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Madame4a -> RE: new sub with some questions (6/1/2011 5:16:13 PM)
Well... thanks for the update.. and I'll add that my head is spinning with how quickly you changed your situation and are wearing the collar of another... glad you're happy quote: ORIGINAL: SexyBBWSub4myman Ok, I am the OP. I have moved on from that person I had been speaking of. I left the person that I was hiding my dark side from as well. I have since found a single person who I had been seeing for a while as a friend who so happened to be in the lifestyle. One weekend while I was there we decided to get intimate with each other. Then one morning that weekend he asked me if I would be willing to accept his collar. I told him that since I had know him for so long and already had built a trusting relationship with him I would be willing to accept his collar as he is also fairly new as well. So we are going on a journey together and I can't be happier right now. I also have talked with the one guys girlfriend and she know's about what happened. She was not mad at me. She was upset with him for not asking her is she wanted to have me as her pet before he decided to play around with me alone. I apologized to her and she was understanding with me. Thanks all. I don't think anyone needs to post any further as this should bring some closure to this initial post.

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: new sub with some questions (6/1/2011 6:03:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Madame4a Well... thanks for the update.. and I'll add that my head is spinning with how quickly you changed your situation and are wearing the collar of another... glad you're happy I concur. Happy, but for how long. When this relationship implodes, please stop and take a few weeks to think. You can live without a male in your life.

theRose4U -> RE: new sub with some questions (6/1/2011 6:13:19 PM)
If I read it correctly you're now in the collar of someone you've known for a while and the hidden girlfriend of your ex lover is now your friend and upset that her lover wasn't honest because SHE wanted you as well??? Ummm WOW!!! Are you by some chance a soap writer? Might look into it as a side occupation because I need a scorecard.

HeatherMcLeather -> RE: new sub with some questions (6/1/2011 7:52:56 PM)
quote: You can live without a male in your life. Of course you can! Up the E.L.F.!! As far as the update goes...wow 10 days!! I'd like to thinkI'd be a little more upset than that if a relationship went down the tubes.

hausboy -> RE: new sub with some questions (6/1/2011 10:28:08 PM)
whoa. I'm with Madame4a on this one.... you just got rid of not one, but two paramours... and you've already lined up another collar? You're changing men more often than I change...nevermind. well, you didn't ask for anyone's opinion on your new relationship. good luck. there are worse things than being single.

Arpig -> RE: new sub with some questions (6/1/2011 10:45:46 PM)
Holy revolving doors Batman!

tazzygirl -> RE: new sub with some questions (6/2/2011 3:00:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HeatherMcLeather quote: You can live without a male in your life. Of course you can! Up the E.L.F.!! As far as the update goes...wow 10 days!! I'd like to thinkI'd be a little more upset than that if a relationship went down the tubes. Im starting to understand why those relationships went down the tubes.

coookie -> RE: new sub with some questions (6/2/2011 6:37:42 AM)
So you decided cereal wasn't your thing. Pancakes is where its at but that maple syrup..hmm... shame though cause the icing sugar on top of maple syrup might have been nice. Oh well now you are committed to raspberry jam. You take relationships about as serious as most people take breakfast.

OsideGirl -> RE: new sub with some questions (6/2/2011 7:27:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SexyBBWSub4myman To me honesty is a huge factor in a relationship. And yet, you're in a relationship based on lies. And FYI, if he's willing to lie to a woman that is obviously more important than you, he'd be willing to lie to you.

sexyred1 -> RE: new sub with some questions (6/2/2011 7:35:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt quote: ORIGINAL: Madame4a Well... thanks for the update.. and I'll add that my head is spinning with how quickly you changed your situation and are wearing the collar of another... glad you're happy I concur. Happy, but for how long. When this relationship implodes, please stop and take a few weeks to think. You can live without a male in your life. Come now, you know some women cannot. You know how vulnerable us subs are; we need to have a new guy immediately. It is like a bus, one comes by every hour or so and you can get on every one but only one will get you to the right destination.

Iamsemisweet -> RE: new sub with some questions (6/2/2011 8:21:58 AM)
To be fair, the OPwas in the very beginning stages of a couple of potential relationships when she first posted. In other words, she was just dating, and at the getting to know you stage. So, no reason for a one year mourning period or anything when those ended. Of more concern is that she has now gotten collared by someone that she really doesn't know that well either. Personally, I think her earlier choices were healthier.

LafayetteLady -> RE: new sub with some questions (6/2/2011 9:04:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Iamsemisweet To be fair, the OPwas in the very beginning stages of a couple of potential relationships when she first posted. In other words, she was just dating, and at the getting to know you stage. So, no reason for a one year mourning period or anything when those ended. Of more concern is that she has now gotten collared by someone that she really doesn't know that well either. Personally, I think her earlier choices were healthier. You're right, the other two relationships were at the "getting to know you phase." However, the current one is with someone she has been friends with for a long time (how long "long" is, who knows). The only "unknown" now seems to be the BDSM part they are both new to and exploring together. I wish her well.

kalikshama -> RE: new sub with some questions (6/2/2011 9:58:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance If you want to be a lying, cheating, second-rate piece of ass - then you are on the right path. Otherwise, pull over and reprogram your internal GPS. [sm=cute.gif]

Iamsemisweet -> RE: new sub with some questions (6/2/2011 9:59:26 AM)
I know she mentioned she has been friends with the one guy for a while. Still, it seems a little impetuous to make a commitment after one wild weekend together, LOL. But, that could be just me. Some people just HAVE to be in a relationship. Thank god I am not one of those people.

thishereboi -> RE: new sub with some questions (6/2/2011 10:05:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SexyBBWSub4myman I am actually willing to do all of the above. As I have some hiding to do on my own. As I am not in a committed relationship. I do have a play partner I have to hide my darkside from. Me and the Dom I was talking about have both been totally honest with each other. To me honesty is a huge factor in a relationship. Thank you for responding to the post. You're a grown women and will do what you want no matter what anyone says. However please don't start a thread down the road complaining that he has lied to you...because he will. Now go have fun and hope she doesn't turn out to be some psycho that comes after you one dark night.

thishereboi -> RE: new sub with some questions (6/2/2011 10:12:34 AM)
quote: Well... thanks for the update.. and I'll add that my head is spinning with how quickly you changed your situation and are wearing the collar of another... glad you're happy Spinning right along with ya, but to each his own. I do wonder if she is still hiding her "dark side" what ever that means?

DeviantlyD -> RE: new sub with some questions (6/2/2011 10:08:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thishereboi quote: Well... thanks for the update.. and I'll add that my head is spinning with how quickly you changed your situation and are wearing the collar of another... glad you're happy Spinning right along with ya, but to each his own. I do wonder if she is still hiding her "dark side" what ever that means? I recall one user here whose "deep dark secret" was makin' it with another woman. [8\|]

Kaelloric -> RE: new sub with some questions (6/3/2011 8:00:43 PM)
So why don't you tell your other partner about your "Dark Side". In my experience, the root of hiding and lies is fear. More specifically, fear of rejection when it comes to this kind of thing in relationships. Do you think your partner would seriously tell you that they cannot accept you as a person because you have this kinky "Dark Side" that they can't deal with? If they did, then I'd leave that relationship. If they didn't, then its a wash of relief, and trust is built up one more layer. Perhaps they might surprise you because they may have been hiding a "Dark Side" of their own.... "OMG Did I ever tell you how much I liked (insert kink here)? I thought that telling you would scare you away..... " Imagine the possibilities.

Aynne88 -> RE: new sub with some questions (6/3/2011 8:10:16 PM)
Well...when I told my husband about my "dark side" he freaked. We are now divorced. Just saying.

willbeurdaddy -> RE: new sub with some questions (6/3/2011 8:14:09 PM)
FR There is no such thing as being "wrong" for "wanting something". If you are honest with YOURSELF about your needs and whether this relationship can meet them, don't spend your time second guessing yourself, spend your time on making it even better.

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