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merrymasochist -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/14/2006 9:03:12 AM)
Reading, crosswords, blowing soap bubbles, flying kites, swimming, paper airplane racing, sailing, origami, cross-stitching, telling myself stories, writing, walking, people watching, bicycling, puzzle games and as ever, usually learning something new.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/14/2006 10:33:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistyMenthal How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? Even for those when it IS 24/7 doesn't mean we don't do other things and like to relax in non-kinky ways. I organize and go to a lot of Firefly/Serenity events, go to movies, spoil my nephews, hang out online, talk on the phone and occasional crafty things.

KnightofMists -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/14/2006 11:09:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistyMenthal How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? I know some people here live the lifestyle 24/7. But for the ones who don't, what relaxes You when You need it the Most! Massage, Jaquzzi, Swiming, Reading. etc. KISS ME Misty Living 24/7 doesn't mean that you are doing BDSM 24/7. I do have to sleep sometime.... and I don't think my girls butt could stand to be beaten continuely the rest of the time either. I think it higly likely that most if not all of us take time out from BDSM activities and just unwind alittle or alot. reading, carpenter work, movies, sleep!! basking in the sun and doing some reading!!! that is my favorite!

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/14/2006 11:43:04 AM)
Reading,chess,pool,poker,shoe shopping,pedicures/manicures,DVDs,family and friends.....Tempting

gentlethistle -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/14/2006 11:43:53 AM)
I love being among growing things, and it's very important to me to be able to have a space of some kind in which I can tend plants....even if it's just a balcony garden, or indoor pot plants or doing volunteer work outdoors. Thankfully I now have my own plot, a space I can arrange as I choose and I get a great deal of pleasure from just being there as well as doing things...although usually looking becomes doing because there's always something needs taking care of. Reading is a great escape as well, a chance to be in another world. I've been unwinding today by sitting on a lounger and reading among my plants.... Laura

denika -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/14/2006 11:50:20 AM)
Reading,more reading s writing, cross-stitch,visiting with friends, sitting on my deck on a sunny day or even a rainy day, my porch swing has a cover and just enjoying the veiw and the sound of birds and frogs. Dancing (I have absolutly no rythm but it's still fun s) fencing, playing with the many pets, watching movies, pretty much anything on the History channel and cross word puzzles denika

Mistrix -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/14/2006 1:35:58 PM)
I acutally have to DO things to get BDSM OFF my mind. I love to jog but sometimes when I am listening to my tunes and jogging a good song comes on and I start thinking BDSM again. Is it true that men think of sex every 7 seconds? If so, I think of BDSM every 7 seconds too...lmao. Even when I'm painting, dancing, cleaning, and I have actually DREAMED of it. Such is a GOOD life. Being a single mom, BDSM comes in my mind when I am discipling my boys. Little do they know of course, but when does it stop??? Or do I want it to stop? NAH....[;)]

ArchangelMichael -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/14/2006 3:44:33 PM)
I prefer things that require mental stimulation. I generally watch TV shows that make you think, such as Lost and House M.D. I read and play video games (normally strategy games or RPG's). I also like a good story. I also roleplay. Yes, I'm a dice-chucker. I also do live-action roleplay, which is a lot like improvisational acting. I sometimes dress up for it, too. I'm not much into online roleplaying, however. I prefer direct interaction with other human beings. A few times a year, I go to sci-fi/fantasy and anime conventions. I also enjoy a good movie in the theater or a DVD at home. It's also nice to take some quiet time at a local coffee shop just relaxing and enjoying the moment or reading a book. I either read fiction (sci-fi/fantasy or mystery) or non-fiction that covers psychology, philosophy, science, and spirituality.

Sinergy -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/14/2006 8:16:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shygirldesires but then some girls demand to be caged 24/7... Hello A/all, I posted this before, but I think it bears repeating. What exactly is submissive about a person kept safe and warm and fed and entertained in a steel cage, while I am out cooking, cleaning, working, defending the free world from Al Qaeda, trying to get a non-cretin elected to political office (logical impossibility, like sailing your boat down the Interstate 405 freeway, but work with me), etc., etc., ad nauseum? Just me, could be wrong, but there you go. Sinergy

ArchangelMichael -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/14/2006 8:37:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sinergy quote: ORIGINAL: shygirldesires but then some girls demand to be caged 24/7... Hello A/all, I posted this before, but I think it bears repeating. What exactly is submissive about a person kept safe and warm and fed and entertained in a steel cage, while I am out cooking, cleaning, working, defending the free world from Al Qaeda, trying to get a non-cretin elected to political office (logical impossibility, like sailing your boat down the Interstate 405 freeway, but work with me), etc., etc., ad nauseum? Just me, could be wrong, but there you go. Sinergy I think it's more the pet mindset. If you own a dog or a cat, you keep them, pet them, feed them, etc. It's the humiliation factor of being treated as an animal or object that works for the both the Master and pet in this instance. Being a pet does have submissive factors involved. You can discipline them just as you would whack your dog with a newspaper if he peed on the couch. Just because someone is submissive, this doesn't mean they have to be the one doing the housework. That's a service submissive. I see being a pet a different animal, if you'll excuse the pun. Do 24/7 pony slaves clean the house or do they live in the stable and provide entertainment to their Master or Mistress by pulling carts and being ridden? Each Dominant has their own different needs regarding a submissive. If you need a submissive who does domestic work, that's great. That's what you should have. But that doesn't work for everyone. As an aside note, I found it funny that I was typing about pony slaves and there was this segment on Robot Chicken about the My Little Ponies of the Apocalypse. [:D]

slaverosebeauty -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/14/2006 8:44:10 PM)
As of late I have been doing about 3 or 4 cross-stitch projects a week in the evenings while my munchkin watches tv; I play with [and torment] my munchkin; read; research; write; bubble baths; watch moves; listen to the radio; daydream; write letters; meditate; bake.

UtopianRanger -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/15/2006 1:02:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistyMenthal How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? I know some people here live the lifestyle 24/7. But for the ones who don't, what relaxes You when You need it the Most! Massage, Jaquzzi, Swiming, Reading. etc. KISS ME Misty Depends on the mood and what part of the day it is. An intense workout, paddeling down a chaotic waterway, or reading before I go to sleep, all do the trick and take me away! [;)] - R

WichitaDomFem -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/15/2006 1:50:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistyMenthal How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? I know some people here live the lifestyle 24/7. But for the ones who don't, what relaxes You when You need it the Most! Massage, Jaquzzi, Swiming, Reading. etc. KISS ME Misty Ahh relaxing and unwinding, One of my favorite gifts to myself. I enjoy reading a good book which may or may not be about BDSM ;-) listening to Kokin Aumis Zen Garden cd while I'm haveing a cup of coffee on a Sunday morning. I indulge myself with a pedi cure and massage which may be given to me by my slave or at the spa down the street. A dip in my hot tub, A walk in the park or staying in bed a extra hour giving my cat Osirus some extra TLC. I can think of several ways to unwind, these are just a few that are at the top of my list.

shivvy -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/15/2006 2:37:34 AM)
ironing.... i unwind by ironing [:D] sad, i know - lol or if i'm feeling sad, or down, then i just go and watch my daughter sleep, or even just lay on her bed next to her and snuggle up... that really helps me sometimes[:-]

shivvy -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/15/2006 2:41:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slaverosebeauty As of late I have been doing about 3 or 4 cross-stitch projects a week... <shock!> a WEEK? i've been on the same one since before christmas! lol (mind you, i have had to unpick bits a few times[&o]) Taking Kel ova the park and playing with her is another good way or relaxing and unwinding[:)]

Dustyn -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/15/2006 3:56:05 AM)
How do I unwind? Never really unwind completely... sometimes, I go grab a beer, go for a walk, read a book... draw, sketch, paint.... make chainmail... most of the time, I just do whatever I feel like, within limits... but then again, bdsm rarely consumes more than a couple hours of my life at a time these days, but a lack of anyone worth playing with could have something to do with that... - Dustyn

MHOO314 -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/15/2006 3:58:29 AM)
Horses! We have three and we are always at the stable, grooming and riding, I love sharing that with My teen.

Hawksgirldove -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/15/2006 6:05:04 AM)
Being 24/7 has nothing to do with being in the mood, or played with all the time. I have been collared and owned to the same man for nearly 6 yrs now. Ms is a dynamic in which we live in. however, we do have to LIVE. Dishes has to be done, laundry, cat box cleaned, floors mopped, gardens tended to, etc. I could not realistically be bound to a bedd, on my knees, or caged all day. No work would get done, muscle tone would fail, body functions would take over.....yuck. However i do know that as a full time slave, and having other friends like myself, that we too get tired, or burnt out from a rough day at work (even if we work from home) Just like everyone else does... whether they are full or part-time participants of the lifestyle. So some relaxing things for me are to do my yago, meditate,read, hang out with friends for an afternoon (with Sir's permission of course) read lists such as these and others, write in my journal, or creatively, work on my blog, take my dog for a walk, hang out and chat with my daughter, go fishing, get creative with my art, cook, watch a movie, sing when i drive, ride on the back of Sir's motorcycle, listen to music, take bubble bath.... loose myself in the moment.

mistoferin -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/15/2006 6:15:08 AM)
Hi. Great to see you on the boards dove!!!!

ownedgirlie -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/15/2006 7:37:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sinergy quote: ORIGINAL: shygirldesires but then some girls demand to be caged 24/7... Hello A/all, I posted this before, but I think it bears repeating. What exactly is submissive about a person kept safe and warm and fed and entertained in a steel cage, while I am out cooking, cleaning, working, defending the free world from Al Qaeda, trying to get a non-cretin elected to political office (logical impossibility, like sailing your boat down the Interstate 405 freeway, but work with me), etc., etc., ad nauseum? Just me, could be wrong, but there you go. Sinergy Well, there is nothing submissive about demanding, but aside from that terminology, I agree with ArchangelMichael that it's about the mindset. Being caged can be humbling, humiliating, degrading, and it can prompt the submissive/slave to contemplate her(his) role and place. It can also cause the submissive to feel protected and cared for. As for the OP, I am always a slave and therefore my slavery to my Master is always on my mind. This certainly does not mean I am serving him physically/sexually at all times, as I think your question suggested. But I do serve him in all I do, as he expects me to develop and exercise my mind, and to do well at work and in school. He expects me to have a well rounded life, with friends and family and culture and new experiences.

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