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TreasureKY -> RE: Building Self Esteem (6/4/2011 1:00:51 PM)
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ORIGINAL: peachgirl
My question is, what is your most valuable tool in your emotional strongbox that helps you build self-esteem?
Self-esteem, to me, is basically liking myself just as much when I'm alone, as when I'm with a crowd of friends.
Tools I've used in the past to improve my self-esteem when I needed it were:- Think about why I like the people I like, and then look for those traits in myself. If I'm lacking them, determine if they are something that I can grow or acquire to my own benefit.
- Think about what I like about myself and why. Look for opportunities to recognize, reinforce, and enhance those things in a beneficial manner.
- Think about what I don't like about myself and ask myself why. Determine if correcting those things is realistically possible, and if so, set goals to achieve what I can.
- Take the time to appreciate those things I like about myself and to celebrate when I make progress toward my goals.
- Recognize that while some things are outside of my ability today... that doesn't mean that it will always be that way.
- Weigh my likes and dislikes about myself. If I find that I'm placing far more emphasis on a few dislikes rather than the many likes, I make an effort to bring myself to a more realistic balance.
By far, however, the most valuable tool I've found is the ability to be honest with myself. Without it, the other tools are useless.
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