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needlesandpins -> RE: i have stated my boundaries, yet He keeps getting upset. (5/29/2011 1:17:51 PM)
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ORIGINAL: LikesEmYoungNHng
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ORIGINAL: needlesandpins
usually i agree alot with julia, where i disagree here is where she says you are very young. you are not, you are thirty and asking questions like an 18yr old with no experiance. from what you say of this guy, and so i'm only going by what you say, he sounds like an arse getting his rocks off. if you are looking for a D/s relationship then i don't see a) what he is teaching you b) what you are getting out of this. and c) under consideration for what exactly?
i mean, is this purely an online/phone thing or are you under consideration to live with him? if so why haven't you met already?
i'm sorry to say that at the moment, as harsh as it sounds, it's coming over to me that all you are is wank fodder. he has no respect for your circumstances or the way that makes you feel. i'm all for having my guy pushing my bounderies, but he knows me quite well after nearly three years but he also knows where to stop and that some things are just out of bounds altogether.
you need someone who respects you more than their next hand job.
needles
i have no experience. i am 30 but am very new, so my questions come from a learning perspective.
it makes no difference. being owned does not mean being miserable and doing things you don't want to do. so learn to be strong and only give yourself to someone who deserves it. so far this guy just needs a kick in the cunt to make him listen. at the moment he's only thinking with his cock, most certainly not about your best interests.
there are plenty more where he came from. at the moment he's guilting you into trying to please him. i don't see what you are getting out of that.
ask yourself this; would you do this in a vanilla relationship? if not then why would it be different just because it's D/s? be stronger. tell him there are plenty more where he came from. he's not the only one who will give you what you want. but at the moment you are letting him do what he wants at your expence.
decide exactly what you want, lay it out exactly and if he can't do that then he's not what you want. hge can't turn it on you and say you are being bad. he's the one being bad and showing no respect for your boundaries. tell him that some things are a hard limit and sex on the phone with your family there is one of them. ask him if he would do the same, if he would i'd have serious doubts about him anyway.
needles
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