment to it.

i bought something that was taken and used on someone else before i'd had chance to use it myself. i haven't touched it since, it seems tainted somehow.

stuff like that maybe shouldn't mean so much but strangely, to me at least, it just does.

needles



Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: The depth of toys. (5/22/2011 6:14:51 PM)

I have to say this..... it's rather yummy from a humiliation/degradation perspective knowing how some girls think about this. Devilish mind fucking thoughts going on inside my brain at the moment. What? how many girls I have I used this (brand new) Dildo out on. It's been inside all three hole at least 30 girls, wait make that 32 girls. To think, some people think I'm actually a rather nice guy too. LOL



littlewonder -> RE: The depth of toys. (5/22/2011 6:19:02 PM)

for me that wouldn't be humiliating, just depressing.




LillyBoPeep -> RE: The depth of toys. (5/22/2011 6:32:48 PM)

i have a few toys that i won't re-use; mostly ones that i got from my last relationship or that had belonged to him. the collar and cuffs he made me are pretty obvious. i haven't reused the spreader bars either, but i've thought of gifting them to a friend i really care about. letting the stuff sit and go to waste would be a bigger disrespect to M's memory than reusing them.

but in general, i don't think of all previous energy as bad, or as a ghost. i think if something is special to someone, that energy is positive when they sharing it with me. if i give the spreader bars to my friend, i'm not giving him M's ghost, i'm giving him something that meant a lot to me, and that has a lot of good energy attached.
things only make me uncomfortable because of the people associated with them. a toy made or used by someone i dislike, for instance, is something that will go elsewhere and stay out of my bag.
if i have to worry about the guy putting someone else's head on my body, then maybe i shouldn't be playing with him in the first place. that's just me.

i have a really nice flogger made by my friend. i've had a lot of really interesting times with him, and continuing to use that flogger with a future partner wouldn't be about imagining my friend in a future partner's place, it would just be about sharing good energy that it had already accumulated.



Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: The depth of toys. (5/22/2011 6:52:47 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder
for me that wouldn't be humiliating, just depressing.

That's why it's important to actually get to know somebody. The way somebody reacts, thinks, feels and responds to things.

I have my moments when I love to mind fuck, tease, even enjoy hearing somebody beg. Mentally sadistic? I'm not going to pretend that I don't push the envelops and limits of things. Which is what makes it all the more enjoyable for me. As I've expressed on here already, I don't know if I'm perhaps too extreme or vanilla when compared to others.

I enjoy love and affection (giving and receiving it). I do sincerely appreciate any girl that endure's being the outlet for my sadistic streaks. This includes being made fun of at times. Know that I'm also there with words of love, sincere appreciation.

There is a certain reality, would you find it equally depressing that your Dom/Master/Daddy/Owners cock had actually been inside x number of girls before you? If not then why such a deep downer about the thoughts of a piece of rubber? A piece of rubber that was incapable of physically taking pleasure from being inside anybody.

You can throw out all the fucking toys in the world, and buy new ones. Still won't change the fact of where Real Body parts have been in the past with somebody else.

It's rather ironic how material items can take on greater meaning or significance compared to flesh and blood human beings, with a heart soul and mind. It's sort of like a transference into a form of objectification itself (pondering thoughts).

Just my two cents in response.



Aileen1968 -> RE: The depth of toys. (5/22/2011 7:21:14 PM)

When we started our relationship, he made it clear that everything would be new, including all of the things.
We've made our own memories with the things we have.



Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: The depth of toys. (5/22/2011 8:00:30 PM)

I just took a dive through my trunk! Assortment of Ropes, clothes pins, clamps and hooks, floggers, crops, container of lancets, and etc...

Ahh Ahh!! I found three more things that's never made human contact!

1. a pair of nipple clamps, that I had purchased and forgot all about.
2. A six pack of Halloween Slim in the Can. Looks like 6 little black oil drums!
3. A body paint set

All these things are still sealed. LOL

I have a small collection of Body massage devices... matter of fact, I have the little vibrating "War of the world"s looking one pressed against the back of my shoulder, while I type things out.

I don't have any dildo's or vibrators in my trunk, nothing too extremely personal that I should get rid of here. My God, just thinking about how much these things cost. The number are racking up in a heart beat. At least with the expensive items. Okay, whoever is next will just have to deal with it. I actually would love to buy some more stuff, and make a few things.

There's enough left over decking material out in the garage to make a St. Andrews cross out of... I never did get around to making that yet. Then again, when I had those thoughts I actually wanted to do that special for somebody.

God, this is so depressing right now. Time to close up the trunk and drag it back into the walk in closet. There's a reason for things being packed up.



HeatherMcLeather -> RE: The depth of toys. (5/22/2011 8:49:11 PM)

Almost all the toys used on me have been used on other people before me (and since I came along as well). It doesn't bother me in the least. I rather like it. The toys are just that, toys. She's had several floggers, and she likes the ones she has now. Why should she have to give them up? I don't mind if she thinks of Suzy Whippedwell when she picks one up. Suzy is gone. That flogger is mine now, its me it goes out dancing with now.

So she has memories of Suzy attached to it, so what, she's building new memories to attach to it with me now. Now when she uses it on somebody, I'll be in her mind along with Suzy, I'll be there along with whoever else made it a special toy to her. And I like that. It makes me happy to think that I am now part of her forever, that I'm in her head alongside all her past playmates and partners. We may split up one day, but I'll be in there for ever, I'll be part of those toys from now on, and whenever she uses them, she'll think of me as well. I'm permanent. Why would I want to deny the people that loved her in the past that same permanency?




HeatherMcLeather -> RE: The depth of toys. (5/22/2011 8:56:19 PM)

quote:

A six pack of Halloween Slim in the Can. Looks like 6 little black oil drums!
Time to look dumb again. What on earth is Slim in the Can?



juliaoceania -> RE: The depth of toys. (5/22/2011 9:00:32 PM)

I loved when I would wear his ankle and wrist cuffs. I loved the leather smell, the weight of them, etc...I would often wear them around when I could, and on his orders I would sleep with them... it made me feel very much "his"



littlewonder -> RE: The depth of toys. (5/22/2011 9:12:25 PM)

quote:

There is a certain reality, would you find it equally depressing that your Dom/Master/Daddy/Owners cock had actually been inside x number of girls before you?


I would find it depressing and disrespectful if he had a need to always remind me of that fact. I like to think I'm special to him and that he wouldn't have a reason to bring those girls into our relationship. Why would I want to constantly be reminded of who he's been with and where it's been?






Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: The depth of toys. (5/22/2011 9:16:55 PM)

This is what Slime in a can... None Halloween kind looks like! :-)

[image]local://upfiles/718516/70F999F2F1104592B289B5C66A7EE208.jpg[/image]



Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: The depth of toys. (5/22/2011 9:20:39 PM)

SLIME... fun for play all over the body! (use your imagination for a moment)

[image]local://upfiles/718516/2D1418DBCEB84EB9812D79CA9562F289.jpg[/image]



Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: The depth of toys. (5/22/2011 9:26:20 PM)

WOW... looks like somebody has made ADULT Slime! I just noticed the content of the link to the picture I shared on here.

http://technabob.com/blog/2008/10/09/slime-meets-aromatherapy-leaves-gooey-smelly-mess/






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