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Honestly I a so damn tired of seeing all this BS about "treat me with respect and get to know me" on your profiles!! Why it is when a guy does try to do that 9/10 females ignore him?? I am really tired of getting deleted and ignored but yet 9/10 ten females also bitch about guys that come at them like billy badass! So if you will please....... Tell me what is going on here?? 
To address your actual question, a lot of submissive women with ads on Collarme look for any reason or excuse to reject a man who writes them.
Right. It couldn't be that the emails we all get are inappropriate, or just not appealing to us. Because, ya know, no one is allowed to have preferences in your world.
The majority do this, I personally believe, because they are giddy on the power trip of all these male dominants supplicating them for attention and trying to catch their eye. They love the feeling of rejecting somebody: it makes them feel powerful and special and far more attractive than the probably are in real life.
Speak for yourself. I am sorry you don't feel attractive or powerful enough and have to project this insecurity onto other women.
Nowhere in real life does a woman get the quantity of flattering attention that she gets on an online dating site.
Again, speak for yourself. Are you nuts? I have been getting attention since puberty in real life as do my friends. You do realize you are speaking of yourself and projecting, right?
All that flattery all too frequently goes to a submissive woman's head and she forgets that she's actually on here to find a man to control her.
Right. And your way is everyone's way. Everyone is here because of an assumption that you have made. Cool.
No matter how well-written your email is, a good majority of these women will find a way to reject it because of this intense inflation of ego that's going on.
Sure, and it couldn't be things like...oh I don't know, being too far away, not meeting specific needs like being married or wanting poly, or a myriad of other factors.
They'll nitpick it until they find one tiny thing: a misspelled word (the guy must be an illiterate idiot), an approach that was too aggressive, that wasn't aggressive enough, that was just right but he didn't mention my favorite fetish right off the bat so we must not be compatible, etc. ad nauseum.
Again, perhaps you reply to every email that you get and you find every man who writes you to be potentially perfect for you. Good for you. Some women are actually discerning.
I believe the profile itself, which has become the focus of this thread, is fairly irrelevant, but I suppose it wouldn't hurt to pay some attention to it. If you really are writing nice emails to submissives that attempt to get to know them, chances are your lack of success is, in part, the bitches' faults, not yours.
I love it; the women are all bitches for having preferences. You are batting a thousand here, sparky.
Their overweening pride at their "popularity" will often cause them to reject even men who would be perfect for them.
I find it interesting that you keep harping on feeling popular on a website. Most intelligent people realize that no amount of online attention is worth anything. Really. The only attention that is valid is the one you receive from someone you are interested enough in to actually meet in real life. Perhaps you only live your life online so this is news to you.
You would have to be a vapid, insecure sad person indeed to get your validation from anonymous emails on a kink site or any dating site.
Nevertheless, if I were you I'd follow some of the suggestions made here to improve your profile. If you ignore the nastiness with which the suggestions have been delivered, and look for the repeating pattens (i.e. there were a lot of comments about exclamation points) you will find the lowest common denominator of things that people find "difficult" or off-putting about the profile. I do think this is secondary, however, and that even after you clean up the profile, you're still going to get little to no response. It's just that bad here.
Then why are you here if it is so bad?
There are lots of ways to catch a submissive woman's attention and stand out. Sometimes these techniques are talked about in "Ask a Submissive" in threads with keywords like "email" in them.
Finally, some helpful advice to the OP without bashing the entire submissive female population.
Asking questions a good technique and makes you stand out from the crowd. Read each profile you write to and ask a few interesting specific questions about it. Ask things that you think would be fun to answer if you were her, not boring things or obvious questions comments that anybody would think of to ask. Don't forget humor, when you can pull it off. It relaxes the reader and make even start her liking you. Women tend to appreciate men who seem "different" from the other men around them, so anything you can think of to say that will not be the standard ordinary stuff that that anyone would think to say to her is also good. It takes practice to become non-obvious or non-cookie-cutter "sounds the same as all the rest" in an email, but it can be mastered with practice.
Well, that was fun.
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Im just not a bitch because of a few men that I turn down... repeatedly... after telling them over and over that I am in a relationship.
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