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Snappingfingers -> Online relationships - Long Distance (5/26/2011 9:01:16 PM)
I would be very interested in hearing what everyone thinks about long distance relationships which go on for a long time texting, or on phone? Who has had them where it has turned out successful? Thank you, Snappingfingers.

DarkSteven -> RE: Online relationships - Long Distance (5/26/2011 9:16:34 PM)
Welcome to collarme. I have not had good luck with them. The extra dimension of touch and being in the presence of another is just too intoxicating to do without. I have had a couple of relationships that began LDR and then she relocated here. But a relationship without a chance of being RL... I couldn't.

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Online relationships - Long Distance (5/26/2011 11:20:44 PM)
I spent the first two years of my relationship with the man who is now my husband in a LDR. We lived over 250 miles apart and only got to see each other for a weekend every couple of months. The rest of our contact was through phone, email, and instant messages. (This was before texting was popular.) I really don't think we would still be together if we hadn't done the long-distance thing first. Don't misunderstand; it was hard and we came close to breaking up more than once. However, by the time we were able to move in together, we knew our relationship could survive anything. We'll celebrate eight years together at the end of July.

sirssubk2008 -> RE: Online relationships - Long Distance (5/26/2011 11:22:36 PM)
I've tried LDRs before...it worked for a time. Overall, I don't think they work for most people.

Awareness -> RE: Online relationships - Long Distance (5/26/2011 11:26:02 PM)
It's usually monumentally infeasible and is more borne out of a wish than a reality. If you're not on the same continent and you enter into this nonsense, you're probably insane.

BKSir -> RE: Online relationships - Long Distance (5/26/2011 11:32:19 PM)
They are possible, and can be just as deep and meaningful as any other, from my experience. But at the same time, as DarkSteven said, it's far better if relocation is possible. I've been in a couple LDR/Online relationships for, up to 4+ years now others for 2ish. Some considerations and compromises have to be made of course, but, if one is willing to work with the situation (and it is far more difficult in many ways than a "traditional" relationship), it's well worth it.

myotherself -> RE: Online relationships - Long Distance (5/26/2011 11:39:25 PM)
I'm a masochist. LDRs in my own personal experience have sucked bit style. I get ZERO fun out of smacking myself about, even if someone else is directing me. If I'm in a relationship I want snuggles, cuddles and lots of bruises given to me by him. Oh, and lots of really hot, nasty sex. History has shown me that LDRs do not give me enough of any of that.

OwnedFemaleFlesh -> RE: Online relationships - Long Distance (5/26/2011 11:40:05 PM)
My Owner and I were long distance for the first year and a half, and then I moved to be with him 6 months ago. It can work, if you are willing to do a lot of traveling, but good communication is needed. owned xxx

LadyPact -> RE: Online relationships - Long Distance (5/27/2011 12:44:50 AM)
Let's see........ Long distance, huh? Well, I had a husband deployed to Korea. That kind of sucked. Then, My sub went to Afghanistan. That pretty much sucked, too. I'm not divorced and I've still got the sub, so I guess it was successful. Is that what you wanted to know?

ranja -> RE: Online relationships - Long Distance (5/27/2011 2:04:44 AM)
I have found that in a 'real time and in the same place' relationship you can feel like you are a million miles and numerous time zones appart and in a fantasy cyber on-line only thing you might be totally on the same wave length as your partner... the important part is to get something out of it whether it is skin to skin or in the mind only

HisEvelyn -> RE: Online relationships - Long Distance (5/27/2011 2:45:48 AM)
Master and I were LDR for more than a year. He has since moved across the country to be with me, and we are still together. It can work, but you have to work at it. It also helps if you both enjoy writing. :) Master and I spent many nights IM'ing back and forth for hours.

DesFIP -> RE: Online relationships - Long Distance (5/27/2011 4:13:44 AM)
We were ldr for almost four years, aimed at seeing each other every three weeks but it worked out to be closer to six. And one winter not for three months, as it snowed every time we planned to see each other. Then he got a transfer to near me and we've been together ever since. So my experiences, and everyone else's offer proof that it is not monumentally infeasible.

coookie -> RE: Online relationships - Long Distance (5/27/2011 8:09:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Awareness It's usually monumentally infeasible and is more borne out of a wish than a reality. If you're not on the same continent and you enter into this nonsense, you're probably insane. lol i am insane! Yay! N and i met at a time when neither of us really were ready for an offline relationship nor was there ever any plans of doing so. After 3 years we finally met. He came to canada from england a couple of times before moving here. Things were a bit tumultuous through the change but they are good. Different but good. So yes they can happen. I think both people have to be intensely mentally stimulated and have that affinity. Oh and it helps if you are insane.

LadyConstanze -> RE: Online relationships - Long Distance (5/27/2011 8:20:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Snappingfingers I would be very interested in hearing what everyone thinks about long distance relationships which go on for a long time texting, or on phone? Who has had them where it has turned out successful? Thank you, Snappingfingers. Raises hand... Wasn't even a BDSM board but a computer related board, we argued about different programming languages, he thought I was a guy, then a gay guy because I mentioned an ex boyfriend, then there was a geek meet and he offered to pick me up from the airport, said he'd wear a spiderman shirt. He was a bit surprised when I showed up and gave him a hug but not unpleasantly so (since it's Europe I didn't think he had a gun in his pocket), we clicked, we had a long distance relationship for a while with plenty of visits, then about 4 years ago I accepted to be transferred to the UK, we bought a house together and now have some pets and are quite happy. We occasionally argue but overall it's not all bad...

DomImus -> RE: Online relationships - Long Distance (5/27/2011 9:04:29 AM)
I am in a very successful long distance relationship. We live about 200 miles apart. We met online (IRC) about five and a half years ago. We chatted online and in email and texted for about three weeks (and with one short 10 minute phone call) before we met. The first week of that was really just chit chat - I think a week into it she asked if I would like to meet. For the week prior we were just two folks in a fetish chat room who hit it off in private messages. We had never spoken to one another "in channel" until she pm'ed me one evening. We would have met sooner but it was December and everything was so hectic around the holidays that we had to wait a few weeks. We see each other every other weekend on average. It's only a three hour or so drive - all interstate. We will eventually be together. For the time being we each have separate responsibilities in our separate states. Long distance relationships are obviously not for everyone but they can work. I think it's made our relationship stronger and also we really value the time that we are able to spend together. If you find someone for whom you will endure a long distance relationship for hang onto them. Tightly.

Lucylastic -> RE: Online relationships - Long Distance (5/27/2011 9:26:17 AM)
13 years so far

crazyml -> RE: Online relationships - Long Distance (5/27/2011 9:30:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Awareness It's usually monumentally infeasible and is more borne out of a wish than a reality. If you're not on the same continent and you enter into this nonsense, you're probably insane. This

SailingBum -> RE: Online relationships - Long Distance (5/27/2011 12:36:34 PM)
There are approximatively 4 million ppl within a 45 min drive of where I live I'd much rather exhaust the local supply of bitches before I went to plan z. Sit on the computer and type endlessly to someone I can't touch. I dare say most of these ppl that did the whole LDR thang were just to lazy to get out from behind the CPU and do the whole real life thing. It's far easier to sit on your fat ass and type to ppl than to actually go out be active, do fun stuff and gasp meet ppl. It comes as no surprise that something like 70 percent of good ole USA are fat. So you keep sitting round the puter eating chips while watching yourself get to be Good Year blimp size and let me know how the LDR thing works out for ya. BadOne

Lucylastic -> RE: Online relationships - Long Distance (5/27/2011 12:51:03 PM)
wrong, but dont let your ignorance get in the way of that dear chap

ParappaTheDapper -> RE: Online relationships - Long Distance (5/27/2011 1:02:41 PM)
Listen, long distance is a long shot but if you and your beloved are determined and tenacious and really in love, it can work out. If you can visualize it, you can actualize it. I'm a romantic at heart and I've always put my money on the long shots! Well that was a bald faced lie. I rarely if ever put my money on the long shot...I mean that's basically just throwing money away! Sometimes I do, sure, but it takes a pretty special case.... But I'm digressing. In all candor, I've had long distance relationships and none of them have ever "worked" in the sense that they turned out to be the love of my life. They have, however, all "worked" in the sense that we learned to communicate, had some good times, and grew a little bit together. Isn't that, ultimately, what relationships are all about? It requires extra work and a special skill set from both parties, but there is no reason a long distance relationship can't be an enriching experience! quote: ORIGINAL: Snappingfingers I would be very interested in hearing what everyone thinks about long distance relationships which go on for a long time texting, or on phone? Who has had them where it has turned out successful? Thank you, Snappingfingers.

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