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RE: Building Self Esteem - 6/4/2011 12:55:11 PM

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I think you can change what you think, which changes the way you view things, which changes the way you feel about things. That's been my experience. The things that used to scare and anger me no longer do, because it wasn't in my best interest to be scared and angered by those things. I look at life differently now, so my reactive feelings are different.

This isn't to say I never get scared or angry, but those feelings are more appropriately placed now.

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RE: Building Self Esteem - 6/4/2011 1:00:51 PM

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ORIGINAL: peachgirl

My question is, what is your most valuable tool in your emotional strongbox that helps you build self-esteem?

Self-esteem, to me, is basically liking myself just as much when I'm alone, as when I'm with a crowd of friends.

Tools I've used in the past to improve my self-esteem when I needed it were:

Think about why I like the people I like, and then look for those traits in myself. If I'm lacking them, determine if they are something that I can grow or acquire to my own benefit.
Think about what I like about myself and why. Look for opportunities to recognize, reinforce, and enhance those things in a beneficial manner.
Think about what I don't like about myself and ask myself why. Determine if correcting those things is realistically possible, and if so, set goals to achieve what I can.
Take the time to appreciate those things I like about myself and to celebrate when I make progress toward my goals.
Recognize that while some things are outside of my ability today... that doesn't mean that it will always be that way.
Weigh my likes and dislikes about myself. If I find that I'm placing far more emphasis on a few dislikes rather than the many likes, I make an effort to bring myself to a more realistic balance.

By far, however, the most valuable tool I've found is the ability to be honest with myself. Without it, the other tools are useless.

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RE: Building Self Esteem - 6/4/2011 1:54:47 PM

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Yay! for that whole answer Treasure. It was the more detailed version of what I wanted to say.

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