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LadyHugs -> RE: protection collar? (5/16/2006 3:53:32 PM)
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Dear Wulfchyld, Ladies and Gentlemen;
I am in agreement with your first paragraph, to which to your amazement, as well as mine frankly; that the "collar of protection" is a tool of rape and plunder.
I do have close ties and associations to many individuals who are scene notables, authors, title holders, leaders of groups, organizations, speakers, presenters, trainers, lifestyle Masters, Mistresses like me, slaves, here and abroad. I don't use them to justify myself or give weight to my words. My friends, associates and I have earned our leathers properly and do not shove it up everybody's face but, we have all come to the agreement; that people are the problem when it comes to abuse of others. However, vigilante mentality, attitude and behavior like everybody is ready to rape, plunder, kill and or injure, fanatics; that I seem to see manifested by some; is not the answer, especially when it comes from an opposite coast who have no standing, in organizations, groups, clubs, etc.
It clearly must be said, it is not a "collar" issue but, more of a "people" problem. If individuals have an evil intent to use, abuse others--they will do so and that is that. On the other side of it all, there are those who have ethics, high standards and a sense of duty; to which such people as you and I, just wish to give a hand up--not a hand out.
I've seen people, that should know better, give presentations and lectures preach on anti-abuse and, behind closed doors do exactly as they preached was wrong, sometimes worse.
Individuals will be on their best behavior in public. In private, they are not watched and that is when those who do not practice what they preach on, anti-abuse, anti-rape, anti-plunder the loudest are the ones behind closed doors who do the very same thing they preach against in a most fantanic manner. I remember the 'fire and brimstone' preachers taking a 'holier then thou' stand; these same sort were romping around committing the very thing they preached against; e.g. J. Baker, James Fallwell, Jessie Jackson, Al Sharpton, etc.
When a Master friend of mine was on his death bed, his slave and I at his side; had an un-collaring ceremony among ourselves. The Master before this ceremony began, said his piece with his slave and his slave was so upset and so lost, emotions understood. The Master gifted his slave to me. Now, this could be a "transfer" of ownership, protection and or any meaning but, it is the intent of such an act that has meaning. The slave knew me and was fond of me but; he would not have ever chosen me as his Master on his own. I knew my ownership was a temporary one until we found a new Master for the slave. The dying Master knew this "intent" and "purpose." However, the slave would be slave to me until that time. The Master un-collared his slave. His slave bare neck. But, he was "transfered" to me. Now, days it could be considered as a "protection" collar but, in my mind's eye and of the time this took place; it was a slave collar period. To see some of the responses, one would think it was a thing of ugliness instead of the beauty of continuity. This makes me truly sad.
There is an emotional feeling, when a collar is placed on a slave and or submissive's neck. Just as much as there is to the one who places it on the neck.
I do see how the "protection" collar works, the "training" collar works. Each collaring situation should be respected as an individual case-by-case basis. If it works for them--wonderful. If it doesn't, at least they gave it a try and have learned from it. But, it is of a concern how some have become disrespectful of the rainbow variety of opinions. There is no right or wrong--Who are we to judge, unless we be judged. The whole thought on community, is that our goals are to seek our happiness in a safe, consensual manner that is respectful of the whole relationship. As a dominant woman, a member in good standing--my only wish and or desire, is to share my experiences to which I found my happiness for many years at a time. I would enjoy seeing others being just as successful and happy. That said, it would be unrealistic if I didn't share all the sadness also.
But, as you have written, as have others-- There are so many good individuals then bad. Again, it is the few bad actors that give the good of the lifestyle a "black eye."
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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