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Icarys -> RE: Are doms and dommes looking for revenge on the sex that wronged them? (5/27/2011 7:18:40 AM)
quote: Are doms and dommes looking for revenge on the sex that wronged them? Yes this is absolutely true. It's the way I get back at all of those nasty bitches I've had in my life. I lure them in with kindness and pour it on for years all the while I'm secretly beating their asses out of hate for my exes. It sickens me to lavish love on them so much each and every day..I can barely take it.[:(]

LadyConstanze -> RE: Are doms and dommes looking for revenge on the sex that wronged them? (5/27/2011 7:27:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Tantriqu I love men. LOVE men. Love them, and only them. Nothing makes me happier than to be in the company of good men. And if they happen to get weak in the knees and become spontaneously erect when I nip their napes and whisper 'Good dog', so much the better. Don't confuse porn with reality. I don't do much pet play, but yes, I like men (hence being in a relationship with one for roughly 8 years), the fact that some of the things that turn me on turn him on guarantees pretty spectacular sex, if I wouldn't love him, I wouldn't be with him... The relationship is not about power, we earn both, we both pay part of the mortgage, we both pay the running costs, we both have disposable incomes and don't ask each other how we spend it (I know how he spends his, ha, the house is full with vintage guitars, amps and other toys), no power struggle, we discuss stuff like buying another property, buying new furniture and all that. As for no power in the real world, we're both professionals, both worked for major companies in positions that carried quite a bit of responsibility, both been headhunted a few times, now both self-employed and as a side business decided to pool our resources and start something together as our abilities are different but compliment each other. Since we're both not 12 anymore, sure we had other relationships and they didn't work out (shocking, I know, but we both weren't virgins when we met, sure we'll go to hell for that, I mean we were both in our late 20's when we met) or else we would still be with previous relationships, we both kissed some frogs and paid our dues, in short we grew up. Big deal, didn't think that counts as abuse... We have a life, BDSM is part of that life as it excites us both - makes us more compatible, win/win...

angelikaJ -> RE: Are doms and dommes looking for revenge on the sex that wronged them? (5/27/2011 7:29:12 AM)
Oddly enough (from the OP's perspective), my Master is someone who loves women. I love that he knows so much about them. I have actually learned so much about being a woman and what is "normal" as it pertains to that. He is sensitive about things like cramps and has fewer issues with period related stuff than I did.

OsideGirl -> RE: Are doms and dommes looking for revenge on the sex that wronged them? (5/27/2011 7:33:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist However, that stereotype makes up a very small percentage of the Dom/mes in the leather community. You will find an equal number of their counterparts in the vanilla world. Exactly!

crazyml -> RE: Are doms and dommes looking for revenge on the sex that wronged them? (5/27/2011 7:40:16 AM)
[ED for screwup] quote: ORIGINAL: ParappaTheDapper quote: ORIGINAL: PhilSlave Or is it something else, a need for power that they don't have in reality? I'm only talking about the type of Dom/Domme who actually believes their rhetoric. Well God knows I am! The sex that wronged me is men, by picking me last for basketball every day at recess years ago. The way I get revenge is by being as awesome with women as possible! ETA Plus I'm pretty awesome at basketball now! Mr Dapper, I salute you. Awesome post.

VaguelyCurious -> RE: Are doms and dommes looking for revenge on the sex that wronged them? (5/27/2011 7:42:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy Then you throw in the woman that has managed to be raped a half dozen times and all of the other walking disasters and the op isn't half cocked. Domi, you seem to have a particular bugbear about female victims of sexual assault. UK govt statistics says that 21% of girls will have experienced sexual abuse as a child, and 28% of women will have experienced either sexual assault or rape as an adult. Does that mean you think none of them are allowed to engage in relationships afterwards at all? Or just that none of them are allowed to be kinky afterwards? That's quite a lot of the population for you to be morally policing.

sexyred1 -> RE: Are doms and dommes looking for revenge on the sex that wronged them? (5/27/2011 7:45:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009 quote: ORIGINAL: PhilSlave Or is it something else, a need for power that they don't have in reality? I'm only talking about the type of Dom/Domme who actually believes their rhetoric. As soon as I read the title of the thread, I knew who had posted it. [8\|] Me too. OP, you really need to stay away from all this until you get over whatever hurt you have experienced. You make so many snarky comments about people involved in this and while some of what you ask is relevant and applies to some in every category, the overriding tone is one of negativity.

sexyred1 -> RE: Are doms and dommes looking for revenge on the sex that wronged them? (5/27/2011 7:49:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kana 2-Let's get this straight-I love and adore women...I just also happen to like hearing them grovel and scream. I grew up surrounded by strong, passionate, uber successful women who I, to this day, admire and respect tremendously. I don't bear any animosity towards an exes. Hell, if I examine most of my past relationships, I tend to see a whole lot more fault on my part than theirs. I wish almost all of them the best and root for them to succeed in life and for their dreams to come true. I've attended their weddings, met their new men, had them cry on my shoulders sometimes years after we broke up. Most I still love, it's just that the love has changed form from a sexual thing to a deep friendship that has survived the battering and trails of time and personalities. You know, real friendship. I come from the best family a guy could ask for-supportive, loving, would do anything for the kids.I don't hate my Mom-she's my best friend-a rock in my life that I can always turn too, and that's kinda cool. I don't hate my Sisters-they didn't torment me or any such nonsense-they treated me with kindness and consideration and set a very high standard for those who followed behind them-a standard I am grateful for. So I don't know what kind of wingnut whacky crap the OP is fishing for (Sounds like an implication that folks are dominant because they are all FUBAR (Son, I got news for you-all people are FUBAR, it's the state of the human condition) which I find absurdly shallow and a sophomoric cliche) but whatever it is, you ain't finding it in moi. Maybe, just maybe, I like doing what I do because that's the way I'm wired. It's who and what I am, which frankly is how I've always seen it. For me, BDSM isn't a lifestyle, it's not a game I play, it's not some clothes I wear once a week at The Crucible (Alas, now defunct), it's an holistic and natural extension of my base personality. Ever consider that? Apply Occam's razor-look for the simplest possible solution and usually that will be the right one. And this is why we love Kana.

coookie -> RE: Are doms and dommes looking for revenge on the sex that wronged them? (5/27/2011 7:59:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PhilSlave Or is it something else, a need for power that they don't have in reality? I'm only talking about the type of Dom/Domme who actually believes their rhetoric. No ... why are you thinking of becoming a dominant? I think, personally, that you have too many issues to be a successful dominant. Work on those and come back in a year when you are more at peace with yourself.

angelikaJ -> RE: Are doms and dommes looking for revenge on the sex that wronged them? (5/27/2011 8:01:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy *Then you throw in the woman that has managed to be raped a half dozen times* and all of the other walking disasters and the op isn't half cocked. Domi, you seem to have a particular bugbear about female victims of sexual assault. UK govt statistics says that 21% of girls will have experienced sexual abuse as a child, and 28% of women will have experienced either sexual assault or rape as an adult. Does that mean you think none of them are allowed to engage in relationships afterwards at all? Or just that none of them are allowed to be kinky afterwards? That's quite a lot of the population for you to be morally policing. It kind of reads (to my perception) that he sees sexual assault as being their fault somehow.

crazyml -> RE: Are doms and dommes looking for revenge on the sex that wronged them? (5/27/2011 8:01:42 AM)
There are two possible replies that spring to mind, so I'll give you both.. Reply 1 - Perhaps a better question would be "Are the trolls that ask asinine and pseudo-provocative questions in need of a good slap?". I mean, what sort of sad pathetic life can someone lead if they have to come to a board and take the piss in order to feel "actualised". Reply 2 - I think there are quite a few self proclaimed "Doms" on CollarMe that are basically compensating for a deep seated lack of confidence, not that many post on the boards (and those that do don't usually have the best time. So if you're having a dig (as suggested by your "rhetoric" reference, then sure there are some - You know, the type that calls himself "LORDBLAH" and stops around spouting "one true way" bollocks. Some of the sections of this part of the site are more full of this type of jackass than others, but I don't think they're in the majority by any means. But, for many Doms it's simply the way they are wired. I wan't bullied at school (although a couple of the bullies did try to... once.) I have a wonderful relationship with my Mumsy, and I believe that potty training went swimmingly for me. I came to identify as dom as a result of being "outed" as a Dom by a sub girlfriend when I was in my 20's. ------------- I can't say for sure which reply is most appropriate for you (I'll confess that I have a hunch though), but I'll leave it up to you and your introspection to make the call.

mnottertail -> RE: Are doms and dommes looking for revenge on the sex that wronged them? (5/27/2011 8:03:12 AM)
Yeah, I could feature a scene like that.

COURTNEYCOX -> RE: Are doms and dommes looking for revenge on the sex that wronged them? (5/27/2011 8:49:15 AM)
In a way I would have to say yes. I sometimes get my strength and power from what happened to me to be my drive and motivation. Now I don't agree that it is alwaysthe case with every domme, but I can not totally leave that factor out.

domiguy -> RE: Are doms and dommes looking for revenge on the sex that wronged them? (5/27/2011 8:50:01 AM)
Sorry. try again, you hos. I made it very clear, it was the woman that has been repeatedly raped. I believe I said, "a half dozen times." understand? Now Scram!! ...But first suck my dick, you dumb hos.

VaguelyCurious -> RE: Are doms and dommes looking for revenge on the sex that wronged them? (5/27/2011 8:51:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy Sorry. try again, you hos. I made it very clear, it was the woman that has been repeatedly raped. I believe I said, "a half dozen times." understand? Now Scram!! ...But first suck my dick, you dumb hos. Sure, I understand - that's what you said this time. But I've seen you say stuff like this before in a more general sense. Much as it kills me to say this to you: I can haz serious answer pls?

strangedesire -> RE: Are doms and dommes looking for revenge on the sex that wronged them? (5/27/2011 9:00:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: poise Maybe one day, he can stop wondering how others can be so happy living their lives, and learn to start living his own. Well said. I'm going to go and snuggle my girlfriend now.

HannahLynHeather -> RE: Are doms and dommes looking for revenge on the sex that wronged them? (5/27/2011 9:37:01 AM)
nah, sorry buckwheat. men have "wronged" me, and i don't do men except for casual sex. women on the other hand, mmmmmmmmmmmm, yes, those i do. i submit to women and i dominate women. holy shit, fuck me up the butt christ! he's right!! i have all this hot wild perverted sex with women as a way of getting back at men. they can't have any of it anymore, they have to sit in their mum's basement jerking off thinking about my adventures. the guy is perceptive, profound, insightful...and just a little deluded. take a few pills dude, any old pills, just swallow a handful of them and wash them down with a fifth of jack. be sure to let us know how it goes bucky hannah lynn

HannahLynHeather -> RE: Are doms and dommes looking for revenge on the sex that wronged them? (5/27/2011 9:43:38 AM)
quote: But first suck my dick, you dumb hos. don't be such a needy little boycunt, be calm, relax. somewhere out there is a girl stupid enough to fall for your patter, and when you find her you'll finally find out what its like to get your dick sucked. hannah lynn

HannahLynHeather -> RE: Are doms and dommes looking for revenge on the sex that wronged them? (5/27/2011 9:47:55 AM)
quote: Sure, I understand - that's what you said this time. But I've seen you say stuff like this before in a more general sense. personally i think he hates victims of sexual assault because he secretly wishes he had the balls to do the assaults instead of jerking off thinking about it. he hates us because we didn't stay pure for his fantasies, we've been sullied now, and it must be our fault, we didn't wait for his high dominess to come along and rape us. hannah lynn

DesFIP -> RE: Are doms and dommes looking for revenge on the sex that wronged them? (5/27/2011 10:01:20 AM)
Random thoughts I admire poise for her ability to be polite to the op despite the way he begs to be bitchslapped. Of course refusing to do that and not giving him the taste of humiliation he craves could be construed as the sadistic thing to do. No? But the op shows such self hatred, such conflict about his own desires, that I have never before seen. And we've seen a lot of that around here. I can't help but wonder though, what happens when Kana meets another man just like himself. Because the way he describes himself is how The Man is, to the letter. I'm sort of wondering, if they met, would the world explode or something? .

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